Author Topic: Relationships whilst escorting? (Read 110221 times)

mature helen · « **Reply #360 on:** 13 September 2017, 07:13:44 pm »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 13 September 2017, 05:57:59 pm

It sure has been a juggling act, that is finding time for him while escorting. Missing shit loads of bookings over the past three months due to finishing early 7-8pm.

Him always wanting to spend time with me like he tells me he is mine all weekend. Holy smokes.... I still need to earn I won't be on Saturday.

I try to dedicate Sundays to him but can't always if had a slow week. Then he gets the hump like a spoilt brat. I need to text him all the time I love him or he gets the hump. Older guys get grumpy from a different era. I need mental space.

He stresses me out alot even when I am at a stressful time of escorting ie looking for civy work, going for interviews.

I am more escorting focused he doesn't understand I need to earn still. He can help me if he wanted but won't. Simple stop ass complaining.

Tired from escorting physically and mentally draining some times.

If I don't send him a morning photo every day he gets moody with me. There are times I text him like a robot because he expects that.

On top of that he is going through a divorce moaning to me all the time about it. Always bringing up the past I tolerate it until he says some thing that fumes me.

Just needed to get some thoughts on this please.

He was a saint perfect at the beginning.

If single keep building up your life achieving, before some guy starts with his narcissistic moves.

After a 19 year relationship and then a 10 year marriage now being single is bliss, I know I have made the right decision for me to not have a man in my life first 6 months are lovely but then reality sets in and ruins it..
Now I'm all about Independence, peace, quiet, having company when I want, shutting the door on the world when I want, freedom to work when I want, to stop when I want, no man demanding my time and energy, no insecure egos to massage, nobody to consider but myself, I could go on about the benefits of not having a man in my life because all I know is this single life is paradise and I love it.
Going forward if/when I retire I'd sooner get a puppy as they're much less demanding.

Lushblossom · « **Reply #361 on:** 14 September 2017, 07:24:41 am »

I have met online a guy who wishes me to do photo work for him and it is highly lucrative. So I am meeting him next week.

On top of that he is looking for a girlfriend and would like an assistant.

I am in no rush to acquire a boyfriend so not sure how it will pan out.

Relationships are a hassle really. He would prefer me to give up escorting later.

Not sure what to do.

Anyway will have to see lol.

I think I would struggle to be monogamous like that these days!!

VoluptuousCurves · « **Reply #362 on:** 14 September 2017, 04:27:39 pm »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 13 September 2017, 05:57:59 pm

It sure has been a juggling act, that is finding time for him while escorting. Missing shit loads of bookings over the past three months due to finishing early 7-8pm.

Him always wanting to spend time with me like he tells me he is mine all weekend. Holy smokes.... I still need to earn I won't be on Saturday.

I try to dedicate Sundays to him but can't always if had a slow week. Then he gets the hump like a spoilt brat. I need to text him all the time I love him or he gets the hump. Older guys get grumpy from a different era. I need mental space.

He stresses me out alot even when I am at a stressful time of escorting ie looking for civy work, going for interviews.

I am more escorting focused he doesn't understand I need to earn still. He can help me if he wanted but won't. Simple stop ass complaining.

Tired from escorting physically and mentally draining some times.

If I don't send him a morning photo every day he gets moody with me. There are times I text him like a robot because he expects that.

On top of that he is going through a divorce moaning to me all the time about it. Always bringing up the past I tolerate it until he says some thing that fumes me.

Just needed to get some thoughts on this please.

He was a saint perfect at the beginning.

If single keep building up your life achieving, before some guy starts with his narcissistic moves.

MD, the things you have noted are real red flags for me.

Wants a photo every morning or he gets moody? LOL, do one mate.

He sounds controlling. I think if you get with him long term he will hold your past sex work history over your head and shame you with it.

They're all perfect at the beginning! Because when you meet someone, they're out to impress you. You're on your best behaviour. A few months in, the mask starts to slip. This is the time when red flags appear. Heed them.

ParisB · « **Reply #363 on:** 14 September 2017, 05:11:58 pm »

Quote from: VoluptuousCurves on 14 September 2017, 04:27:39 pm

MD, the things you have noted are real red flags for me.

Wants a photo every morning or he gets moody? LOL, do one mate.

He sounds controlling. I think if you get with him long term he will hold your past sex work history over your head and shame you with it.

They're all perfect at the beginning! Because when you meet someone, they're out to impress you. You're on your best behaviour. A few months in, the mask starts to slip. This is the time when red flags appear. Heed them.

Most of them are perfect in the beginning lol
He sounds like a stroppy toddler & def not a decent boyfriend and certainly not one worth giving up work for . His actions appear to be very very controlling and abusive even .
And sending photos every day ffs has he got such a crap memory he can't remember what you look like 24 hours ago

ana30 · « **Reply #364 on:** 14 September 2017, 05:15:06 pm »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 13 September 2017, 05:57:59 pm

It sure has been a juggling act, that is finding time for him while escorting. Missing shit loads of bookings over the past three months due to finishing early 7-8pm.

Him always wanting to spend time with me like he tells me he is mine all weekend. Holy smokes.... I still need to earn I won't be on Saturday.

I try to dedicate Sundays to him but can't always if had a slow week. Then he gets the hump like a spoilt brat. I need to text him all the time I love him or he gets the hump. Older guys get grumpy from a different era. I need mental space.

He stresses me out alot even when I am at a stressful time of escorting ie looking for civy work, going for interviews.

I am more escorting focused he doesn't understand I need to earn still. He can help me if he wanted but won't. Simple stop ass complaining.

Tired from escorting physically and mentally draining some times.

If I don't send him a morning photo every day he gets moody with me. There are times I text him like a robot because he expects that.

On top of that he is going through a divorce moaning to me all the time about it. Always bringing up the past I tolerate it until he says some thing that fumes me.

Just needed to get some thoughts on this please.

He was a saint perfect at the beginning.

If single keep building up your life achieving, before some guy starts with his narcissistic moves.

He's going through a hellish divorce and he's telling you he wants to marry you? A mentally sane person going through a bad divorce runs in the opposite direction when hearing the word "marriage". I'm seeing big alarm bells ringing here (sorry),
After reading your post I hope the advantages of this relantionship (he supportive, he's great in bed, rich, generous, makes you feel great etc...) "outweigh" the disadvantages exposed otherwise I'm not seeing you signing for a good deal at all.

sweetmilf · « **Reply #365 on:** 14 September 2017, 05:53:11 pm »

Quote from: Ana30 on 14 September 2017, 05:15:06 pm

He's going through a hellish divorce and he's telling you he wants to marry you? A mentally sane person going through a bad divorce runs in the opposite direction when hearing the word "marriage". I'm seeing big alarm bells ringing here (sorry),

He's probably madly infatuated with her. An old man and a pretty lady of 20 years younger scenario. Who could refuse such a dream relationship after living with an old wife of god know how many years he had to shag when the light was off, to be blunt? Old men love younger women, just like some women love "toy boys". In civvie life, I have to keep listening to men, telling me how so "proud" of their much younger wife by 10 or 15 years that they scored. But I often notice their "wonderful wives" are treating them quite badly, but they all seem to think they really scored big.

ana30 · « **Reply #366 on:** 14 September 2017, 06:14:13 pm »

Quote from: sweetmilf on 14 September 2017, 05:53:11 pm

He's probably madly infatuated with her.

Probably, but he sounds a bit like a nightmare and she doesn't sound happy at all.

Mariah · « **Reply #367 on:** 14 September 2017, 07:30:40 pm »

With respect MD, he sounds like a clingy, needy, jealous child who throws a tantrum when he can't get his own way. His 'caring' ways so to speak, sound like an ulterior motive based on his assessment of HIS needs and HIS requirements, etc. and not yours. Why on earth would you continue to wake someone up so ridiculously early in the morning knowing that they're not an early morning person and tired. That's just plain selfish. (I suspect he's bored and/or horny and can't be bothered to wait for you to wake up and wants his needs fulfilled there and then rather than being caring and thoughtful and waiting for a more mutually convenient time). I have to say that I agree with VC and Paris' assessment of things. If this man is this controlling and temperamental now, I think you will be opening a huge can of worms in the future. In my humble opinion, if he is not lining your pockets and taking care of your immediate needs, then who the hell is he to dictate to you how you should earn a living and actually attempt to hijack those efforts by demanding to see you at your busy times or when you need to work at the weekend because business is slow. Would he do that to you if you had a 'normal' job and needed to work overtime or at weekends to pay your bills/mortgage.

jo-jo · « **Reply #368 on:** 14 September 2017, 07:48:49 pm »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 13 September 2017, 05:57:59 pm

It sure has been a juggling act, that is finding time for him while escorting. Missing shit loads of bookings over the past three months due to finishing early 7-8pm.

Him always wanting to spend time with me like he tells me he is mine all weekend. Holy smokes.... I still need to earn I won't be on Saturday.

I try to dedicate Sundays to him but can't always if had a slow week. Then he gets the hump like a spoilt brat. I need to text him all the time I love him or he gets the hump. Older guys get grumpy from a different era. I need mental space.

He stresses me out alot even when I am at a stressful time of escorting ie looking for civy work, going for interviews.

I am more escorting focused he doesn't understand I need to earn still. He can help me if he wanted but won't. Simple stop ass complaining.

Tired from escorting physically and mentally draining some times.

If I don't send him a morning photo every day he gets moody with me. There are times I text him like a robot because he expects that.

On top of that he is going through a divorce moaning to me all the time about it. Always bringing up the past I tolerate it until he says some thing that fumes me.

Just needed to get some thoughts on this please.

He was a saint perfect at the beginning.

If single keep building up your life achieving, before some guy starts with his narcissistic moves.

I have been here before. As has been pointed out by a few of the ladies before me, there are red flags waving here. I wish I paid attention to the red flags in my case, but experience has taught me a lot. For example needing a text all the time to say you love him/ a morning pic every day?? you end up texting him just to fulfil his neediness because if you don't then it will be a fight later on. You are in a situation where the power balance is not 50/50 (as should be IMO)

Think about it, if you were not an escort, would you be in a relationship with someone who made all the above demands of you and your time?

Quote from: Mariah on 14 September 2017, 07:30:40 pm

With respect MD, he sounds like a clingy, needy, jealous child who throws a tantrum when he can't get his own way. His 'caring' ways so to speak, sound like an ulterior motive based on his assessment of HIS needs and HIS requirements, etc. and not yours. Why on earth would you continue to wake someone up so ridiculously early in the morning knowing that they're not an early morning person and tired. That's just plain selfish. (I suspect he's bored and/or horny and can't be bothered to wait for you to wake up and wants his needs fulfilled there and then rather than being caring and thoughtful and waiting for a more mutually convenient time). I have to say that I agree with VC and Paris' assessment of things. If this man is this controlling and temperamental now, I think you will be opening a huge can of worms in the future. In my humble opinion, if he is not lining your pockets and taking care of your immediate needs, then who the hell is he to dictate to you how you should earn a living and actually attempt to hijack those efforts by demanding to see you at your busy times or when you need to work at the weekend because business is slow. Would he do that to you if you had a 'normal' job and needed to work overtime or at weekends to pay your bills/mortgage.

Mariah/ VC and Paris sum up my thoughts. Pay heed to the little clues he is giving you at the moment- pay attention to the flags. Take control of the situation or just a time out to step back and re-evaluate things.

Mariah · « **Reply #369 on:** 14 September 2017, 08:38:31 pm »

If at any point, you decide to call it a day (and before you actually finish with him); I would try and access his phone and computer and make sure that any compromising pictures of you are deleted. Do not ask him to do this, YOU must do this. He reminds me very much of a spiteful ex who would always and persistently ask me for dirty pics which I never sent (I downloaded pics off the net which I edited and sent to him, lol). I always had a sneaky feeling about his motives for the pictures because when we were not getting on so well, he was still asking for them with a face shot (he had facial shots of me but not in a sexual way). Long story short; maybe a year or so after we split, I heard from someone that he had been maliciously showing and sharing pics of some young women he'd had a fling and who had dumped him. He too, was very clingy and demanding of me and my time. Due to the fact that your b/f has lots of pics of you and I imagine some might be compromising, I would tread carefully and try to recover or delete those images if possible. In the meantime, ask him for a compromising picture of him in case he decides to get funny at any point in the future. I'm sure some of these guys want pics of women as a form of 'insurance' and a way to control you when things are not going their way.

Kay · « **Reply #370 on:** 14 September 2017, 11:51:05 pm »

If someone asked for a photo of me every single morning, it would be of that day's bowel movement.

Lushblossom · « **Reply #371 on:** 15 September 2017, 07:32:19 am »

I wouldn't be too happy with a guy who was disturbing my sleep either.

I need my seven hours minimum. Winter sometimes eight.

Oh dear I am such an old lady!

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #372 on:** 15 September 2017, 01:54:35 pm »

Thank you everyone.

I am on the verge of splitting up with him now. He tells me about he loves me and don't want to part. Oh yes I forgot to mention it has taken him two months and still hasn't completed tidying his apartment. So I can come round, even offered to help him.

This says it all unless he has some one else.

Now it is on my terms.

I told him I am stressed enough as it is with trying to leave escorting.

He is a spoilt brat throwing tantrums when he doesn't get his own way. I told him I care about him lots but my love for him was. And still he says can we save. I said if you love me walk away, he replied with his not walking away.

He still wants to see me tonight, he says what is the point.

Crikes a Stubborn Narc he is.

Glad I have therapy in a hour.

mature helen · « **Reply #373 on:** 15 September 2017, 02:24:58 pm »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 15 September 2017, 01:54:35 pm

Thank you everyone.

I am on the verge of splitting up with him now. He tells me about he loves me and don't want to part. Oh yes I forgot to mention it has taken him two months and still hasn't completed tidying his apartment. So I can come round, even offered to help him.

This says it all unless he has some one else.

Now it is on my terms.

I told him I am stressed enough as it is with trying to leave escorting.

He is a spoilt brat throwing tantrums when he doesn't get his own way. I told him I care about him lots but my love for him was. And still he says can we save. I said if you love me walk away, he replied with his not walking away.

He still wants to see me tonight, he says what is the point.

Crikes a Stubborn Narc he is.

Glad I have therapy in a hour.

Words are cheap if he was serious he would have done what he needed to do in his flat within a week, what 'tidying' does he need to do that takes over 2 months? Have you even been to his flat? If not I'd be doubly suspicious. In my experience some men use the word love as a means of control to get what they want and to hold onto a relationship its a way to 'soften you up' but its all bollocks with these types its either a need or a use. He is showing many forms of control that's not love. Sweet words are 10 a penny and actions speak louder than words.

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #374 on:** 15 September 2017, 04:31:56 pm »

Quote from: ParisB on 14 September 2017, 05:11:58 pm

Most of them are perfect in the beginning lol
He sounds like a stroppy toddler & def not a decent boyfriend and certainly not one worth giving up work for . His actions appear to be very very controlling and abusive even .
And sending photos every day ffs has he got such a crap memory he can't remember what you look like 24 hours ago

I know some sort of attachment issue think he has.

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