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meetingdiversity

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #375 on: 15 September 2017, 04:35:53 pm »
Quote from: Ana30 on 14 September 2017, 05:15:06 pm
He's going through a hellish divorce and he's telling you he wants to marry you?  A mentally sane person going through a bad divorce runs in the opposite direction when hearing the word "marriage". I'm seeing big alarm bells ringing here (sorry),
After reading your post I hope the advantages of this relantionship (he supportive, he's great in bed, rich, generous, makes you feel great etc...) "outweigh" the disadvantages exposed otherwise I'm not seeing you signing for a good deal at all.

He is kind and tight with money,  we arn't having sex. I'm going to be writing a rule list after job hunting. :)

Feeling like a client only been fingered twice in three months omg. I asked for it too. I'm  glad to be escorting really. Try and beat that lol.

Yep he has agreed to abide by my rule list at last.

No one messes with me.
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sweetmilf

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #376 on: 16 September 2017, 11:46:12 am »
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 15 September 2017, 04:35:53 pm
He is kind and tight with money,

Does he have children from his previous long-term marriage?  If he was married for many years, he's obligated to support his soon-to-be ex-wife and children which may explain why he could be tight, money-wise.  Even with someone, who has a high-paying salary, he would be paying a lot of tax for it.  Could he support you after you retire and marry him?  Honeymoon period never lasts as you know.  Sooner or later, his crazy attention will diminish as the relationship matures.  Hope it works out.   :)
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meetingdiversity

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #377 on: 17 September 2017, 02:18:03 pm »
He doesn't have any Children currently. Things are slowly improving, what took two months he says he will be finished cleaning his Apartment by tomorrow.:) Then we can move on in the relationship finally.

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ana30

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #378 on: 17 September 2017, 03:03:22 pm »
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 15 September 2017, 04:35:53 pm
He is kind and tight with money,  we arn't having sex. I'm going to be writing a rule list after job hunting. :)

Feeling like a client only been fingered twice in three months omg. I asked for it too. I'm  glad to be escorting really. Try and beat that lol.

Yep he has agreed to abide by my rule list at last.

No one messes with me.

Wait.... you're going to move in with a guy who you've never had sex with?  :o Hmm.. So basically you're going to have to figure out if you're sexually compatible while living under the same roof.

I strongly reccomend you  a well crafted "plan b" if this relationship fails and you need to get out asap of his apartment.
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sweetmilf

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #379 on: 17 September 2017, 03:54:27 pm »
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 17 September 2017, 02:18:03 pm
He doesn't have any Children currently.

OK, that's cool.  :)
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meetingdiversity

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #380 on: 17 September 2017, 04:45:27 pm »
Quote from: sweetmilf on 17 September 2017, 03:54:27 pm
OK, that's cool.  :)

It should be a quicker divorce proceeding should it?.
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #381 on: 17 September 2017, 05:04:55 pm »
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 17 September 2017, 04:45:27 pm
It should be a quicker divorce proceeding should it?.
It depends on if its amicable.
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sweetmilf

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« Reply #382 on: 18 September 2017, 04:51:43 pm »
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 17 September 2017, 04:45:27 pm
It should be a quicker divorce proceeding should it?.

How many years was he married?  If it's not a long marriage, I should think it would be straightforward.
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #383 on: 18 September 2017, 05:44:19 pm »
Quote from: sweetmilf on 18 September 2017, 04:51:43 pm
How many years was he married?  If it's not a long marriage, I should think it would be straightforward.

7 years and 10 years separated, the wife is being complicated. I feel at time the mistress even though that isn't the case.
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #384 on: 18 September 2017, 06:20:23 pm »
10 years separated and still not settled?! Come on MD. Where's your cynical head?

Ask him if it's cool if you phone his wife to check they're separated.
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sweetmilf

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« Reply #385 on: 19 September 2017, 08:44:09 am »
Quote from: meetingdiversity on 18 September 2017, 05:44:19 pm
7 years and 10 years separated, the wife is being complicated.

Relationships can be complicated.  Hope it'll work out.  :)
 



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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #386 on: 19 September 2017, 09:01:20 am »
Quote from: VoluptuousCurves on 18 September 2017, 06:20:23 pm
10 years separated and still not settled?! Come on MD. Where's your cynical head?

Ask him if it's cool if you phone his wife to check they're separated.


Absolutely, if they are separated there should be no issues. If he kicks up a fuss or spins a yarn about legal crap or it not being the right time ect. With no real understanding for your need to confirm this then I would be heading for the door. Sometimes using hooker brain is useful in civvy life too but it is really difficult, I've done it and it's not nice but it makes you realise what situation you are in and how you wouldn't stand for it if it was a work situation.

Feels cold having to use a screening process for the people you care about and I know life is more complicated than work (could be argued!) but it gives you another perspective to look from.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that if we make a stranger go through hoops to convince us they are not a time waster or, dangerous and are suitable to take our time for even just a half an hour I would be doing so much more for someone I want to potentially spend the rest of my life with. Just my opinion of course, we let the little things go but I don't think it's such a crazy idea!
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mature helen

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #387 on: 19 September 2017, 10:20:40 am »
Quote from: Shwiftysquancher91 on 19 September 2017, 09:01:20 am

Absolutely, if they are separated there should be no issues. If he kicks up a fuss or spins a yarn about legal crap or it not being the right time ect. With no real understanding for your need to confirm this then I would be heading for the door. Sometimes using hooker brain is useful in civvy life too but it is really difficult, I've done it and it's not nice but it makes you realise what situation you are in and how you wouldn't stand for it if it was a work situation.

Feels cold having to use a screening process for the people you care about and I know life is more complicated than work (could be argued!) but it gives you another perspective to look from.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that if we make a stranger go through hoops to convince us they are not a time waster or, dangerous and are suitable to take our time for even just a half an hour I would be doing so much more for someone I want to potentially spend the rest of my life with. Just my opinion of course, we let the little things go but I don't think it's such a crazy idea!
Totally agree, I've got one guy keeps chatting me up every time I go to a certain place. Hes ok and we have good banter but when I was first talking to him I asked about his status he told me he was married so I said I don't date married men he said 'I still live with my wife but she is now a lesbian' trying not to laugh in his face I asked why do you stay? he said for the family, its all bollocks in reality he wants a bit on the side while all the time keeping his cosy family life, but as I sell it I dont give it away I just looked at him like he'd grown two heads and laughed, the shit some men tell you when they want to get into your knickers. He texted me the other day said 'I cant stop thinking about you when can we meet for a cuppa? I replied 'when you invite me over' which stopped that conversation.
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #388 on: 19 September 2017, 11:10:25 am »
Quote from: VoluptuousCurves on 18 September 2017, 06:20:23 pm
10 years separated and still not settled?! Come on MD. Where's your cynical head?

Ask him if it's cool if you phone his wife to check they're separated.

The above.

Sounds to me like the guy is still married, and if he's not his ex wife has him by the balls and you're about to enter a relationship of 3 people.
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #389 on: 19 September 2017, 01:41:32 pm »
After 5 years separated it is easy to get a divorce without the other party's consent.  Prior to that you need their response in divorce proceedings.  10 years separated sounds well fishy.

Although it can be that some parties just don't get around to the divorce as it is all money.  They split up but are still married although only on paper it doesn't mean anything.  I have a friend like that.
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