After taking a short break from escorting, I've come to the conclusion that I really dont want to persue it again.
I really enjoyed the few months that I did do as an indie, however I seemed to have one hurdle after another. ..just as I got a routine and rhythm going something would get in my way...being ill, irregular periods, change in permanent incall place twice etc etc.
I thought at first that I was getting burnt out by the obstacles I kept facing....but on more reflection I feel mentally different and feel like I cant activate that alter ego that I think keeps you going in this job. Hence why I haven't been able to go back.

I haven't worked now for at least 8 weeks, and of course the bills arent gonna pay themselves and I also have another little mouth to feed.  So I'm starting to feel the strain!
I think going back to a regular job is out of the question too, I think sex work changes you this way.

I've been trying to research Dominatrix, I know this is not a subject to be taken lightly and this is why I would want proper training. Also, I'm a bit of a perfectionist and I like to do a job properly.

Does anyone have any help or advice? Or can relate to how I'm feeling?

Any knowledge or advice would be appreciated as you all well know....its not the sort of subject you talk about round the dinner table :-)

Yasss
I have had the same issues. It is not easy being independant at all. When I first stumbled upon SAFFE I was at my lowest point even though to others I was ontop of my game by having a flat in London, 100% indie no pimp, agency or parlour and regular income.

But as some of my posts will show..As strong as I am I was a mess.

Sometimes I felt like I was breaking down because I was on my own with no one really to confide in and advise me or even to lend a shoulder to cry on..and cry I did.
Anyone that really cares will tell you when to pull your socks up and go out and face the world and do what you need to do WITH PRIDE. It may not be what you want to hear but the truth is a balm to a tourtured soul. Its called tough love and that is one of the most positve forms of love.

Honestly today I came across a prayer that I stashed away somewhere and only found it because i was going crazy looking for something that someone wanted from me that I coudnt find. But maybe it was meant to be because I found something that was a balm to my soul. So really they can wait, I will take care of that in due time but right then...I let their madness go and today I just let go and relaxed

Many times. Im sure my neighbours heard me weep pitifully and felt the pain my family and friends didnt hear. But within myself I knew that if/when If I got over it I will be ok. And over time I have.

Success is never easy. Im not saying I am successful but I have done things that many told me I would never do. And Im still striving for more.

You will have low days as well as the good but if you can see the good in this world and reject the bad you will control your destiny and live life according to your terms...aslong as the intention is positivity.

We will make mistakes. We all have vices but they are all tests. In your heart you know that your mind and your will to survive is stronger than any temporary setback. Tomorrow is always a new day. Aslong as the sun rises at dawn and babies are born there is hope for a better future.

You can do it. To make it you must be strong but acknowledging weakness is part of the process. That is growth, maturity and wisdom,

xxx

Girls I really appreciate your thoughts. The more honest the better.
I think because the ultimate stressful thing for me at the moment is lack of money.  I can't afford to live.  The simplestsollution would be to man-up and grin n bear it.  Unfortunately for me....if my heads not in it I can't bear to do it.  The thought of another cock in my mouth or no shows or sitting waiting on your own with your phone in a hotel room is filling me with dread.
Maybe I'm just feeling a little sorry for myself and it will pass....I was much happier in myself when i was working.
aghh....there is no pleasing me!

Thanks again thou ladies xx

You could also consider just doing really basic domination, such as facesitting (underwear on or off), foot worship, a traditional hand spanking, you could advertise massage and hand relief only sessions along side this.  Make it clear exactly what you specialise in and you should have no problems.  Not all guys are into the heavy stuff that requires a dungeon, there are plenty out there that want a mild hand spanking then a handjob, nothing complicated.

Couldn't agree more SS, do me work IMO takes up far more emotional, physical and metal energy than normal whoring ever did.

Ive escorted for donkeys years and never had a problem with burn out etc but years ago I did have a Dom friend in London who I visited once and I spent the day helping her out and I can tell you after that 1 day I left with a banging headache or migraine and I felt physically and mentally drained and exhausted.

Dom work is hard mentally and physically and escorting is a piece of piss compared to that..Don't forget you will need a dungeon or something similar add to that all the equipment you will need to buy (not cheap) and you will have to have complete faith to know what you are doing is what the client wants because many of them don't have a clue and so expect you to somehow understand what they want and cater for their fantasies.

I completely agree with all that Helen said above. Even if you decide to cater for the softer end of the Ds/Sm world you must have a natural confidence and complete understanding in the services you are offering and of the client's often unspoken expectations, wants, needs and limits and limitations. A lot of things can go wrong or cause injury if not carried out or observed correctly, even with the softer things.
It can be a psychologically intense service for both parties. There may also be a lot of "needy" out of hours contact via emails/phone/texts etc which need to be managed appropriately that can also be very draining and tiresome.

A Dominatrix is not, in my opinion, something you just decide to try and be for an alternative income.
Personally, if I were struggling with escorting I would struggle with Ds/Sm even more due to the heavy expectations clients would have of me. There is a lot more "take" with these appointments, by that I mean the Dominatrix carries a big burden of expectation that in the main is about indulging/satisfying the submissive, which unless of course, you are really into the lifestyle and this satisfies your own wants and desires etc you might not find it very fulfilling.
Sorry if I am rambling, it's just that it is a very complex world to try and explain and without using a lot of clich?s!

I was thinking of training to offer dom services but after reading this, I will stick to the mild stuff.

Thanks for sharing, ladies.

Thanks, SoulSurvivor, after reading what you have done I do feel it would be the best thing.

Having spoken to a couple of friends as well, they say the same thing: knackering, draining and easier to whore. x