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meetingdiversity

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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #150 on: 04 April 2017, 04:30:30 pm »
Oral is the (almost) universal act between men, not anal.

Interesting.....

sweetmilf

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« Reply #151 on: 04 April 2017, 06:37:06 pm »
we are the experts.
That's what I firmly believed...... ???  I thought it was a "trade secret" hence experts tips for anal are hardly discussed on the forum.

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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #152 on: 04 April 2017, 10:38:16 pm »
I do have to confess that I got most of my anal tips from Dan Savage. That was before I started escorting.
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sweetmilf

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« Reply #153 on: 04 April 2017, 11:07:29 pm »
VC, you killed this serious thread on anal where men have been wanking over.  ;D.

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« Reply #154 on: 04 April 2017, 11:19:58 pm »
I do have to confess that I got most of my anal tips from Dan Savage.

I have no idea who that is, but if memory serves I got virtually all my sex tips from Just Seventeen magazine *shows age* ;D

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« Reply #155 on: 04 April 2017, 11:27:18 pm »
That's what I firmly believed...... ???  I thought it was a "trade secret" hence experts tips for anal are hardly discussed on the forum.

That wasn't me, SM. I was quoting somebody else and (very gently) taking the piss at the weapons-grade mansplaining whilst reflecting on the fact that punters who try to contribute here pretending to be prossies but without putting any effort in to scrutinise how women write often seem surprised when we spot them after one post.

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« Reply #156 on: 30 July 2017, 03:11:26 pm »
I've decided to offer anal as an extra on my services - but I'm a bit concerned about condom splits with the extra tightness on entry.

Several years ago when I first started escort work, I used a Durex version that was suggested by a clinic for anal - it was good and i used it for work and private life bottom business. I think it was called Durex Strong.

I have been using Durex Extra Safes (although some punters have complained that I have these and brought their own super thin ones - I'm OK with theirs for front entry but not back door business).

I'm fairly tight and dont use butt plugs or poppers - so I need something strong and reliable - there are so many to choose from.

Are there any made for anal and what do other escorts have best experience with.

Any advice on anal lube also welcome - I'd like something I can put in before an appointment - I use ASDA Intimate gel at the moment but it tends to ooze out. Any experience out there????

I'm planning on an extra ?20 to ?30 for anal (Bristol) - any experience on what punters will pay? I want to charge extra both for the extra cash I'll get and also to limit it to once or twice a week. At the moment I'm getting between 1 and 3 appointments a day - sometimes none but sometimes 4 or even 5.... but I don't want them all asking for it - hence the need to price high and thin down the numbers.

I'm comfortable with anal and don't get sore if i do it now and then - any advice on how many times a week is too much?? :P

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« Reply #157 on: 30 July 2017, 05:26:41 pm »
Are there any made for anal and what do other escorts have best experience with.

All condoms are made for anal - if they weren't then they wouldn't be fit for purpose. I use Skyns for everything because they're latex free but before I found myself getting latex sensitive I used Mates Naturals which are about 16-18 quid a box from the Freedoms shop :). The only condoms I've ever had break were Durex and I never buy them now, nor would I use condoms that a punter had brought with him.

Any advice on anal lube also welcome - I'd like something I can put in before an appointment - I use ASDA Intimate gel at the moment but it tends to ooze out. Any experience out there????

I like Liquid Silk, but I don't apply it until it's time to start so I don't know about getting it inside (for anal especially). I do think that water based is better than silicone based for anal although I use silicone lube for everything else, but other people prefer it the other way around and I think it's a matter of trying a few and choosing what suits you.

any advice on how many times a week is too much?? :P

I don't think you can really work that out - it depends how rough the punter is, how long you keep doing it for and all sorts of other stuff; I'm good at telling them to be gentle when they're starting off and to slow down if necessary and I've never had to refuse it on the grounds of soreness, but it only takes one idiot to go at it like a bull in a china shop to put you out of action for the rest of the day and probably the next day too. Conversely I've had days where virtually every booking has included anal and provided everybody's behaved it's been no problem at all.

Anyway, there's a lot of info and advice upthread so have a read through :).

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« Reply #158 on: 30 July 2017, 05:35:30 pm »
I started replying to this post before Amy merged it, and she said most of what I was going to, but I'll add that my recommendation for lube is Doc Johnson's "Golden Girl" anal jelly, I've found it really goes the distance.

Also just wanted to ask if there's a reason you don't want to use butt plugs before an anal booking?
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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #159 on: 30 July 2017, 06:05:33 pm »
I'd just say avoid Durex as overall I've found they're the brand most likely to break. The client won't have much sensitivity but EXS Extra Safe are thick and strong. Otherwise Mates, Skins, Skyns or Pasante have all been fine with me.
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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #160 on: 30 July 2017, 06:13:12 pm »
Also just wanted to ask if there's a reason you don't want to use butt plugs before an anal booking?

I agree that Doc Johnson was always the go-to brand for specialist anal stuff - they have a big range of lubes and Lovehoney would be a good place for a look. I'm too cheap to buy lots of different things when one of each will do ;D

I don't use butt plugs as I find even the small ones very uncomfortable, so maybe that's it? It's not something I've ever given much thought to but I find the sensation really unpleasant (in the same way that I'd find walking around my flat feeling like I was about to poo myself pretty unpleasant too :D).

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« Reply #161 on: 30 July 2017, 06:43:21 pm »
Thanks for all the suggestions.

Why don't I like butt plugs??? - well I guess it is a bit of an embarassment thing - I don't like the idea of the punter finding it and taking it out (I actually like the feeling of it being in - but on my own in my own time). I also find that with most cocks I can get them in quite easily if I use my hand to gape it open for them. I have some regular clients who are too big but want to do it and even with a super gape effort and them being gentle, it just wont go - square peg.... round hole ...lol

How long do you think the stretched and easy access lasts after you take out a plug??? I find that I tighten up again after 5 ot 10 mins. Is it worth putting it and taking it out before the appointment to satisfy my clients with "square pegs" ????

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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #162 on: 30 July 2017, 06:53:09 pm »
one thing on Pasante - is it just me or do they smell strongly of rubber when others dont. I have had some clients comment on me smelling of condoms when the go down on me when I used Pasante - even 5 hours and a good shower later. I avoid for that reason. I once had a punter whose cock smelt of rubber and when I asked him why he told me that he had fucked his wife with a Pasante the night before!!

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« Reply #163 on: 30 July 2017, 09:01:18 pm »
I find Pasante really unpleasant for the smell and I also find the King size and super king really uncomfortable to use. The rolled rubber ring seems very thick. I now use My.Size condoms which I order off Amazon. They are expensive but I'd rather spend a little more and feel comfortable.

I don't offer anal to clients but I do it in my private life. I usually put a small-ish butt plug in an hour or so before the meet then take it out just before they arrive. It works for me, but each to their own and when it comes to butt stuff you definitely need to work out what is your own!
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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #164 on: 31 July 2017, 04:04:47 pm »
Yes always offer it, even as a basic service as I don't enjoy vaginal. I do get lots of guys wanting it. It can feel as though I'm going for a shit backwards if I'm not in the mood I guess but generally I like it or I wouldn't do it. I took 10" earlier too. Not had such a big one for some time. So proud of myself for managing it.

I don't particularly enjoy toys up my bum though and have to really be in the mood for fingers...go figure?