Author Topic: Re: Really need some advice (Read 2330 times)

Aaliyah30 · « **on:** 12 December 2024, 12:05:36 pm »

Hi girls, I don’t really know where to start with this question as I’m in a bit of a sticky situation so forgive me if this isn’t super coherent xxx basically I’ve been dealing with a stalker for the past few years (police are involved) and due to the constant harassment I’ve now had to completely delete my Adultwork profile which I’ve been relying on 100% for the past few years as my only way to advertise. I have tried changing my name a few times but unfortunately I keep getting reviews on the main external review site which are then connecting me back to my old profiles and linking them together so it’s made it almost impossible for me to avoid being traced back. I’ve emailed them previously asking them to remove my reviews due to the situation but didn’t hear back so I emailed again today this time adding the police investigator to the email and hoping they will be able to take them down. I also heard that there is a right to be forgotten law (not totally sure how this works but included it?) so I’m thinking if they don’t reply I may need to get a solicitor involved once I’ve saved up some more money to pay for that.

My main concern now though is advertising and making some money asap as I haven’t been the best with saving (stupid I know) and I need to get it together very quickly now. I’m planning to make a profile on vivastreet today and wondered if there were any locations that you girls know of where it is popular? I’m lucky as I’m able to tour or even go to completely new locations where Adultwork isn’t used just so I can get some money together as quickly as possible.

Another concern I have is of keeping my identity as hidden as possible - do you girls think it would be a good idea for me to wear a completely different hair colour (as a wig) or use facetune to add some fake tattoos or something along those lines? I really don’t want to be found again as it’s gotten very dangerous for my safety at this point.

Any advice would be really appreciated as I’m at a loss as what to do. I’ve heard Ireland doesn’t use Adultwork as much so I’m even considering going there for a bit or maybe Scotland? I offer domination services too and don’t have the money currently to get a website done or professional photos but I do have a few regulars in different locations so hoping I can let them know once I’ve sorted this situation out and start making some money as quick as possible to get back on my feet again. Getting back on AW isn’t an option at the moment until the reviews are removed which could be several months at least so I need to learn to make money without it as this is my only income.

Thank you for everything and sorry this is such a ramble I’m just in a total mess at the moment xxxx

Gazaro · « **Reply #1 on:** 12 December 2024, 03:31:32 pm »

You haven't written what your situation exactly is, can you just move completely to another place? Moving places is good in general. Then you could completely delete your AW account and start a new one.
Yes, you can try vivastreet but be prepared for constant requests to send a face picture, etc. But the good thing about this website is that you're anonymous. Girls from there are hardly ever reviewed, you just come and go.

oleyoleyWG · « **Reply #2 on:** 12 December 2024, 05:51:19 pm »

Fucking hell i hope your ok, would you be able to do something else sex work related for a while like stripping? Agency work in london? Or escort independently in europe maybe. Im not sure but you sound super stressed and i hope you get sorted xx

lora · « **Reply #3 on:** 13 December 2024, 01:03:14 am »

If you can just move to another far away part of the country. Change your hair, name, age ,anything that could identify you. Maybe work for an agency instead of through AW.

DarcyLady · « **Reply #4 on:** 13 December 2024, 08:29:28 am »

I am so so sorry you're going through this. I really hope you're ok, and looking after yourself. I wear a wig when working, which has helped because it changes your entire look. I'd definitely stay off AW for a while - how about camming for a bit? Or working with an agency away from your current location? You really need to put your safety and wellbeing first. Thinking of you x

Aaliyah30 · « **Reply #5 on:** 13 December 2024, 08:34:56 am »

Thanks for all the advice xx I’m going to have a look at agency options for the short term and try advertising on completely different platforms and see how I get on for a bit at least until everything calms down xx I can move to a completely different place it’s just that I tend to tour the same locations regularly as I’ve built up some regulars in these places and the stalker I’ve picked up unfortunately follows my profile like a hawk - bombarding me with private calls constantly and leaving bad reviews etc and linking each new profile I’ve made so needing to avoid Adultwork for a little while at least . Thank you so much again I really appreciate it, this has been such a lesson with not relying on Adultwork on its own too

lora · « **Reply #6 on:** 13 December 2024, 06:07:14 pm »

Yeah definitely try an agency or maybe a parlour. Some of them don't even require you to have any photos on their site. And often they will let you sleep there overnight too so you can save on hotels. Also if you're working around other people it might you feel safer too

SiberianFox · « **Reply #7 on:** 13 December 2024, 07:57:29 pm »

I would look at massage parlours, where punters come in and ‘pick you’ without having photos online? Or if you do have photos, assume a completely different persona, different hair colour, hairstyle, clothes style, nail shape, nationality?

lora · « **Reply #8 on:** 14 December 2024, 02:03:11 am »

Also some parlours allow you to see the clients before they see you. Either with security cameras or one way glass..since often the ladies there are local and worry about seeing people they know in real life. You can make good money in parlours but you will need to work at a much higher volume than on AW.

OverTheHill · « **Reply #9 on:** 14 December 2024, 11:45:16 am »

This is a horrible situation.

My advice (hard as it may be) would be the following:

1) Take a break from independent work (maybe 2 months and delete your AW profile). He will then not be able to track you.
2) Work Agency or Parlour.
3) When you re-start on AW, work in new areas and completely ditch your old destinations (this is the difficult part as it pushes us out of our comfort zone and you lose regs) but I think it’s necessary.
4) I agree with your idea of wig, adding tattoos, photo blurring etc. I would change hair colour completely and make sure my pictures were taken in such a way that they bear no resemblance to your previous pictures.

He’ll have a very hard time finding you if you completely reinvent yourself (I hope).

Remember that you can take ‘body part’ pictures and not show your full self. I don’t mean intimate, but say legs, bum and the like.

If I was in your position, this is what I would do. Also, I would not advertise exactly the same services (you might need to get creative).

I honestly believe you will come out on top in the end.

Wishing you the best of luck x

Aaliyah30 · « **Reply #10 on:** 14 December 2024, 08:45:56 pm »

Hi again guys xx I will definitely have a look into parlours thank you so much I’ll have a proper google tomorrow and send a few emails just to get some money in at the moment and saving on hotels would be such a blessing with how expensive they can be right now! Thank you so much for the advice it’s a God send when I’ve been so stressed recently!

And thank you for that OverTheHill! It’s going to be so tough to completely restart but it looks like I have no choice at this point given the situation and how long the harassment has been going on for. It’s very painful as id built up regulars and so on but safety is so much important so im going to have a proper think into how I advertise and what sort of service I offer in future now. I do worry that if I look completely different in my pictures clients may be confused when they arrive but it has to be done at this point!

Thank you everyone once again I appreciate all the advice and kind words so so much!xx

RB1 · « **Reply #11 on:** 15 December 2024, 07:39:21 am »

If you mean external sites like ( [a punting forum] ) are linking you to a new profile then the only thing you can do about that is when you start a new profile if they link it to your old profile use a solicitor
to get [a punting forum] to remove any new reviews /linking you to your old profile

It will cost you maybe 400 -1k ( 200 a letter ). Might be less as you can get the solicitor to mention police involvement

But I do know of several ladies who have been successful in getting old reviews removed and basically not linking to old profile ( feel free to PM me if you want my friends details and solicitors details )

The solicitor my friend used is excellent and because he’s already successfully helped other ladies the process dosent take to long

But you would have to wait until their is another review/ linking you I think

My friend has used this particular solicitor to get other stuff removed over the years
A few months ago that horrible cretin George McCoy refused to remove an advert he put of me on his site
I asked him several times to remove my advert on his site and he kept ignoring my emails

So in a fit of rage I sent him a particularly shitty email telling him that if he didn’t remove my details he would be hearing from this particular solicitor and my details were removed within an hour
Saved me 200 quid just mentioning his name 😂

One thing I will say is that you will totally have to change everything
Different style of posing make out your from somewhere else
If a client ask are you xxx your going to have to say no not me

Keep your diary on AW blocked so it makes it a bit harder to book you

One More Rodeo · « **Reply #12 on:** 15 December 2024, 10:44:22 am »

For regulars you could ask them if they want to be emailed when you're in the area.
It's more discreet than texting and would potentially allow you to do a pre-booked tour that wouldn't be advertised anywhere.

regieeee · « **Reply #13 on:** 15 December 2024, 02:08:01 pm »

You did everything well : in particular, asking the Police to help.
Were they helpful? Stalking is a crime. It's not you who needs to
"go away". Seek support and help via the Police or NHS etc.
They do deal with online stalking as well-that's also considered illegal.

Good luck.

Aaliyah30 · « **Reply #14 on:** 15 December 2024, 04:22:52 pm »

Hi RB1 - Thank you so much for this, I will definitely PM you for the details of the solicitor as it’s looking like I will have to go down that route eventually as I still haven’t heard back from the outing forum re: my reviews yet. I will also get the police to send a separate follow up email to see if that helps in the meantime! That’s amazing that you got the review down just by name dropping haha he must be good!! And absolutely my goal is to get some quick money together asap and then completely rebrand in the new year and basically just start it all again. Really hoping to get back on my feet in the next few months once I’ve done that xxx

Thanks One More Rodeo - I will send a few messages this afternoon to see if I can get a little pre booked tour in London before the end of the year where I have quite a few lovely regulars which I’d be so sad to lose! Xxx

And the police have been amazing Regieeee - they’ve contacted adultwork to gather evidence (as my stalker was leaving horrid abuse on there using the booking system which AW subsequently removed) and they’ve been calling regularly to see how I’ve been getting on with it all. Thank you so much for the advice - I’m hoping he gets locked away so he can’t do this to anyone else going forward either! Xxxx

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