Though I don't agree entirely with Ana, it did make me sad to read your post, Miss Jameson.

True, a man whose understanding may raise alarm bells - certainly I question whether the men in my life fetishise my job as a sex worker or not - but there are plenty of people who are able to acknowledge your profession and keep it separate from your job. My last boyfriend was a musician. I wasn't going to start insisting that he works all the gigs he was offered just to earn more money, nor did I insist on being a groupie with him wherever he went; i just knew it was his job and I saw it as a smaller piece in the bigger make up of who he was.

If your job fills you with shame, or at least makes me feel like you want to forget it ever happened when you retire, you may find it useful to question why that is. Certainly, I want to draw a line in the sand when I'm 'done' working, or have moved on, but I'm certainly not embarrassed about my job, nor do I think it says anything integral about my personality or how I view myself.

Cliche but if you don't think you're worthy of love, you can't expect others to think you're worthy of love.

Quote from: MissNatalieLou on 15 April 2016, 11:32:40 pm

This is the thing  that I struggle with in a way because I can completely understand why someone wouldn't want a serious relationship with me if I was to be honest and say what I do. And it's their right and choice just as it's our right and choice to do what we do. I would love it if someone could understand but I feel like for the majority unless someone was involved somehow within sex industry or very open sexually it would be unlikely....And even then I can imagine complications but who knows I'm sure it's not impossible based on some of these posts as well.

When I was younger I feel as if relationships have effected my decisions too much and I was too naive to realize I needed to think about what I truly want rather than just doing what's convenient and best for the relationship and all to get not that much back in reality. So yeah I just wouldn't even want to be in the position now to feel such emotions for someone most probably narrow minded, who in their own way at whatever type of level view me as their property and to have to admit and have something in the open that they'd just expect me to quit just like that because we're in "love" now.

However times are moving forward and maybe there is someone/people out there for everyone sex worker or not...

It's only unlikely if you have it in your head that your job is something to be ashamed of. Then you'll attract the wrong type of guys.
I've dated several guys who have not had a problem with it at all and there are plenty of posts on here from ladies in relationships where the the fact that they do sex work isn't even an issue. And why should it be? My partner has never been involved in the sex industry and is a pretty monogamous kind of guy and yet he still manages to be fine with my job.
If you're relaxed and groovy about your job, 90% of people you tell will be too.

Yes I do get that impression that lots are in relationship as I can see from many posts I'm not ashamed at all. It's just for a variety of reasons I choose not to be open about to anyone at this point. Not everyone is as understanding as you want them to be. You can be proud of many things and a guy can like those things even at first but then start to have an issue with when you're together. I've had things exposed about me before on a different subject just to be spiteful and to control me. Of course I accept not everyone is like that and I do believe there is a type of person for everyone.

On the other hand if someone doesn't accept what job you do whether you're a detective, sex worker or whatever else it's that persons choice even if it seems unreasonable and said person is not right for you.

I haven't dated much since I've been escorting but maybe that will change it's only been a short time. I like men and women though so maybe at the moment I would prefer to be with a woman at this point of time if I was with someone but I don't knw it depends who I meet and develop feeling for.

Have a partner for 4yrs now and start escorting from the beginning of our relationship.
I have had doubts about doing this job and about being in a relationship.
I never ever believed in this "type of relationship" and sometimes when I feel down I argue with him and tell him that I am not so secure. A bit scared of how my/our future looks like.
He's jealous and suspicious sometimes...but is normal to be like that.
We always make jokes and laughs about my clients but i never talk about sex.
In 4yrs we have had few argues/fights and wanted to split up every time but he never agreed with that. He said he loves me and he can't imagine life without me and I agree with him, we been through a lot together and we love each other so much.
I am working and living in the same place with him. He is my "security" and he do all the websites and he make sure we save up money and don't spend too much so I can stop asap this job.
He is so kind to me... He will never complain if there's no food in the fridge if I am busy.
When  I complain about being sour down there he won't touch me, sometimes for more than a week.
I have days when I want to fu.k but he said he don't want to "hurt me".
I love him so much. I know his family, he know my family. Our relationship is so serious. Soon we'll get married and have lots of kids. Can't wait lol.
Good luck to you girls in finding the right man.
 

I think it is because the guy is not a robot. He is a human so sometimes what his partner does will effect him.

Unless he has a kink for what she does...in which case that is completely different.

OK, fair enough, I just can't imagine meeting a man like that. Most men I have known in my life would freak and tell where to go straight away. I get that they are all different though.

It has got to the point now that I'm not bothered about dating any clients. The last two were a nightmare in the end. From my experience they seem to be ok with at the beginning until.... Then problems.  Not worth my loss of income with all the wasted time for nothing.

Quote from: Tania.Uk on 23 April 2016, 12:36:15 am

He's jealous and suspicious sometimes...but is normal to be like that.

Is it normal? I wouldn't say it is at all!

This is my point of view.
His suspicions starts a while back when one of my friends in this job ran away with a client and she had a partner.
And jealous ? because we live together and I am working in the same flat and sometimes he can hear some noises or what people are saying when coming inside the flat.
To be honest, I think I was more upset if he wasn't jealous. (Btw, very rare happen to show that feeling)

I can only imagine about 5 per cent of the male population is fine with it!

Personally, I can imagine that 95% of the male population is fine with it. That doesn't mean either of our imaginings is based in reality!