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Fabulassie

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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #75 on: 07 April 2015, 06:00:07 pm »
I would agree that you shouldn't offer it just for the money. However, it won't hurt to indulge in a bit of play with someone you trust. You may find that you do like it, after all.

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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #76 on: 20 April 2015, 06:59:00 pm »
Omg I love anal. I rarely do vaginal. I don't charge extra for it, it's included. I honestly would hate to do a booking without it unless I had a dodgy tummy of course. My only annoyance with it is having to do enemas beforehand n if the guy isn't slow at first n doesn't take it easy when going in. That can hurt. But once I'm relaxed he's welcome to be as rough as he likes. And some guys just seem to fit like a glove n enter without any discomfort whatsoever which I adore. I would say though that if you don't like it don't offer it. I found it seriously painful n awful when I first attempted anal a long time ago. It took a longterm boyfriend over some years to get me to the point of actually loving it.

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« Reply #77 on: 20 April 2015, 07:45:50 pm »
I'm a little embarrassed to say this, given the amount of years on and off I have been escorting, but I am an anal virgin!  :-\ However, given that it seems to be a popular thing at the minute and guys are willing to pay a little more for it and anal play, I am now considering it.

However, I have a few questions about it for anyone that offers these services. Is it safe to do? Apologies for the too much info, but I have a very slight vein(?) or something which I think was after a boyfriend tried to do anal play, coming out. I am obviously planning on getting this checked medically before any client goes near there! How do you build up to it and enjoy it?
If you haven't done it before your best not to offer it as i doubt you will like it as it is very soar especially the first few times.
If you had a boyfriend or a toy to use as an experiment i would try that as the last thing you wanna do is offer this to a client and stop whilst his enjoying it and your not x  >:(

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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #78 on: 20 April 2015, 07:58:50 pm »
Don't be embarrassed, and don't do it because it's "popular" or for the extra money (would you even get extra money, maybe slightly
more business, but there's plenty of girls already offering it..)
I've been whoring on and off since I was 14 and I've tried it, a few times, and hated it!
So I don't do it..
When I worked in the sauna's when they were still here (they've all closed down now), hardly any of the girls offered anal, maybe
one, if that, on every shift..
Honestly, if you're not into it, don't do it..!!  :)
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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #79 on: 20 April 2015, 10:19:53 pm »
I'm a little embarrassed to say this, given the amount of years on and off I have been escorting, but I am an anal virgin!  :-\ However, given that it seems to be a popular thing at the minute and guys are willing to pay a little more for it and anal play, I am now considering it.

However, I have a few questions about it for anyone that offers these services. Is it safe to do? Apologies for the too much info, but I have a very slight vein(?) or something which I think was after a boyfriend tried to do anal play, coming out. I am obviously planning on getting this checked medically before any client goes near there! How do you build up to it and enjoy it?

With me I cannot build up to it if they try using thier fingers it just closes back up. So use my wand that makes it very enjoyable. And for him as he stays in until coming. I charge extra for anal and ever since have not had one hurt doing anal. Where as when had it included in the price it happened. I call it vip access. Clients like. 😀

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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #80 on: 17 June 2015, 05:09:28 am »
I am also trying to build up to anal.

Pain will get ease eventually but I am worried if I get problem pooping! I tried just once and it was awfully painful, and was really scared to go to toilet. Everyone is okay with going toilet afterwards?

Upon entering, how much time do you take specifically? 10 mins? 20 mins?

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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #81 on: 17 June 2015, 10:02:47 am »
If your getting pain you're not doing it right.
Pain is your body telling you to stop or slow down.

Keep working through pain and you may damage yourself.
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Fabulassie

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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #82 on: 17 June 2015, 11:40:59 am »
Exactly. It shouldn't hurt. Lots of lube, being relaxed, and starting small is necessary.

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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #83 on: 17 June 2015, 01:05:42 pm »
If you want to enjoy it first and formost, don't try it with clients. You know what they're like, shoving things in as fast as possible and as deep as possible.

Try having a bath and getting yourself off normally, then introduce it with 1 finger, then 2, then a super small butt plug. (over periods of time of course not all at once lol) then a meduim one THEN actual anal sex with a partner and then when you are confident you can do it, offer it to clients within your own bounderies "at discretion". I can't ever imagine not doing it at discretion tbh, big ones will never ever get there. Your butt doesn't lubricate plus if your a virgin it wont be ... stretched. Vaginas don't  "Stretch" out of place but bootys do.

If it becomes part of your turn on routine, you'll miss it if your not doing it (I used to HATEEEEEEE anal. Just felt like pooping) I prefer the stimulation rather than the being filled sensation so I still have a size limit with it. But it's an incredible leap and I guess that's how everyone gets into anal. Hating it to enjoying it lol.


It does seem every girl offers anal when you don't, but hey, if you never get into it I wouldn't feel bad, we don't have G spots there. So it's not like things are supposed to go there. It's more assocsiating the stimulation say with sneezing or stretching.... as a sexual stimulation. It's a pleasurable feeling but not nessisarly sexual but you can team it together to feel that way.
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lailah terri

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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #84 on: 17 June 2015, 11:43:40 pm »
Yes if it hurts then something is not right, if you're feeling pain stop as your body is not ready. you should be fine to use the bathroom afterwards. Sometimes it's a little sore if sex was particularly rough but it shouldn't be unbearable.

I charge extra for anal so I am always aware if a client wants it before we meet. I advertise at discretion but I have never turned down a large fella as I'm always prepared.  I like to use a small glass dildo plug to stretch at home, I find the hardness of it a little uncomfortable so I switch to a larger soft one which I keep in while Getting ready for my booking.

I'm then ready for anything  :D

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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #85 on: 18 June 2015, 02:54:44 am »
I'm loving all the tips on this thread  :)

I think I'm really unusual though in that I don't like anal play, anal toys or fingers up my bum? I can take all that stuff but I don't really like it. I do like anal sex though, most of the time. When I do anal I just lube the condomed willy up (very generously) and put it in with zero bum foreplay  ;D because although I like the feel of a smooth cock in my bum I don't like the feel of bony, nail-y fingers or bumpy anal toys. If that makes sense.

Reading all these answers though I think I'm in the minority. I didn't even know pre-stretching was a thing? But maybe now I will give it a go just out of curiosity :) xx
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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #86 on: 18 June 2015, 03:16:25 am »
Meant to say butt plug above lol, keeping a dildo up there for a while may get a bit uncomfortable!

Yes pre stretching is a thing. Lots of places sell training kits, they're great to use in foreplay but I'd only do this with my partner.
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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #87 on: 18 June 2015, 09:15:38 am »
I'm now wonder if I should look into stretching as I can't handling anything big.

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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #88 on: 19 June 2015, 10:23:33 am »
I have done anal both in private life and trusted regs. But my main worry is, am I clean. I am paranoid about it and check anything that has been used in me, fingers, toys condom etc. I worry sick there will be evidence of the environment. Must admit not tried douching, a bit scared to be honest.
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Re: Questions about anal?
« Reply #89 on: 19 June 2015, 10:53:24 am »
When I first started actual anal sex with partner. We spent aggess trying to get there in one session. In the end I was like just go for it. And then it resulted in my writhing around on the floor in pain haha I shouldn't find it funny but it was slightley comical if you look past the pain. If you don't activley relax the muscle, it hurts like a bitch. So you have to metally chill out your butt hole muscle else it will hurt like anything. Obviousley foreplay helps physically to chill it out but if your thinking oh god oh god it's in my butt the whole time it's going to clench up. Almost like how you relax the muscle when going to the toilet but no pushing XD
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