I have a question to ladies who dated their client. When did you disclose your real name?
I decided to risk it and go on a date with a client next week. He basically wants to get to know me and spend some non-sexy time lol
He knows me by my work name, have my work phone number and knows my working story about me. I don't want to be my hoe self there as I would like him to get to know ME. But on the other hand I'm a bit uneasy with the idea of disclosing  my true identity. How do you deal with that?

Also, he booked me in a few weeks time for escort meet. I think its his way to say "I'll still pay you as I'm not here for free sex". It reassured me he is genuine but then, if he will know my real name and me, how the hell I'll do this booking. My work and private life was always strictly divided. Now it's getting confused, so am I...

I've recently switched a client to FWB and have told him my real first name, but not my second (which is very unusual).

He was told clearly that there won’t be any freebies unless it’s a relationship. He was asked whether he is looking for one or is open to have one, and a wishy washy response was received how “his head isn’t in the right place”.

This punter followed up asking to see me “just as friends for now and nothing physical” or offered to continue paying (declined as too awkward for me now). Asked if the days I am off remain the same “for future reference”.

Haven’t heard from him since and it’s been days. He’s busier looking at aw (yes you can see last login of a user)

So I gave up on this one. 🤷‍♀️

I did message on this thread before about being in a relationship and it had been the first I had been in properly since starting sw. We ended up breaking up but I can honestly say it was unrelated to my work but now I have split I find myself working more and I am generally more organised and focused. I think a relationship while escorting is more than possible but you need to be able to have really good time management and openness in regards to seeing that person.

Understanding is also a big thing as well, I work long hours and most evenings I'm not really available. When I used to get home I used to say to the ex 'I don't really want to see another cock today  ' so hugs were readily on tap thankfully 

I think in reality its good to be realistic about what you want in a relationship and I also would say that finding someone else who also works for themselves helps because I sometimes felt like I was single half the time because I would do a lot on my own during my free time.

In conclusion, relationships require work and openness for them to be successful and being in a relationship while escorting is going to add strain but its not to do with the job itself/stigma, I found it was about my focus running a business and still offering my time at times that not many people can socialise that maybe made it more difficult in the long run.

I find free sex feels really tame to me. Also not many men are good in the sack to start with. Then they want to see you more than monthly which is just way too often for me.I

I had a friend who wanted to see somebody two or three times a week. It sounded like prison to me!

An ex reappeared recently and when I told him I could only meet monthly he didn't think much of that so has stopped contacting.

Why are these men so needy and demanding I would get bored super fast seeing a bloke that often!

I find free sex feels really tame to me. Also not many men are good in the sack to start with. Then they want to see you more than monthly which is just way too often for me.I

I had a friend who wanted to see somebody two or three times a week. It sounded like prison to me!

An ex reappeared recently and when I told him I could only meet monthly he didn't think much of that so has stopped contacting.

Why are these men so needy and demanding I would get bored super fast seeing a bloke that often!

God I wish I was like this!

I just been through he mincer with another guy who pretended to be OK with my work at the beginning only to start treating me like shit and letting me know that was OK because I was a sex worker. Why do I fall for it? Every. Single. Time.

I couldn't even imagine telling any man I know I work. You're all braver than me.

Me too unless i met them around sex work i could never tell them. I also would not want them having that power over me if things went wrong which most of the time it does.

I couldn't even imagine telling any man I know I work. You're all braver than me.

Agreed. Only 3 guys who aren't clients know I work. One was a fuck buddy, the other my mate's boyfriend, and the last one is a guy I know in the porn industry.