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Adele7

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Domination
« on: 08 October 2017, 06:24:09 pm »
I've seriously been thinking about offering this service but dare not do so unless I know what I am doing. Can anyone offer advice on how to learn to be a proper dominatrix?
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Re: Domination
« Reply #1 on: 08 October 2017, 09:24:56 pm »
You won't be proper dominatrix from the start.

I suggest start offering mild domination services, which usually will be humiliation, foot fetish/worship, body worship, small cock humiliation, let him sock strap on, cross dressing, maybe some light spanking, anal fingering, etc.

Proper domination and guys who want real hardcore domination, you couldn't service them from the start as it needs much information as how to spank to not hurt anyone, how to peg to not hurt his asshole :D, some guys want ballbusting, CBT, extreme flogging, etc. which really needs a person that has more than some information on these subjects.

As to be good service provider/domina is only needed to listen what guys want, ask them and look at their body language.
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Re: Domination
« Reply #2 on: 08 October 2017, 11:42:58 pm »
I believe some dominatrixes will train others?

Also, bear in mind that if you go full-on domme, you'll be expected to have a lot of equipment (some of it bulky and expensive) and a proper venue.
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Re: Domination
« Reply #3 on: 09 October 2017, 11:56:27 am »
Quote from: Kay on 08 October 2017, 11:42:58 pm
I believe some dominatrixes will train others?

Also, bear in mind that if you go full-on domme, you'll be expected to have a lot of equipment (some of it bulky and expensive) and a proper venue.

That's right, had a friend who was Domme who had a few clients who allowed a newbie to sit in to watch. They were usually blindfolded! I don't think it's something I would offer as I don't have the balls to do it. Had a guy wanting to bite his neck really hard the other day and I thought I was going to draw blood if he asked for it any harder!

Maybe ask on the seeking and offering section and you might get someone happy to teach you the (bondage) ropes.
« Last Edit: 09 October 2017, 02:33:27 pm by Shwiftysquancher91 »
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Re: Domination
« Reply #4 on: 09 October 2017, 01:37:04 pm »
I'm also considering offering more dom services. Found alot of advice at the LAM and people Im meeting there.
 (I am not mentioning i work though!!!!!!) Maybe try to spemd some time learning about and getting involbed with the community to get a better feel for it?

 The costs involved in offering a real dom service are terrifying so maybe try to gradually ease into dom? Start offering some,then more and more... time consuming but maybe safer than throwing yourself in at the deep end.
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Re: Domination
« Reply #5 on: 09 October 2017, 09:14:49 pm »
Kink/sub clients are normally quite hard work compared to vanilla ones, as they are usually quite specific and fussy about their kink, you definitely can't wing it. Id say you offer mild domination, any enquiries make sure they are very clear about what they want and what the session would ideally consist of, then you can decide if you can honestly do it to a decent standard and if so then discuss yours and their boundaries. Let them know you aren't very experienced and you'll be fine, just don't mislead anybody, I found kink takes a lot of creativity, knowledge and experience to do, never mind all the equipment and how to use it safely! Right now I do spanking/flogging, tie & tease, light nipple and ballbusting, forced fem, body/foot/feet worship, and trampling, it's quite fun!
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Re: Domination
« Reply #6 on: 09 October 2017, 10:54:22 pm »
Like Happy says, going to munches is a good start. It's not something that interests me at all, but my sister was a domme and she lived the lifestyle 24/7. I think the BDSM community can sniff out 'wannabes' very quickly. TBH, unless you're genuinely interested in being a domme, I wouldn't do it. As said, sub clients can be incredibly annoying and needy (and many aren't really sub). You may also get requests for stuff where you need to know what you're doing in a 'medical' sense, i.e. needle play, asphyxiation and sounding.
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Re: Domination
« Reply #7 on: 09 October 2017, 11:50:12 pm »
Don't bother with the munches. Been there tried it and it was worse than a day after hard anal. Painful and irritating. Have a look at other mistresses and what they offer, watch some bdsm porn, maybe start some domination via webcam so you get a feel for it. And find what exactly you are happy and most importantly comfortable in offering.you could also talk to other mistresses about what they do (although some may not be so friendly)
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Re: Domination
« Reply #8 on: 10 October 2017, 11:29:26 am »
once a girl, friend of friend propose me to learn...
i should act as submissive with her..
i didn t because it is not my things...but if you want you can find a girl that teach you in exchange of picture and to take some booking where you play as submissive.

i think that mentally is very hard thing to do, to me you should be a bit domme as personality as well!
or have gooooood acting skills...
i can not do that...i am too sweat by nature! and i do not like to see men in this role..i am more old fashioned and i like men that drive me but not dominant...i am more for balanced roles in life and in the sex

play tie and tease is ok...it is light and exciting more than that it is too much

The girl that i met she do watersport, she rent a dungeon in Central London, guys paying her for feet pictures...she is absolutely on control of men..for her is easy!
She is very natural dominant, you can see that immediately, you do not need to know that she is working as domma!
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