Author Topic: Realationship VS Calling Girl (Read 4071 times)

BellaBelle · « **on:** 14 December 2012, 04:47:55 pm »

Hello Girls,

I wanted to talk about a situation, which i think much of us are living,

Being in a Relationship,

My scenario is the following:

I'm in a relationship for 10 months pretty new, but not much, depends on the view.
The first 5 months i could easily work, and do my outcalls, and juggle with Boyfriend,
But after he moved with me, at the 5Th month,
so I'm not taking and working, just spending my earns on my bills,
He sometimes help with the bills of the house not as i want it, as for that I'm getting debts,

We argue this week for a silly stupid misunderstood, (long story, if you like will share it soon)

And he disappeared,
we were all worried for him, not knowing for 2 days
he didnt even went to work

Following this,

I got the info hes been out at some brodel, and been ina a hotel for 2 days etc,
we havent talk yet.

He doesn't know i work occasionally as a courtesan.
Its my secret.

he does know yes i have lots of working girls friends , and he also know them as friends.

Now i ve got a Request for this weekend, as i posted before.

I didint wanted to take, for the thing of loyalty to our relationship, and fidelity, respect.

But know after realizing what hes done,

I Will do it,

I feel much sorrow inside cause the situation with him of betrayal,

Anyways,

its difficult, but after this
i will make more decisions, on this path i choose to work as a courtesan.

I might even will enter to the most important club
to have more traffic, and pick up more clients
more movement for my earnings
i know this is working at night, i never done this before,

But i wanna try it,

The thing is, on how to cope, with him, living in my hose,
as me going to work every night from 9pm to 3am maybe
its difficult life,
but what can i do?

i need incomes
cause I'm getting lots of bills to pay

its difficult rite?

How would you girls Work about this situation?
What would you do,

Your analyzing and Opinions Advices,

eager for them to start a new option for myself

Thank you Very much for your patience, reading me
and your Thoughts.

Much love to you all.

Have a wonderful day.

BellaBelle

xw5 · « **Reply #1 on:** 14 December 2012, 05:13:09 pm »

You are not the only one to have a partner who does not know what's happening. A search here will come up with some posts about it, but it is a hard position to be in.

In your case, I suspect the advice you will get will be 'tell him or end the relationship...' which may well end the relationship. If it doesn't, you need to sort out the money, sex and other issues.

Jan10 · « **Reply #2 on:** 14 December 2012, 05:19:57 pm »

He sometimes helps with the bills?? well that's kind of him, I know what I'd do I'd send him packing to sometimes pay his bill where he lives see how far that get's him. One thing I can't stand and that's men happy to live off women, very unattractive and a big no no. Stay with him if you are happy to be struggling and getting into to debt and not being able to work if you want to get out of the situation you havefound yourself in having him as a bf.

Lady_Lust_XXX · « **Reply #3 on:** 14 December 2012, 05:21:57 pm »

I wouldnt find myself in that position but if anything remotely like that happened to me I would be like Jan10 and kick him to the kerb. You dont need hassle like this guy. Good luck.

DianaMurphy · « **Reply #4 on:** 14 December 2012, 05:48:33 pm »

He moved in after 5 months and sometimes pays the bills? Erm, pay your way or the highway matey! If you don't feel comfortable telling him what you do and wish to continue doing so then it's going to become too much at some point whilst living this lie. If he disrespects you enough to go missing for days without any contact then I doubt very much that he is going to respect your feelings when you try and explain to him that you're a working girl!

Lady_Lust_XXX · « **Reply #5 on:** 14 December 2012, 06:04:22 pm »

What I would be very careful about is telling him what you are doing as you are giving him ammunition to out you and emotionally blackmail you. If you do see sense and get rid then I suggest you just do it without mentioning the job for it could end very badly if you tell him.

ana30 · « **Reply #6 on:** 14 December 2012, 07:36:02 pm »

Quote

I got the info hes been out at some brodel, and been ina a hotel for 2 days etc,
we havent talk yet.
But know after realizing what hes done,

He doesn't know i work occasionally as a courtesan.
Its my secret.
its difficult rite?

How would you girls Work about this situation?
What would you do,
I feel much sorrow inside cause the situation with him of betrayal,

Well... Basically you've been cheating on him all this time (sleeping with other people and lying about it is called cheating in my dictionary). And the guy ran to a bordello for a couple of days and you feel completely outraged. So In your mind "it's OK if YOU cheat but it's not OK if HE does it"?. Double standards anyone? Thats not very fair don't you think?

He's not letting you make a living and he's not helping financially on top of it. My honest opinion: This is the perfect excuse to get rid of him cause he's not bringing much happiness to your life from the sound of it.You cannot afford having him living with you cause you can't do your escorting work. The other option is kick him out of the house and tell him that -for now- you want to live by yourself as the relationship is not working like you would like. Go back to your escort job, make money again and keep him at distance. That. or find a civvie job, Let him live with you and tell him that either he splits the bills 50-50 or "hasta luego"

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #7 on:** 14 December 2012, 08:45:35 pm »

Quote from: BellaBelle on 14 December 2012, 04:47:55 pm

Hello Girls,

I wanted to talk about a situation, which i think much of us are living,

Being in a Relationship,

My scenario is the following:

I'm in a relationship for 10 months pretty new, but not much, depends on the view.
The first 5 months i could easily work, and do my outcalls, and juggle with Boyfriend,
But after he moved with me, at the 5Th month,
so I'm not taking and working, just spending my earns on my bills,
He sometimes help with the bills of the house not as i want it, as for that I'm getting debts,

We argue this week for a silly stupid misunderstood, (long story, if you like will share it soon)

And he disappeared,
we were all worried for him, not knowing for 2 days
he didnt even went to work

Following this,

I got the info hes been out at some brodel, and been ina a hotel for 2 days etc,
we havent talk yet.

He doesn't know i work occasionally as a courtesan.
Its my secret.

he does know yes i have lots of working girls friends , and he also know them as friends.

Now i ve got a Request for this weekend, as i posted before.

I didint wanted to take, for the thing of loyalty to our relationship, and fidelity, respect.

But know after realizing what hes done,

I Will do it,

I feel much sorrow inside cause the situation with him of betrayal,

Anyways,

its difficult, but after this
i will make more decisions, on this path i choose to work as a courtesan.

I might even will enter to the most important club
to have more traffic, and pick up more clients
more movement for my earnings
i know this is working at night, i never done this before,

But i wanna try it,

The thing is, on how to cope, with him, living in my hose,
as me going to work every night from 9pm to 3am maybe
its difficult life,
but what can i do?

i need incomes
cause I'm getting lots of bills to pay

its difficult rite?

How would you girls Work about this situation?
What would you do,

Your analyzing and Opinions Advices,

eager for them to start a new option for myself

Thank you Very much for your patience, reading me
and your Thoughts.

Much love to you all.

Have a wonderful day.

BellaBelle

That is why I don't date because problems happen. Even if he does go to a brothel cheating. I would let it go as am not hypercritical in secret being faithful virgin Mary. That is what many guys do is cheat at the end of the day. Their horny constantly remember always wanting to try different levels tightness. They also get bored quickly. So this shouldn't be to no surprise really.

ParisB · « **Reply #8 on:** 14 December 2012, 09:24:56 pm »

He sounds like a cocklodger

Sometimes pays bills = cocklodger in my books

Tell him to fuck off to the far side and when he gets there fuck off some more!!!!!

However on the other hand. You have lied to him he doesn't know that you sleep with men for money
So you can't really get the moral high handed if goes out and sleeps with a few girls from a brothel

Same thing can't get upset if he's out shagging other people or visiting escorts if your doing the same thing in my books

BellaBelle · « **Reply #9 on:** 14 December 2012, 10:39:01 pm »

Quote from: Ana30 on 14 December 2012, 07:36:02 pm

Quote
I got the info hes been out at some brodel, and been ina a hotel for 2 days etc,
we haven't talk yet.
But know after realizing what hes done,

He doesn't know i work occasionally as a courtesan.
Its my secret.
its difficult rite?

How would you girls Work about this situation?
What would you do,
I feel much sorrow inside cause the situation with him of betrayal,

Well... Basically you've been cheating on him all this time (sleeping with other people and lying about it is called cheating in my dictionary). And the guy ran to a bordello for a couple of days and you feel completely outraged. So In your mind "it's OK if YOU cheat but it's not OK if HE does it". Double standards anyone? That's not very fair don't you think?

He's not letting you make a living and he's not helping financially on top of it. My honest opinion: This is the perfect excuse to get rid of him cause he's not bringing much happiness to your life from the sound of it.You cannot afford having him living with you cause you can't do your escorting work. The other option is kick him out of the house and tell him that -for now- you want to live by yourself as the relationship is not working like you would like. Go back to your escort job, make money again and keep him at distance. That. or find a civvie job, Let him live with you and tell him that either he splits the bills 50-50 or "hasta luego"

Dear Ana,

Thank you for your reply.
On your first part about the cheating.

That's why after we moved togheter , never been working again,
and working as a civilian, but not earning almost nuthing, compared as companion job.

But now after this incident, i will do the job this Saturday, as he didn't appeared not even called,
i think he must be very ashamed on what hes done,
cause he broke our terms, and promises.

We definitely need to do some therapy togheter, to sort out our things, that has been troubling.

And yes the easiest way would be kicked him out , i know you are rite,

but i really L him.. i think he does with me too,
hes a man, very confused at the moment, i don't wanna excuse him
i know what hes done,
before telling him me.

i want to be with him, but cannot accept this behaviours, as soon as we have a problem, discussion, or in-satisfaction from me to him, or viceverse.

On the night job i told you for me to do...

i was wondering, if you girls when having Boyf, and you have to work at nite, what you do?
i don't wanna lie
but this is what brings me more money, and to be honest this job, makes me feel alive, and
wanted, and i can earn much more money in less time, than what i can earn in a whole month working long hrs, and getting home dead.

But as one of the girls said, i don't wanna say this
case being blackmailed later u know
or in some discussion he could shout and say you are a hooker, why i cant fuck hooker too,
it has to be a very equilibrating man to share that
and i don't think hes in that position now...
what do u think
this is a small city...
i used to work with foreign that come to the country

ana30 · « **Reply #10 on:** 14 December 2012, 11:06:09 pm »

Quote

i was wondering, if you girls when having Boyf, and you have to work at nite, what you do?
i don't wanna lie
but this is what brings me more money, and to be honest this job, makes me feel alive, and
wanted, and i can earn much more money in less time, than what i can earn in a whole month working long hrs, and getting home dead.

Well... you're in a tough spot...but In'm afraid nobody can answer that question for you. If you don't like to lie you're going to have to be honest with him.. but you don't want too cause you're afraid of him blackmailing you...

You're either going to a) suck it u and lie to him or b) be honest and fear hell on earth plus possible blackmail. Personally -for now- I would get him out of the house and continue seeing him (just not live together) and tell him you're working as a personal care taker at night for some old lady who's ill (like a night nurse). Just make sure you back up your story properly cause if he finds out...it's going to be baaaaaad... And the worst part: He'll be totally right for being mad at you cause you've been lying to him.

BellaBelle · « **Reply #11 on:** 15 December 2012, 01:09:16 am »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 14 December 2012, 08:45:35 pm

Quote from: BellaBelle on 14 December 2012, 04:47:55 pm
Hello Girls,

I wanted to talk about a situation, which i think much of us are living,

Being in a Relationship,

My scenario is the following:

I'm in a relationship for 10 months pretty new, but not much, depends on the view.
The first 5 months i could easily work, and do my outcalls, and juggle with Boyfriend,
But after he moved with me, at the 5Th month,
so I'm not taking and working, just spending my earns on my bills,
He sometimes help with the bills of the house not as i want it, as for that I'm getting debts,

We argue this week for a silly stupid misunderstood, (long story, if you like will share it soon)

And he disappeared,
we were all worried for him, not knowing for 2 days
he didn't even went to work

Following this,

I got the info hes been out at some brodel, and been In a a hotel for 2 days etc,
we haven't talk yet.

He doesn't know i work occasionally as a courtesan.
Its my secret.

he does know yes i have lots of working girls friends , and he also know them as friends.

Now i ve got a Request for this weekend, as i posted before.

I didint wanted to take, for the thing of loyalty to our relationship, and fidelity, respect.

But know after realizing what hes done,

I Will do it,

I feel much sorrow inside cause the situation with him of betrayal,

Anyways,

its difficult, but after this
i will make more decisions, on this path i choose to work as a courtesan.

I might even will enter to the most important club
to have more traffic, and pick up more clients
more movement for my earnings
i know this is working at night, i never done this before,

But i wanna try it,

The thing is, on how to cope, with him, living in my hose,
as me going to work every night from 9pm to 3am maybe
its difficult life,
but what can i do?

i need incomes
cause I'm getting lots of bills to pay

its difficult rite?

How would you girls Work about this situation?
What would you do,

Your analyzing and Opinions Advices,

eager for them to start a new option for myself

Thank you Very much for your patience, reading me
and your Thoughts.

Much love to you all.

Have a wonderful day.

BellaBelle

That is why I don't date because problems happen. Even if he does go to a brothel cheating. I would let it go as am not hypercritical in secret being faithful virgin Mary. That is what many guys do is cheat at the end of the day. Their horny constantly remember always wanting to try different levels tightness. They also get bored quickly. So this shouldn't be to no surprise really.

I was like you before setled down with him, and i knew his behaviour as well, not a saint,
But he didn't like it me dating others guys while being w him, and him as well with me,
We settled after 5 months of dating and move on togheter,

And i know the stories, and for this whole time we both behave so well with eachother, being monogamous,

Anyways, as ones had told me, if i still want to continue with him i should certainly reorder, and maybe have a couples therapist to solve differences, and help eachother to be well and best of ourselves

But you are saying its perfect the cold hard truth and reality,
who more better know about it.

Thank you for your Reply

have a lovely eve,

love,

Bella.

BellaBelle · « **Reply #12 on:** 15 December 2012, 01:19:13 am »

Quote from: Ana30 on 14 December 2012, 11:06:09 pm

Quote
i was wondering, if you girls when having Boyf, and you have to work at nite, what you do?
i don't wanna lie
but this is what brings me more money, and to be honest this job, makes me feel alive, and
wanted, and i can earn much more money in less time, than what i can earn in a whole month working long hrs, and getting home dead.

Well... you're in a tough spot...but I'm afraid nobody can answer that question for you. If you don't like to lie you're going to have to be honest with him.. but you don't want too cause you're afraid of him blackmailing you...

You're either going to a) suck it u and lie to him or b) be honest and fear hell on earth plus possible blackmail. Personally -for now- I would get him out of the house and continue seeing him (just not live together) and tell him you're working as a personal care taker at night for some old lady who's ill (like a night nurse). Just make sure you back up your story properly cause if he finds out...it's going to be baaaaaad... And the worst part: He'll be totally right for being mad at you cause you've been lying to him.

You are rite in the point of blackmailing, that's why i didn't, i dont have so much trust with him, and openness, to tell such thing... maybe cause i know he lies a lot...um..

The nightnurse idea its perfect, ill do that's if things got solved and i let him in my place, as he says our place.

And tell him i really need the money as he cant help me now so much cause his financial problems.

You gave me a great advice Ana thank you very much, i will work on that
in a way i can start this new challenge its being my head for long.

Take care beautiful.

Love.

Bella.

BellaBelle · « **Reply #13 on:** 15 December 2012, 01:33:07 am »

Quote from: ParisB on 14 December 2012, 09:24:56 pm

He sounds like a cocklodger

Sometimes pays bills = cocklodger in my books

Tell him to fuck off to the far side and when he gets there fuck off some more!!!!!

However on the other hand. You have lied to him he doesn't know that you sleep with men for money
So you can't really get the moral high handed if goes out and sleeps with a few girls from a brothel

Its truth but my clients were before ourself came stable, i knew he were dating others while we were starting, and i accept that and didn't said nuthing, thou he allways denied it.
But did cause of my job,

I froze my job, when we moved together, so i was not cheating him anymore,
we were supposedly in a more serious and real space,
but now.. after what had happend this last days...
m...
He haven't called yet,
i guess hes guilty must be eating his guts,m.. i dont know

Same thing can't get upset if he's out shagging other people or visiting escorts if your doing the same thing in my books

Auu Paris you a woman,
u are lovely, its nice to see that.

Thank you very much for you Advice,
Take care, and have a lovely eve,

love

Bella.

BellaBelle · « **Reply #14 on:** 15 December 2012, 02:00:35 am »

Quote from: xw5 on 14 December 2012, 05:13:09 pm

You are not the only one to have a partner who does not know what's happening. A search here will come up with some posts about it, but it is a hard position to be in.

In your case, I suspect the advice you will get will be 'tell him or end the relationship...' which may well end the relationship. If it doesn't, you need to sort out the money, sex and other issues.

I know this i wanted to know how you girls today feel about this.
And how you work with the situation,

Its right, I'm hearing , reading you girls, I'm realling trying not to throw all, to the trash, as the easiest way to do.
but how the way to work with this situation, and the possibilities of good solutions, to solve it reaming together, and me could continue working, or him
coping with bills at my place.

thank you very much for writing me

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