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JennyJazz87

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #75 on: 13 December 2011, 03:49:01 pm »
I'm not technically in a relationship but I may as well be.
  He knows about it. He is my neighbour and has been for a long while and has known since we first met, and he hasn't minded at all. In fact, we became great friends and then best mates and he became accepting and helpful, watching out for me.
  He also really cares for and is great with my daughter.

We could well be taking the next step soon, and I think that if we do I couldn't be happier. And he's fairly laid back about it. I don't think that would change either.
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #76 on: 15 September 2012, 12:57:04 pm »
Rather than starting a new thread I found one that discusses (in a way) what I want to raise and it may be of interest to others.

I'm looking to settle down and meet Mr Right but do find it difficult to meet guys.  When I'm out at a bar/club the guys are often after one thing; therefore, frustrating to get to know him.

To the singletons, how have you found someone that you've settled with?  A lot of my friends have found there partners either during Uni or at work).  I'm not keen on the idea of settling with someone from work (i.e. a client).

Anyone tried online dating or speed dating??



Quote from: MissThang on 18 November 2011, 05:10:24 pm
Lets get that can of worms prised open  ;D

I'm guessing we all fall roughly into one of the following categories..

1) In a relationship, partner knows about job
2) In a relationship, partner doesn't know about job
3) Single (This is mine)

And I have questions for all three, because I am "the nosiest person who ever snooped the face of the earth" (according to everyone else) or "fascinated by other people" (according to me)

1) Is your partner genuinely comfortable with what you do?
2) Do you worry about getting found out?
3) Would you get into a relationship while you are working? How would you approach the subject?

I'm finding that working is making me not want to be in a relationship. For me, it requires a degree of detachment from other people. But then what happens if I meet someone really fit?  ;)

Anyone wants to share their thoughts, please do...
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #77 on: 15 September 2012, 02:27:09 pm »
Don't do online dating - there's just a million army guys trying to get laid (and you won't get paid!).


Personally I couldn't do it, I couldn't date or be in a relationship whilst doing this job - there's too much potential for trouble when it (invariably) goes wrong.

But I'm quite cynical about men, and am more of a lone ranger so marriage has never been a priority for me. Kids yes, but you don't need a man to adopt (ten, I want ten kids of all different nationalities, two newfoundland dogs and a farm with some goats, a cow and a donkey called Bob  ;D).

You'll find someone though, if you just pick the right, nice, trustworthy guy - and not the idealistic yet lay-about stoners that I'm partial to!xx
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #78 on: 15 September 2012, 03:33:26 pm »
I've met a lot of nice people through dating websites. The key is to be patient and very selective.
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« Reply #79 on: 15 September 2012, 03:51:16 pm »
Quote from: Little Miss Misanthropy on 15 September 2012, 02:27:09 pm
But I'm quite cynical about men, and am more of a lone ranger so marriage has never been a priority for me. Kids yes, but you don't need a man to adopt (ten, I want ten kids of all different nationalities, two newfoundland dogs and a farm with some goats, a cow and a donkey called Bob  ;D).

Ever thought about marrying a woman? If you're willing to grow vegetables as well, I'm popping the question today  ;D
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #80 on: 15 September 2012, 04:29:29 pm »
Quote from: improbablecats on 15 September 2012, 03:33:26 pm
I've met a lot of nice people through dating websites. The key is to be patient and very selective.
I am not patient, but very selective any suggestions?  ;D
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #81 on: 15 September 2012, 08:19:53 pm »
My partner encouaraged me to start the job ! I work as a dom and I dont offer sex so I suppose its a bit different as I am not intimate in the conventional way, I dont think I could have sex and be in a lasting relationship with anyone and I know he couldnt deal with it either.

He is always in the next room or driving me to outcalls to make sure I am safe and I tell him all the details after !

How do all you girls detatch yourself mentally from your working sex and your personal sex with someone you love ? xx
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« Reply #82 on: 15 September 2012, 09:11:34 pm »
i have just met someone and i like him its the first time since being single over two years... i won,t be telling him yet or if at all as he lives 22 miles away and will be seeing him by arrangement to start... I will however bring up the subject delicately about escort work (not me just the job and girls doing the job) and see what sort of reaction he gives off.. watch this space girlies....lol i met him on POF my experience with the sites is to be very very patient, if it don,t work for a while have a break go back on...
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« Reply #83 on: 15 September 2012, 09:47:42 pm »
Quote from: Nia Hope on 15 September 2012, 08:19:53 pm
How do all you girls detatch yourself mentally from your working sex and your personal sex with someone you love ? xx

There is nothing to detach. It's not even comparable. They are completely different. Simple really.

It can seem like a big deal but only if you make it one in your head.

It's a job, plenty of people do things in there job that some people couldn't imagine doing... I mean come on Dentists....freaks! The persons who's job it is to stick cameras up peoples asses all day.... or my favourite the people that work at the sex clinic all day! Fun times! At least there is a higher chance of pleasantries vrs the unpleasants in our profession. And like the above mentioned we smile and get on with it but it's our job. My husband would never begrudge me a good day at work, he'd rather that than a bad one for sure.

Of course this only works if both partners can deal with it and get on, if one can't it will ultimately fall apart.
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #84 on: 16 September 2012, 12:49:15 am »
When I first started back in, I was seeing someone. She suggested I get back into it. She helped me build my website and my exwife took photos. she adapted them to the website. She has also volunteered, even though we are no longer seeing each other, to be a safe call and if needed, an extra domme (no touch) or just a watcher if asked.

we still talk almost every morning and she often asks "you pullin cock today?" as a cheeky caring ask about how I am doing and how it's going. she sometimes asks me to take a day off and come hang out if she thinks I'm working too much or I need "normal company" she's also given me a stack of her cards (she's a tattoo artist) to give to clients.

Most of the people I know don't really give a shit. They don't really care and aren't that interested. which is nice. I'm not really in the closet about doing it because most people I know don't care. A lot of them go on marches for sex workers rights, even. I love my dyke mates! plus it's nice having a few dyke sexworker friends.

I haven't worked in a week as I'm not well. But I'm hoping I'll be back at it on Monday.
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #85 on: 12 October 2012, 05:31:15 pm »
Patience is definitely a virtue!

There are a lot of weird guys but I've met a couple of sweet mummies boys lol

I'm going to a speed dating event next week so I'll see how that goes
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« Reply #86 on: 12 October 2012, 06:17:23 pm »
If you asked me this question 6 months ago I would tell you I am in a rock solid relationship all in the open.  Overnight that turned sour and money got in the way he has now gone and I am on my own and to be honest loving it.  I have a few potentials in the pipe line and a few play mates where the sex is just for me and is god damm good.  So overall I am reasonabaly happy with the situation.  I would say to any one single find someone who blows you mind sexually and have fun, but be honest about what you do. If you have sex out side work make sure you get exacrly what you want at the end of the day if i am not going to be paid for it it has to be bloody good!
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #87 on: 12 October 2012, 08:25:29 pm »
Quote from: Friday on 15 September 2012, 09:47:42 pm
Quote from: Nia Hope on 15 September 2012, 08:19:53 pm
How do all you girls detatch yourself mentally from your working sex and your personal sex with someone you love ? xx

There is nothing to detach. It's not even comparable. They are completely different. Simple really.

It can seem like a big deal but only if you make it one in your head.

It's a job, plenty of people do things in there job that some people couldn't imagine doing... I mean come on Dentists....freaks! The persons who's job it is to stick cameras up peoples asses all day.... or my favourite the people that work at the sex clinic all day! Fun times! At least there is a higher chance of pleasantries vrs the unpleasants in our profession. And like the above mentioned we smile and get on with it but it's our job. My husband would never begrudge me a good day at work, he'd rather that than a bad one for sure.

Of course this only works if both partners can deal with it and get on, if one can't it will ultimately fall apart.

I totally agree with this

sex with a client is nothing like sex with my LTB, its nowhere near comparable and I do not even see them both as the same 'act', its just different in a very hard to explain way xx
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #88 on: 13 October 2012, 02:55:13 am »
Quote from: improbablecats on 15 September 2012, 03:33:26 pm
I've met a lot of nice people through dating websites. The key is to be patient and very selective.

:)
We both met on OkCupid (online dating site) and fell in love, all the typical sickly sweet romantic stuff.. And then decided to get into this together. So, to answer the original questions not only are we both aware of everything that goes on, we both join in! It's so relieving to have another person that you can talk to and share the most intimate or gory details with, like dating a councillor! And having everything so out in the open is a huge bonus for open, honest, and totally transparent communication which is the bedrock of any relationship, I think. Of course this is just our experience so your mileage may vary!
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« Reply #89 on: 13 October 2012, 08:57:22 am »
I am single and a single parent to 1, i personally do not want or need a relationship right now.  I do not miss the emotional connection.  Probably because I get physical from monday - friday with men.

Emotionally and financially I am strong enough to stand on my own two feet.  I actually like being on my own and doubt I will ever want a relationship again :)
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