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Re: Getting/keeping regulars [split from other topic]
« Reply #15 on: 15 September 2022, 02:47:03 pm »
I met a client like 3 times. Really enjoyed my time as this was dinner dates, was even filling sorry for him knowing his issues.

Then 4th time I initiated after he got quiet and I was in a city, wanted to make some money. So typical busy-ness excuse but we met.

Since then I had to initiate and each of this meeting is less and less exciting. Still enjoyable as he is educated and well mannered so will not reject the meeting but it feels...

I guess I somewhat hurrted his ego or I dont really know. Obviously he won't tell. Possibly once I put him down on earth when he was on a dreaming mode. Or we just simply lost the spark.

At this point it is hard to recall after time passed.

Thoughts on that type of situation?
« Last Edit: 15 September 2022, 04:57:23 pm by Mariaxxx »

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Re: Getting/keeping regulars [split from other topic]
« Reply #16 on: 16 September 2022, 12:31:09 pm »
Sorry not sure what you meaning by you had to initiate.   You meaning you contacting clients to get bookings when you arrive in their city?

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Re: Getting/keeping regulars [split from other topic]
« Reply #17 on: 17 September 2022, 10:20:11 am »
Sorry not sure what you meaning by you had to initiate.   You meaning you contacting clients to get bookings when you arrive in their city?


Exactly. A client as I wrote above about one particular situation.

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Re: Getting/keeping regulars [split from other topic]
« Reply #18 on: 17 September 2022, 12:03:45 pm »
I met a client like 3 times. Really enjoyed my time as this was dinner dates, was even filling sorry for him knowing his issues.

Then 4th time I initiated after he got quiet and I was in a city, wanted to make some money. So typical busy-ness excuse but we met.

Since then I had to initiate and each of this meeting is less and less exciting. Still enjoyable as he is educated and well mannered so will not reject the meeting but it feels...

I guess I somewhat hurrted his ego or I dont really know. Obviously he won't tell. Possibly once I put him down on earth when he was on a dreaming mode. Or we just simply lost the spark.

At this point it is hard to recall after time passed.

Thoughts on that type of situation?

I think its always best to wait for clients to contact you otherwise they will get the feeling your just fishing and wanting their money which could be a reason that things have turned a little sour between you both. If it works for you go for it but I wouldn't risk it either way, even if they have said they are single ect as you can't trust that when you message them out of the blue someone they don't want knowing will find out what they've been up to.
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Re: Getting/keeping regulars [split from other topic]
« Reply #19 on: 18 September 2022, 12:04:42 am »
I met a client like 3 times. Really enjoyed my time as this was dinner dates, was even filling sorry for him knowing his issues.

Then 4th time I initiated after he got quiet and I was in a city, wanted to make some money. So typical busy-ness excuse but we met.

Since then I had to initiate and each of this meeting is less and less exciting. Still enjoyable as he is educated and well mannered so will not reject the meeting but it feels...

I guess I somewhat hurrted his ego or I dont really know. Obviously he won't tell. Possibly once I put him down on earth when he was on a dreaming mode. Or we just simply lost the spark.

At this point it is hard to recall after time passed.

Thoughts on that type of situation?

Unpopular opinion : this is exactly why I'm not really fan of regulars and prefer having new clients every time. I feel that after 2-3 times seeing them, it becomes more and more boring so that if they text me again in the future to arrange another booking, I will typically ignore them not to see them again. (rectification : I'm here talking about clients who book for 1h or longer. For clients who book for shorter bookings (less than 1h), it's a different story).

Don't get me wrong, they are some clients who are genuinely interesting and "entertaining" that you could see over and over again but these are relatively rare in my opinion. Plus, I also get that having regulars is comfortable (no security issues, you know what their expectations are, it helps when it's quiet, etc.) but I just feel that the "emotional" labour (if we can call it that way) gets more and more as you keep seeing them so I just prefer letting them go at some point.

Is it only me feeling that way or does anybody else feel the same ?  ;D ;D
« Last Edit: 18 September 2022, 02:07:47 am by Ana66 »

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Re: Getting/keeping regulars [split from other topic]
« Reply #20 on: 18 September 2022, 01:32:10 am »
Unpopular opinion : this is exactly why I'm not really fan of regulars and prefer having new clients every time. I feel that after 2-3 times seeing them, it becomes more and more boring so that if they text me again in the future to arrange another booking, I will typically ignore them not to see them again.

Don't get me wrong, they are some clients who are genuinely interesting and "entertaining" that you could see over and over again but these are relatively rare in my opinion. Plus, I also get that having regulars is comfortable (no security issues, you know what their expectations are, it helps when it's quiet, etc.) but I just feel that the "emotional" labour (if we can call it that way) gets more and more as you keep seeing them so I just prefer letting them go at some point.

Is it only me feeling that way or does anybody else feel the same ?  ;D ;D

I'd say it depends on the bloke. Some just want no strings, straightforward sex with someone they get on OK with and know will provide a decent service, and they don't mind paying for it or require a significant amount of variety or innovation. But I do agree there are some others who either develop a sense of entitlement after a few visits, or expect you to be like a performing seal, coming up with something different (more outrageous?) every visit simply because they're the client.
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Re: Getting/keeping regulars [split from other topic]
« Reply #21 on: 18 September 2022, 01:59:36 am »
Kay, yes I've just rectified my post, the regulars I was talking about are the ones who book for 1h or more and who generally finish in a short amount of time but still want to stay until the time is up (probably to make their money worth) so you have time for chit chat and stuff. If I feel that the conversation is boring, or unilateral like if I have to ask myself "what am I gonna say next?" so there is no awkward silence or if when I ask questions the guy answers by "yes" or "no" type of words, then I won't see them again for sure but YES ABSOLUTELY in the case where those regulars come every time for a 30min booking, looking for straightforward sex and are out after 15min, obviously they are more than welcome to come back as much as they want  ;D ;D

That's why I actually prefer 30min bookings so no time for chit chat and they are out quicker so no "emotional" labour  ;D
« Last Edit: 18 September 2022, 02:14:27 am by Ana66 »

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Re: Getting/keeping regulars [split from other topic]
« Reply #22 on: 18 September 2022, 02:36:05 pm »
Firstly, on their first (or even second visit you never know whether they will become a regular.
And the ones that specifically mention that they are looking for a regular girl (on the phone before you've met them) - well, they are not. you will see them once. They always say the same thing, hoping to get a better service or a discount.

Some clients are looking for the thrill of something new every time. And you have no control over that.
But there are plenty of clients who prefer to come back to what they know - so you are looking to win them and you can't tell who they are on first meeting.

I think you can increase your chances by:
1. having a really clean workplace and bathroom (I know mess/dirt does put some clients off from returning)
2. it's not the sexy things you do but everything else... such as being friendly and someone they can talk to.
3. if they become a regular, they will talk to you about their work, family, and whole life. So make yourself available as a good listener and allow time in the session for this sort of talk.
4. My own approach has always to be the most expensive WG around. And there are a number of reasons:

a)it puts off the guys who go visit all the cheap women - they are after quantity rather than quality
b) the men who visit you are less sensitive to price, and these can tend to be more likely to be regulars.
c) it's really hard to increase your prices. So, you might well be charging the same money in 10 years' time. It is much easier to start high - and you can always offer a sale or discount now and again.

**** I agree with everything said above.
80% of my clients are regulars.
« Last Edit: 18 September 2022, 02:42:23 pm by Moonlight2020 »

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Re: Getting/keeping regulars [split from other topic]
« Reply #23 on: 25 September 2022, 02:38:19 pm »
I'd say it depends on the bloke. Some just want no strings, straightforward sex with someone they get on OK with and know will provide a decent service, and they don't mind paying for it or require a significant amount of variety or innovation. But I do agree there are some others who either develop a sense of entitlement after a few visits, or expect you to be like a performing seal, coming up with something different (more outrageous?) every visit simply because they're the client.

Oh god, the ones who ask you "what will we do this time?" and constantly want edgier and edgier roleplays. It's like they are kink tourists and my bedroom is an all you can eat buffet. One visit they want to be tied up and humiliated, then that leads into strap on or cross dressing, then all of a sudden they want me to be submissive. Um no love, I don't switch!

Thankfully I have a good number of regulars who know exactly what they want every time.
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Re: Getting/keeping regulars [split from other topic]
« Reply #24 on: 25 September 2022, 11:26:05 pm »
Oh god, the ones who ask you "what will we do this time?" and constantly want edgier and edgier roleplays. It's like they are kink tourists and my bedroom is an all you can eat buffet.

Oh my god THIS.
I wondered when I first started escorting if I would have to do as many services, outfits, and options as possible to be able cater to enough clients to make good money.
With experience I realise these 'buffet' clients are not the ones I want at all. I think it's better to pick your niche or corner of the market and do that well rather than trying to cater to everything.
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Re: Getting/keeping regulars [split from other topic]
« Reply #25 on: 02 March 2023, 02:31:09 pm »
I’ve ‘retired’ and returned to the industry a number of times due to work, relationships, children and have been really lucky to keep my regulars even when I’ve had a five year gap. I think it comes down to a number of things.

Being genuine and doing what it says on the tin.

My locations/physical attributes / services have changed many times over the years but my clients know that I will always be honest. I look like and provide what I say I will and they know that they can trust me.

Be fair.

I won’t let anyone take the pee but I am always fair, if I cock up I admit and apologise and make up for it. If someone cancels reasonably I don’t penalise them for it and for instance one client on his first time visiting me walked in, paid me for 3 hours and was so nervous he left after 15. I gave him the majority of the money back. He still sees me regularly 14 years on.

Take time to get to know them.

Yes of course they’re kinks and what they want sexually but outside of that. I often feel as though I’m meeting an old friend because I am and they feel that too. One of my regulars has moved on sexually to being a slave, I don’t provide a service anything like that but he still comes to see me for GFE because we have built a rapport and he loves a good natter. Yes most like to try out new things but when you build trust with people most want to try new things with you. Lots of my regulars kinks have been explored first and foremost with me because they know they can trust me and even if it’s not my thing they know I will give it my best because I like to see them happy.

Always look at it from their point of view.

Your location, your facilities. Would you be happy and comfortable and feel as though the required effort has been made?

Have integrity.

My clients know that I have standards. Yes I sell sex and there is a risk to that but they know I won’t put them in any unnecessary risk. They also know that I am discreet. They know I care for my own discretion too and that puts them at ease.

Don’t get complacent.

It’s easy too. I think I’ve been guilty of it at times when I’m used to seeing someone. You stop making as much effort. Don’t make them feel as special. With regulars it’s even more important to do so. You kick yourself when you lose then because like I said they can feel like friends and they are safe and you know what you are getting.

Let them grow with you.

My personal life has changed in the last 14 or so years since starting out. As I said, so has my offerings etc. of course I’m careful about my identity but I get them in on it a little.

Only offering massage because of a health issue - I let them know and I make it a bloody good massage.

Not offering cim anymore as partner isn’t happy. I let them know and have a bit of fun with the idea of my hubby knowing what I’m up to.

Changing schedule because of my business commitments - lots of office content!