Some guys get jealous at the thought of having sex with other men. It has taken a while and finally feel over him now.  I am yet to met those. I seem to attract the jealous ones each time. So now it's just me, myself and I. Don't need a man in my life. Paying clients are enough for me.

I would say that's a fairly standard thing to feel for people i.e not liking your partner having sex with other people.For those of us in relationships with guys who are cool about it,I would say that is a rare blessing.

me and my hubby to be go to sex parties together so escorting isnt a big thing. he just tells me to make sure i dont tire myself out and keep safe! x

That's amazing! I need to find that type of relationship 

Yeah I'm a lucky gal!

I'm pretty happy being single, I have lots of intimate and loving friendships, my own income, my kids, and my cats

Recently I've been really missing having sex, like not with clients or even casual fuckbuddies, the kind of sex you have when you're really into somebody.  I do get the odd pang and wonder if I'll ever meet anyone who would fit the bill but it's really not on my priority list right now.

I know lots of sex workers in relationships, but most of them are poly or open in some way.  I'm sexually adventurous and I like to share on my own terms (like at sex parties etc) but essentially I am monogamous, and I want a mostly monogamous relationship.  It seems an impossible dream to ever find a guy who was not only supportive of my work, but who understands fully that it is work, and is happy to stay monogamous with me.

My relationship is monogamous in that the only sex with other partners is my paid work, my other half choses not to have sex with anyone else. If I were to have a freebie, or he have sex with anyone else that would be considered unfaithful.

I just found it a really odd phrase. Can't understand why a guy would be 'torn up' just because his girlfriend has gone to work.
I don't get 'torn up' when my boyfriend goes to work, so why would he when I do?
If a boyfriend can't grasp that sex work is just a normal job then you need to get rid.

THIS! its a job, id  rather sell my body services then sell my mind to a job i hated x

I think to us sex work is work but to someone who has not experienced it, it is hard to imagine what goes on.

I personally appreciate that some men would find it distressing for their partner to be involved in sex work and I wouldn't judge them for feeling that way either.

Everybody is different and I don't think a man is wrong to care if his partner has sex with men for money.

This is the thing  that I struggle with in a way because I can completely understand why someone wouldn't want a serious relationship with me if I was to be honest and say what I do. And it's their right and choice just as it's our right and choice to do what we do. I would love it if someone could understand but I feel like for the majority unless someone was involved somehow within sex industry or very open sexually it would be unlikely....And even then I can imagine complications but who knows I'm sure it's not impossible based on some of these posts as well.

When I was younger I feel as if relationships have effected my decisions too much and I was too naive to realize I needed to think about what I truly want rather than just doing what's convenient and best for the relationship and all to get not that much back in reality. So yeah I just wouldn't even want to be in the position now to feel such emotions for someone most probably narrow minded, who in their own way at whatever type of level view me as their property and to have to admit and have something in the open that they'd just expect me to quit just like that because we're in "love" now.

However times are moving forward and maybe there is someone/people out there for everyone sex worker or not...

Quote from: Simone on 14 August 2010, 10:44:01 am

Personally, a man too cool with the idea that I'm a WG would kind of scare me a bit, and I would look for his inner pimp to come out at any time. So I have opted to stay relationship free until my set retiring date. I think a man with an understanding is a great asset. I would still hope to find a man that I can talk to about this when it's over, and he can still look at me as a lady capable of being in a relationship (which I'm contemplating even now. I've been too independent for too long and sex is the least of my worries.). But my opinionated friend told me that when I bury Tiffani Jameson, her adventures should cease to exist in my mind. I would hope that wouldn't be the case, but statistically, it's looking that way.

The above words are very revealing and says a lot regarding what you think about your occupation, and ..it's not good. ( Sadly It reminds me to a Groucho Marx quote: "I refuse to join any club that would have me for a member".)

Basically you're saying that what you're doing is wrong and no non-pimp  civvie man is going to love you and you don't blame them because you don't deserve to be loved because of your occupation. That's a pretty powerful and sad statement.

If doing sex work undermines your self-esteem so much I'm not sure this is a job for you miss jameson.

"Shame is the intensely painful feeling that we are unworthy of love and belonging"- Brene brown.