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Lady Frog

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #510 on: 27 September 2021, 09:29:39 pm »
And I wouldn't mind betting some guys work that out, and even if they don't like the whole sex work thing, instead of running, spot an opportunity to get the 'relationship' to work their way.

shots on targetttt🎯🎯🎯 never thought of this before but you are so right  :-[
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« Reply #511 on: 28 September 2021, 10:33:27 am »
shots on targetttt🎯🎯🎯 never thought of this before but you are so right  :-[

I wish I'd worked this out years ago, it would have made so many things make more sense with regards to men.

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« Reply #512 on: 23 October 2021, 10:12:55 pm »
Hi guys! Do you think that dating on the swingers sites is doable?

Basically I really want to date but I don't want to deal with vanilla guys and do coming outs after a few dates, it's so stressful and risky.
I came up with setting up a profile on the swingers site and clearly stating that I'm a sex worker and looking for a serious relationships and dating.

I did it and I'm texting with quite a few guys. they seem really open minded and also claim to look for relationships. I think that after dealing with so many timewasters at work I'm able to distinguish the ones who just want to fuck? I'm surprised because I met quite a few guys who were SW too.

Did anyone try it?

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« Reply #513 on: 23 October 2021, 10:41:46 pm »
I'm texting with quite a few guys. they seem really open minded and also claim to look for relationships.

*claim* is the operative word here, particularly when (free) sex is involved.

Many on regular dating website claim to be looking for serious relationships when really they're just looking for sex. What makes you think these men are any different?

It seems silly to reiterate this but those on swinging websites are looking for sex, not dating or relationships (and more often than not, they're already in a relationship/married too. You might strike lucky, but the odds are stacked against you.

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« Reply #514 on: 23 October 2021, 11:37:51 pm »
It doesn't make them different. Modern dating looks like that and I know that. But I don't have any other ideas...

I'n trying to verify them if I get any dick pics or sexting I won't entertain it and just end contact.

You're right, it's unlikely but maybe I'll be lucky lol
I think I would need much more luck with vanilla guys. Hmmm

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« Reply #515 on: 16 December 2021, 01:07:45 am »
So, I’ve been talking to this girl for about a month now. We saw each other a couple times and we just get along so well I’d never thought I’d get attached so quickly :( However, she doesn’t know that I’m a sex worker and she wonders where I get my money from…. I feel disingenuous and don’t know how to approach the subject.

I would love to be honest about my work, but at the same time I’m smarter than that and it’s not the type of information people keep to themselves in the long-term. She keeps telling me stuff like “You can trust me”, “you can be yourself with me”…. Lol

Can anyone who’s been in my situation give me advice? How do I know if she’s trustworthy, or am I just setting myself up for failure?

Thank you girls in advance <3 Stay safe

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« Reply #516 on: 16 December 2021, 02:01:56 am »
Obviously only you would know what you want to do in this situation. But if it were me in a situation like this, I would apply the breaks and carry on taking things slowly. Really get to know her, ask her questions that will help you gage her opinion on things. It would help me decide if we thought in similar ways, how she views the industry, sex in general, relationships, etc. Obviously don't just throw the questions in, try to lead the conversation toward that and then ask her what she thinks about the subject. If, unfortunately, you start to determine that she potentually isn't someone who would want to be in a relationship with a sex worker, then she may not be the right person for you. You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who supports your life and your choices and you also deserve it to yourself to not have to lie about who you are to obtain a partner  :)

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« Reply #517 on: 16 December 2021, 08:46:03 am »
Hi guys! Do you think that dating on the swingers sites is doable?

Basically I really want to date but I don't want to deal with vanilla guys and do coming outs after a few dates, it's so stressful and risky.
I came up with setting up a profile on the swingers site and clearly stating that I'm a sex worker and looking for a serious relationships and dating.

I did it and I'm texting with quite a few guys. they seem really open minded and also claim to look for relationships. I think that after dealing with so many timewasters at work I'm able to distinguish the ones who just want to fuck? I'm surprised because I met quite a few guys who were SW too.

Did anyone try it?

Swingers or not I would treat these guys the old fashioned way, hang out with them, courtship, see if you like them, if you're compatible. Don't have sex with them. Make sure they're for real and not just looking for free sex.
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« Reply #518 on: 16 December 2021, 11:50:26 am »
Don’t care what anyone says, next time if I ever decide to bother with a vanilla one I am hiring an investigator and screen his ass at every possible angle, given how many “claim” to be “single”, “separated” and “child free” when they’re just looking for a side.

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« Reply #519 on: 16 December 2021, 11:53:04 am »
So, I’ve been talking to this girl for about a month now. We saw each other a couple times and we just get along so well I’d never thought I’d get attached so quickly :( However, she doesn’t know that I’m a sex worker and she wonders where I get my money from…. I feel disingenuous and don’t know how to approach the subject.

I would love to be honest about my work, but at the same time I’m smarter than that and it’s not the type of information people keep to themselves in the long-term. She keeps telling me stuff like “You can trust me”, “you can be yourself with me”…. Lol

Can anyone who’s been in my situation give me advice? How do I know if she’s trustworthy, or am I just setting myself up for failure?

Thank you girls in advance <3 Stay safe


Mention the topic somehow such as “a friend of mine does…” and gauge the reaction. Personally I’d just say it like it is before any more feelings develop.

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« Reply #520 on: 16 December 2021, 12:27:11 pm »
Hi guys! Do you think that dating on the swingers sites is doable?

Basically I really want to date but I don't want to deal with vanilla guys and do coming outs after a few dates, it's so stressful and risky.
I came up with setting up a profile on the swingers site and clearly stating that I'm a sex worker and looking for a serious relationships and dating.

I did it and I'm texting with quite a few guys. they seem really open minded and also claim to look for relationships. I think that after dealing with so many timewasters at work I'm able to distinguish the ones who just want to fuck? I'm surprised because I met quite a few guys who were SW too.

Did anyone try it?

I would have thought a swingers site would be the last place you would look to actually " date a nice guy"

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« Reply #521 on: 16 December 2021, 03:43:23 pm »
I would have thought a swingers site would be the last place you would look to actually " date a nice guy"

That’s a bit judgemental? funnily enough that’s where I met my “nice guy” so I would say yes you can meet there. People meet partners in the most unconventional of ways.

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« Reply #522 on: 16 December 2021, 04:23:31 pm »
That’s a bit judgemental? funnily enough that’s where I met my “nice guy” so I would say yes you can meet there. People meet partners in the most unconventional of ways.

I thought swinging sites were just for sex and swapping partners i never knew they were meant for dating too. Oh well you learn something new every day.

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« Reply #523 on: 16 December 2021, 05:06:49 pm »
I thought swinging sites were just for sex and swapping partners i never knew they were meant for dating too. Oh well you learn something new every day.

Just sex was the initial plan lol

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« Reply #524 on: 17 December 2021, 01:12:43 am »
I thought swinging sites were just for sex and swapping partners i never knew they were meant for dating too. Oh well you learn something new every day.

I think you can say the same about most of the apps our there. Especially Tinder. My experiences with vanilla apps are that I always encounter guys who want just fuck.

That’s a bit judgemental? funnily enough that’s where I met my “nice guy” so I would say yes you can meet there. People meet partners in the most unconventional of ways.
So you're a 3rd SW person, I know of who met their long therm partner like that! That's gives me hope lol
Can you tell us your story please X I'm so curious!