Head is spinning at minute trying to figure everything out in my own head. Maybe some of you wiser people can advice me.

I always swore I would never get into a relationship while I worked as an escort. It's too conflicting for me. I am away to college next year for 2 years so need to continue working as an escort in order to survive that period. I am also self employed doing something totally unrelated and more to do with the college course I will be taking, so have other money coming in to explain my earnings.

Now here I am 5 months into a relationship with a lovely man, he is not a client and has no idea what I do for a living. I have known him over 10 years and we have both been in other relationships, knew we had feelings for each other, but never acted on them until now, when we are suddenly both free at the same time...He lives at the other end of the country, is divorced and while we are spending time together, we aren't in each other's pockets. He has been cheated on in the past and I know he would view escorting as cheating. This is what my struggle is...as I do and I don't....

I have no feelings at all for any of my clients, some I like, but not in a relationship way. They are just nice guys. They do me no harm and likewise me to them. I enjoy the work and always have. It's just work to me. However since meeting my partner I am turning down work left, right and centre, yet I need the money to survive, but I feel so guilty.

What do I do?...How can I reconcile it all in my own head and continue working. Have any of you been in the same boat and how did you cope? If I could limit my bookings maybe that would help. I have already stopped certain things such as kissing, as I don't want to kiss any one else but him and I never do anything unsafe that would put either of us at risk. Ideally telling him would have been ideal but owing to health issues he has and concerns around his own body image I don't think it would be well received at all.

I could stop but would struggle to pay bills and mortgage, so not ideal either. Don't see us living together for a long time if ever, certainly not for 2 - 3 years anyway and he has no access to my house when I am not there, so can't go rooting and discover my other life. Also work phone is off and hidden away when he is here.

Answers on a postcard folks, please and thank you

Nat

I dont like to tell ladies what  to do but can share with you my thoughts on your situation from my personal experience you say  he has known you for 10 years so guessing he knows your friends and fam ? if your secret bout what you do I 100 percent would not say any thing he could get really annoyed and tell people , We are human at the end of the day I have fought my feelings for a guys I have liked in the passed like you said the confusion makes you feel bad . If you offered only Dom or massage might make you feel better bout working .  Since I was completely screwed over by a guy who I was honest with I have learnt my lesson this Job is best kept secret in my opinion when comes to relationships

xx

I met my partner while swinging and he knew I was a dominatrix from the off. He's supportive and knows sex isn't involved so he's ok with it. He rings me before and after a meet to make sure I'm ok and if he's been home he's even met a few.
He knows how much happier I am doing this compared to my old charity job and that's all that matters for him.
Plus being in the forces he's pretty handy 

I was straight up with my new boyfriend when we met n told him n it's been fine but then I've not worked really since I've been seeing him n it's only been like 5 weeks so far so we are at the stage of liking each others company but aren't in love. I will be working again this week though but I won't mention that to him. I know he'd prefer me to have a normal job but that's more to do with regular income. So far it's not been a big issue that I'm an escort. But it's very early days and I make sure he's happy and has no complaints sexually and nothing to be jealous about. No bookings getting in the way of our time together. No endless talk about escorting. No getting annoyed with work and being a miserable cow in his company as a result. Nothing that would be a problem for him to worry about. I don't think it will get in the way unless I need to change our days to see a client I can't refuse as the moneys too good or if I'm repeatedly too sore for sex, even then sex wouldn't be a problem as there are other things rather than penetration to do. So really I think it would boil down to work getting in the way of our time which I don't plan on letting happen or if it ever did I wouldn't let it occur much. In the long-term, if things get really serious and love starts to blossom I suppose there is the possibility of him not wanting me seeing any other men at all and wanting me for himself. But that's a bridge that may or may not need crossing at a later date and then I will have to decide how I feel and how to deal with the situation.

I can only speak for myself, but for me it's been converting a regular who had the right attitude (IE cuckolding is fun!) AND had decent bedroom skills too.

There are a lot of threads on dating and when/ if you tell them

I've decided to have a casual relationship with a guy I was seeing last year. Better the devil you know. My ex of only a few weeks knew I had done escorting. Been on a hiatus a wild due to health issues. He didn't care though. I want to keep things simple at the moment, escorting or not

I've decided to have a casual relationship with a guy I was seeing last year. Better the devil you know. My ex of only a few weeks (another guy) knew I had done escorting. Been on a hiatus a while due to health issues. He didn't care though. I want to keep things simple at the moment, escorting or not