Ive been escorting on and of for a couple of years now, however i didnt tell the bf until just before i was leaving for oz, he took it ok, was really shocked like really really shocked but still loves me stayed by me bla bla bla, i haven't mentioned im doing it again, however since hes half way across the world and we now have agreed on a fully polygamous relationship he has no right to say weather or not he is bothered.

I would say i miss the real intimacy that he used to give me, but i have found myself a nice wee guy to see while im over here.

I would say it can deffo work when people are open but i cant be bothered with people knowing as i just dont trust most people not to tell one other person to tell another person (this happened to me last year) and I dont see it as cheating ever as in my mind is completely different.

Do a search here for words like 'boyfriend' and 'relationship' for several threads on this.

My usual advice is that if you're going to come out, start by saying you're not interested in a monogamous relationship. If he can't handle that, he's very unlikely to think it's ok because cash is involved.

The worst that happens is that he gets violent because you've "hidden" this and/or tells everyone about it.

This is why coming out in stages helps test the waters, as does the old 'did you see the story about...' method of raising potentially difficult stuff.

Fortunately (?) not everyone finds keeping it a secret so hard either. Again, a search will come up with other stories.

I was with my bf for just under 2years, never told him, one day I got a call while I was out of the country on tour,  one of his friends found me on AW and showed him, he went CRAZY!!! Like crazy crazy. I spent a fortune on the next flight home, not that it matters. Went to his mums house crying my heart out and he didn't wanna know, spit in my face, called me a dirty whore. I wouldn't wish what happened to me on anyone. I lost the love of my life because of my job/lies. It's been awful.

Yes, I think it's important to give the other person a choice.

Sex with clients was better ...

I wouldn't enter in to a relationship now (but that's just me) as I get what I need sexually from my clients and can do without the angst. I'm all burned out when it comes to bloody relationships!!

I've got to say it's the same for me. However good a bf/partner is in bed there are always going to be clients that are better and I feel like a fake pretending that the guy I'm with is terrific. It wears you down after a while. I do miss the companionship and sharing and entertaining when I'm single though, but that's never enough for them.

Everyone's relationship is different, of course. But I think if you show that you're not ashamed, your significant o. is less likely to be ashamed of you - if you show that you enjoy your job, your s.o. is less likely to try to get you out of it.

Personally, I wouldn't date anyone who wasn't going to be supportive. I don't care how nice the guy/gal is, if he/she is going to walk out on you for your job then f*** them! For whatever reason you have, if prostitution is your decision, that's a huge part of who you are - the decision, the action, the stories that come from it, the day to day lifestyle - if they want you to be someone else then they're just like a punter who pays to get the perfect woman, and will never have to see all the baggage because we're creating the perfect fantasy for them.

I don't know. I know it's hard for a lot of people, guys and girls to stomach, but shouldn't the right person forgive you?

btw, I love how the moderators are sick of this topic