Author Topic: Relationships whilst escorting? (Read 115364 times)

Hard Candy · « **Reply #120 on:** 20 April 2015, 10:56:43 pm »

For me there has to be upfront honestly, compatibility, open mindedness and acceptance, no 'Oh my god my boyfriend just found out what I do' rubbish. Too stressful. Most punters are attached I find in some way or another n very few are just my type. And I have to ask myself if they're seeing me n have lots of feedback then if we did somehow start dating if they happened to be single would they just continue to visit escorts? I'd far rather we just went swinging together n they slept with another woman that way to be honest. At least then we both have fun cos I get to do a guy also. Done this before n was lots of fun. But anyway, the point is I know there are lots of ladies who have husbands and boyfriends who know they escort and support it. I just don't understand where they find these guys. I'm jealous!

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #121 on:** 20 April 2015, 11:11:20 pm »

Quote from: Hard Candy on 20 April 2015, 08:41:54 pm

Been single for a long time and now n then think about having a boyfriend. But I don't go out to bars n suchlike so if I wanted to meet a guy it would have to be from online means. I'd also need him to be very open minded n cool with me being an escort and happy to take my pics. I wonder how to find such a bloke? He needs to know what I do cos I'm not going to hide it n try n be someone I'm not. Obviously the fact I have limited say in who I'm fucking at work means I'm going to damn well want a boyfriend I really fancy. I'd rather continue to be single than to just settle for nice but not quite what I've been after. My problem is I don't want my bloke to be fucking other women. That is an issue cos I'm fucking guys.... But that's purely work which is totally different. But I doubt a guy would see it that way. I think a cuckold guy is what most would say I'm after or just one who enjoys knowing his woman is a Slut. I know they exist. Have any of you got partners who help take your pics and are fine to join in a booking if the client wants a threesome? Where did you meet your man initially? And if online where n how did u go about it? I think it's time I had a man in my life on a deeper more intimate personal level but honestly I don't know where to find him??? It would just be a bonus if he happened to be interested in my work too in a positive way.

I tried a few dating while escorting unfortunetly it didn't work it was dealing with this and can relate with you. I wouldn't want them to be with others although this is what do. They could come back with well many are sharing so what is good for the goose type thing. It leaves me thinking about the dates at the times during bookings feeling guilty stupid I know. So have decided to let the whole thing go and just concentrate on my happiness for now. For me my life suits me fine clients are demanding enough for me at the minute.

lailah terri · « **Reply #122 on:** 21 April 2015, 12:06:57 am »

I met someone (online) when I least expected it, I told him about my alternative lifestyle quite early on, I didn't want him falling for me without knowing what he was truly in for. I wanted to give him the choice, and he chose wisely, still together 1year later.

He is happy with my job, respects my reasons for doing it and has never said a negative word about it, nor is he in denial about what I do. I personally wouldn't like him involved in any part of it (ie taking pics, threesomes etc) as I wouldn't be comfortable with it.

Yes there are quite a few open minded guys out there that will see things for what they are and won't see you as an unworthy partner. I believe that my man is faithful, and so he should be lol! although I am sleeping with different guys I honestly don't worry about double standards as my work is just work and I would never do what I do if there was no money involved.

'He' is out there somewhere Candy

, hope you find him x

Hard Candy · « **Reply #123 on:** 21 April 2015, 12:57:48 am »

I spent a good few years sleeping around for so called fun n feeling thoroughly used n mainly not too happy. I like escorting but it is also a job. And a relationship is world's apart from sleeping with punters.

foxylady · « **Reply #124 on:** 21 April 2015, 08:15:57 am »

Ok, will add this, i have been chatting online to a guy via emails for 6 months....we started talking on an 'alternative ' site, and email daily. Hes not ready to meet me though. I knoe, sounds a bit mad, he was very supportive when i saidthat i was going to start escorting, and due to being unwell recently and not working, i asked him if i could borrow ?300, and he was there for me. He has listened to me daily, opening my heart, pouring out problems etc......and no, hes single, hes getting over a close bereavement and ended a long term relationship last year......i dont know how it will pan out, but i have another year of college to get through, so equally im not ready yet. But yeah, there are intelligent and decent guys out there.......just not many i guess.

good luck candy. X

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Midsstudent · « **Reply #125 on:** 21 April 2015, 09:34:37 am »

I gave up on going out trying to meet someone. I'm just going to carry on moving my life forward and wait for someone worthwhile to come into it. It's been over 3 years now but my life has moved forward SO much during that time and I have achieved more than I ever did in my previous 22 years that it has been the best thing for me.

There are times when I wish I had someone, but it's not as simple as the right someone just appearing in front of me. I'll find him at some point... or he'll find me

MsDee · « **Reply #126 on:** 21 April 2015, 10:45:19 am »

Quote from: Midsstudent on 21 April 2015, 09:34:37 am

I gave up on going out trying to meet someone. I'm just going to carry on moving my life forward and wait for someone worthwhile to come into it. It's been over 3 years now but my life has moved forward SO much during that time and I have achieved more than I ever did in my previous 22 years that it has been the best thing for me.

There are times when I wish I had someone, but it's not as simple as the right someone just appearing in front of me. I'll find him at some point... or he'll find me

Trust me it is when you find that calm balance in your life that the right person will come bursting in, just ensure you do not shut yourself off completely like I did, I nearly lost out on the best thing that has happened to me in my life, barring my child of course

Midsstudent · « **Reply #127 on:** 21 April 2015, 12:40:03 pm »

Haha I've had my balance for the last 2 years, so I'm not averse to someone joining me in it. I just don't want to go seek something out that will mess with my perfect balance by bringing drama!

martine21 · « **Reply #128 on:** 21 April 2015, 12:53:11 pm »

It's a catch 22 situation with these dating sites I find.

If I start the conversation insinuating I'm in a civvy job then I'm lying and get paranoid about them finding me on AW. (Don't know what is is, but most on these sites seem to look on AW- I get a lot of messages saying ' Seen you AW')

If I tell them the truth they just want to have a go on me!

I like yourself, really would like a boyfriend but i'm slowly coming to terms that whilst doing this work it may not be possible.

x

Siorse · « **Reply #129 on:** 21 April 2015, 01:39:15 pm »

I wouldn't know how to meet someone.. I'm pretty isolated, working from home, so the only guys I meet are clients..
Apart from that, I don't think there's many guys out there in my age-range (say between 30-45), who are single, not divorced with
10 kids (wouldn't mind that at all though lol), or come with a lot of baggage, like me..

Sometimes I think, who the f*** would want me, because of my chequered past, the job I do, and a lot of other things I'd rather not go into..
I hate the thought of being single for the rest of my life, but it's a pretty big possibility..

TheLittleMatchGirl · « **Reply #130 on:** 21 April 2015, 02:14:51 pm »

Quote from: Siorse on 21 April 2015, 01:39:15 pm

I wouldn't know how to meet someone.. I'm pretty isolated, working from home, so the only guys I meet are clients..
Apart from that, I don't think there's many guys out there in my age-range (say between 30-45), who are single, not divorced with
10 kids (wouldn't mind that at all though lol), or come with a lot of baggage, like me..
Sometimes I think, who the f*** would want me, because of my chequered past, the job I do, and a lot of other things I'd rather not go into..
I hate the thought of being single for the rest of my life, but it's a pretty big possibility..

+1

Midsstudent · « **Reply #131 on:** 21 April 2015, 02:31:46 pm »

Quote from: Siorse on 21 April 2015, 01:39:15 pm

I wouldn't know how to meet someone.. I'm pretty isolated, working from home, so the only guys I meet are clients..
Apart from that, I don't think there's many guys out there in my age-range (say between 30-45), who are single, not divorced with
10 kids (wouldn't mind that at all though lol), or come with a lot of baggage, like me..
Sometimes I think, who the f*** would want me, because of my chequered past, the job I do, and a lot of other things I'd rather not go into..
I hate the thought of being single for the rest of my life, but it's a pretty big possibility..

My beliefs on this are that I couldn't be with someone who couldn't accept my past as 'messy' doesn't even come close to the right word for it. But it'll always be a part of me. The escorting stuff I see no point in hiding because it'll always end up coming out.

I don't expect ANY guy to accept me actually doing the job, I'd consider myself exceptionally lucky if that happened. But in the future at some point whoever I end up with is going to have to accept that I used to do it and not hold it against me, because I've done the drama relationships and I won't do it again.

Hard Candy · « **Reply #132 on:** 21 April 2015, 03:50:19 pm »

Yes that's the thing they guys above 30 all seem to have partners. And u say you're an escort and they do want to have a go on you like a fairground ride. I think I'm far more balanced being single n hate the drama being with someone can bring but sometimes I would really like someone special to share life with and I believe I have a lot to offer the right guy even if I am an escort, lol. I know I'm not a useless nothing that no man would want. I know my worth and I'm not talking about financial worth here either. One of my boyfriends used to say butter wouldn't melt as I was so sweet and yet still so dirty privately, haha.

Reconnect counselling · « **Reply #133 on:** 21 April 2015, 04:51:09 pm »

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BibiofLeeds · « **Reply #134 on:** 21 April 2015, 05:08:08 pm »

I have a bf who knows what I do and he is a normal bloke who doesn't get off on my job.Not sure why you think you need someone who gets off on it i.e a cuckhold or likes you being a 'slut'.That to me would mean he was seeing me because he gets off on it so no better than a punter.There are men out there who want the real you and accept your job as a seperate thing from you.

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