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Lushblossom

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #150 on: 27 April 2015, 12:45:45 pm »
I have noticed that single men of all ages appear extra needy these days, more than previous occasions whenever I was single at different stages of my life.

Whereas single women appear to be more on top of it all.

Can't help having what it takes can we eh lol.

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #151 on: 27 April 2015, 01:01:32 pm »
I was broken up with because of escorting (in spite of him knowing it was my intention to do this job before we even got together). We are teenagers though so it makes sense, he couldn't handle it etc and there were other factors. I'm really into politics and that kind of thing, so one of the first things I'll figure out in a friend is their political stance and then I'll probably get to their opinion on prostitution eventually. I generally don't seem to attract people that aren't open-minded, probably because you need to be fairly open-minded to deal with me. ;D My "pool" is already small because I'm introverted and don't socialise much, but within my pool is a bunch of left-wingers who mostly will be in favour of decriminilisation.

That's a start, but it doesn't say much for how many of them would actually be able to deal with dating a prostitute. Everyone that knows about me knows I only intend to do it until my "real" career, but everyone also knows that my "real" career is about fifteen years of study away. I feel that by announcing my job, I immediately turn some people off that would have been interested in me had I not said it. I suppose it's a good way to weed the idiots out, but there are a lot of idiots! Not that I really think not wanting to date a prossie makes you an idiot, I do understand. As lonely as I do feel and as much as I crave intimacy, I like the money more.

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #152 on: 27 April 2015, 06:00:12 pm »
I have noticed that single men of all ages appear extra needy these days, more than previous occasions whenever I was single at different stages of my life.

Whereas single women appear to be more on top of it all.

Can't help having what it takes can we eh lol.

I've come to the conclusion men are more needy full stop. The ones we see are the tip of the iceberg. You get to know a guy who has been single for more than a year or two and you'll find nine times out of ten they are very hard going.

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #153 on: 27 April 2015, 06:39:44 pm »
I'm in a relationship at the moment and im finding it very very difficult as he doesn't lole what I do an he new when we got together ... He will always bring it up and he makes me feel down he'll always say nasty comments he wants me to quit I said I would but I really don't want to as the money is good and I will be screwed if I didn't do this job plus I enjoy it x

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #154 on: 28 April 2015, 08:33:33 pm »
If he knew when you got together then he shouldn't have got with you if it was going to be an issue for him. Its not up to him to decide if you continue escorting or not, its your choice. If you really are happy carrying on escorting and don't want to quit then maybe its time for him to go! You have to weigh up whats more important to you and also if this is your main source of income what would you do without it? I bet he wouldn't start supporting you.

I used to have a very possessive Dom who hated the thought of me being with anyone else and had a severe jealousy and anger problem but he knew that I needed to work as its what I live off. It ate away at him and he took it out on me. It wasn't nice. It was never going to work.

And then I saw someone else a few years ago who I met off aw so he knew what I did. We had tons of sex and went swinging most weekends and I was allowed to play with guys but not have full sex with them, that was the only rule he had but he never tried to tell me what to do regarding escort work. We had fun and he never had any problems at all with me escorting and I didn't mind if he wanted to sleep with other women when we were together swinging but he rarely ever did. Everyone is so different.

You have to do what works for you, and if something doesn't work then you need to change it.

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #155 on: 29 April 2015, 02:35:07 pm »
well my previously mentioned relationship has just ended, so i'm reconsidering whether it's actually possible. For now I'm going to stay single and focus on work, x :-\
"when the going gets weird, the weird turn pro"

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #156 on: 29 April 2015, 03:05:38 pm »
well my previously mentioned relationship has just ended, so i'm reconsidering whether it's actually possible. For now I'm going to stay single and focus on work, x :-\

Oh no  :( hope you're ok. Was it the job that got too much?
That's what I'm doing, staying single and staying on track with life
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« Reply #157 on: 29 April 2015, 05:43:26 pm »
it just got too much for him, he was staying in my hotel room whilst i was touring. I was constantly on edge thinking about the money i was losing tbh. So i started snapping at him, we started rowing.
It all just got a little messed up and intense. He says he needs to 'think' for a few days and go back up north, but i know deep down it's over.
I should have never suggested he stayed at the hotel and kept work and him more apart- lesson learnt x hi5 for staying focused x
"when the going gets weird, the weird turn pro"

Hunter S Thompson

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #158 on: 29 April 2015, 06:18:51 pm »
well my previously mentioned relationship has just ended, so i'm reconsidering whether it's actually possible. For now I'm going to stay single and focus on work, x :-\
tough time , keep focused be strong hope you meet some decent clients xx

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #159 on: 01 May 2015, 01:47:35 am »
well my previously mentioned relationship has just ended, so i'm reconsidering whether it's actually possible. For now I'm going to stay single and focus on work, x :-\
tough time , keep focused be strong hope you meet some decent clients xx

thank you x x x
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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #160 on: 01 May 2015, 07:09:29 am »
I would want a bf to talk too, maybe cute with a big ***, but I find that I  am not in the mood for sex because I have just had sex or going too. I think the most open minded guys I have met are into an open relationships but that's not for everyone, but they tend to be more honest, and not bothered about your work x

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #161 on: 02 May 2015, 05:31:28 pm »
You are right tvhappiness the ones who are into open relationships are the best type.

A couple of years ago I went out with somebody, actually it was c. 18 months ago now - he was an adult photographer and v open minded - he had no problem whatsoever with the work we do.  The only reason I split up with him was a) he owed me some money and kept mucking me about b) he was alcohol dependent and c) he read the Daily Mail (urgh!!:().

Can't win 'em all eh ...


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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #162 on: 03 May 2015, 10:01:19 am »
I've had a successful relationship without it being 'open'.

Our boundaries are that I don't have sex with anyone else outside of work, and he decided that he didn't want to have sex with any other person. If either of us broke that agreement, we'd classify that as being unfaithful.

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #163 on: 03 May 2015, 12:51:17 pm »
I also do not have an open relationship and mine is flourishing, there are some good ones out there. 

Lushblossom

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #164 on: 04 May 2015, 05:25:50 am »
Mirror and Fluffy Bunny - where did you both meet your men?

Just to give me an idea.

As my friend is too much of a monk for me - I was dating him recently but he does not communicate well in between dates and I was feeling ignored so I stopped it.  He is also worked up about sex i.e. does not give it (he was always like this, it isn't just because of our job as he can cope with that) ...  I will keep him on as a friend instead.

There must be one decent man out there for me there really must be!