Gone out, had a great time, didn’t put out. Next day I lay it out what I’m looking for and he just wanted “to go with the flow”. Isn’t looking for a relationship. So that one is sorted and moved on.

Gone out, had a great time, didn’t put out. Next day I lay it out what I’m looking for and he just wanted “to go with the flow”. Isn’t looking for a relationship. So that one is sorted and moved on.

typical men's sentence to say they don't want to be in a relationship, they are very disappointing

Can we take the casual sexism down a notch, please? This isn't 'men', this is a man.

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He can “go with the flow” elsewhere and the only thing I’m gonna “hang out” is my knickers on a washingline.

He’s now a non-entity client wise or personal.

Least he made it clear he was only after free sex with a escort, better that then you finding out down the line and wasted your time emotionaly.

100%.

I’ve noticed he also has a new feedback off someone else like a day or two after our date. This was after he was told Sex isn’t on the cards if I’m not with the person, and him claiming how he loves hanging out with me and is happy with just that. Gross.

Either way, good it happened and well rid. I mean imagine getting emotionally entangled and sleeping with him for free because you like him, and then discover you’re just a ride & he’s still getting new feedbacks 🤮

I know it's disgusting. I dated 2 punters years ago but both wanted a proper relationship and wanted me to meet there friends and family and were genuine feelings not just free shags. The difference with those 2 i could tell they were not men that visited women all the time you just know. One only did it the once and the other guy only ever did it 3 times over a year. The men who are used to seeing women all the time for years you can spot a mile away and those ones would never be for me as those types are always looking for "new fruits" and expect too much off you.

I have a question to ladies who dated their client. When did you disclose your real name?
I decided to risk it and go on a date with a client next week. He basically wants to get to know me and spend some non-sexy time lol
He knows me by my work name, have my work phone number and knows my working story about me. I don't want to be my hoe self there as I would like him to get to know ME. But on the other hand I'm a bit uneasy with the idea of disclosing  my true identity. How do you deal with that?

Also, he booked me in a few weeks time for escort meet. I think its his way to say "I'll still pay you as I'm not here for free sex". It reassured me he is genuine but then, if he will know my real name and me, how the hell I'll do this booking. My work and private life was always strictly divided. Now it's getting confused, so am I...

After years of being on my own, and I mean, years ... I am now playing the field somewhat 

I currently have 3 men in the picture. None of whom know what I do yet. The first one I really liked as I have known him for years and he never made a secret of the fact that he liked me. But that's gone sour as despite not knowing about my job, he wanted me as his personal ATM machine. He works full time btw  We've never had sex, either, as he had a breakdown last year and doesn't feel ready for sex yet. Pity he doesn't have the appetite for that as he does my bank balance 

The second one he's my postie and also really fit, ha ha. We kissed a year ago today but nothing ever came of it  Back then he wasn't long out of a divorce. I went for him whereas the first one came after me, which also hurts more considering the way number 1 has treated me. My postie didn't make a move with me cos he wasn't ready. Fair enough.

And the third guy I met last year through a mutual hobby. He's the guy who has the most going for him without a shadow of any doubt. He's got a good job which he hasn't had that long due to all the training he had to do for it. He also doesn't have any kids which is an absolute BONUS for me  The first two both have kids. He's also shown himself to be the most reliable which is another huge bonus. And he also doesn't have any lingering exes, doesn't appear to have any at all which seems a bit odd if he's hetrosexual and not asexual. He's also older than me by a few years, too. He must have had a girlfriend at some point though. He's a nice guy if not extremely quiet.

What I want to happen is my liking of number 3 to deepen if he likes me too. I pray to God he likes me and for me to loosen my connection to number 1 cos he has really treated me badly  I'll take him to a small claims court if I have to.

I'm back with my ex who is the father of four of my kids. I'm not sure what my work life. Will. Be like when I do decide to go back but we decided to give it another go. He's the dad of my youngest who is almost 4 months ago. It makes a better environment for all the kids.

Good luck. Is he aware of your job? If yes, what’s his stance on that?

(Sorry if nosey)