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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Ieaio on 11 July 2013, 10:35:54 pm
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I don't currently offer anal as i find it unpleasant, lets face it, it feels like you are going to the toilet. SO of course if i don't enjoy something i wont offer it. Personal preference each escort to their own.
Some rude men ask me for it despite knowing i don't offer it. Some offer me more money, i always decline. The usual one liners such as "Well you haven't tried it then" or "It wasn't with the right man" or "You weren't relaxed" To which i respond to their rudeness with "Have you ever had it? No. I don't offer it end off, feels like you are going to the toilet, sorry to burst your bubble." Sometimes you have to be sassy huh. One man even came out with the line "You are a prostitute, i paid you, you were made for anal" Huh charming.
I like to explore my options but of course i like to keep my service as honest as possible.
Do you enjoy anal and do you feel it makes you more money offering that service?
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I've always offered it because I enjoy it (and I've never had it feel like 'going to the toilet') but I don't think the specific service is the issue here. People who try to badger you into offering services you don't want to are never going to be the sort of punters you want, and not seeing them is costing you nothing :).
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I don't offer it because it does make me feel like I'm going to the toilet and it hurts. I also have had the same lines from men who would like to 'persuade' my body to not experience the same reactions. ::)
In fact very recently I've had offers of twice my usual 2 hourly rate to include the service, and have explained I only offer the service I genuinely like and am comfortable offering. Unless he wants to add a lot of zeros, and likes having sex with someone whose body is physically rejecting the act, and in pain then it's not on the cards.
Don't get angry, just offer what you are happy offering otherwise you just waste energy and time. By the way the lines you are hearing are not confined to men paying for sex, I've heard exactly the same outside and before I worked in the sex industry. It's manipulation by making you out to be in the wrong, not pleasant but worth remembering that it's their issue not yours.
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Are you considering offering anal? If you find it unpleasant I don't any money you make from offering it will make it any less unpleasant.
I don't offer anal and I have not had clients ask for it - but quite a lot think it's ok to just go ahead with anal play and try putting fingers where they are not welcome. I point out anal play is not one of my services, if they push their luck again they are no longer a client of mine.
Offer services you are comfortable with and don't let clients try and change your mind.
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Dont like it personally, have had the same thing said to me. My craic is if i dont like i dont do it, and if clients try to force it on me they dont see me.
At the same time though kinda wish i did lke it, a friend of mine another WG loves it and gets so much more work than me!!
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Have to admit that I like it too :-X. For me it doesnt feel like I'm going to the toilet at all (would spend more time in the loo if it was like anal!).
I love the fact that its a little brutal and shocking without being too painful or uncomfortable. It does depend entirely on how its done and for me the wham bam take that Maam approach wouldn't be good.
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I've never offered anal since starting in this business. I sort of enjoy it in my private life, but have to be really really really turned on and have been good diet wise for a few days otherwise it plays hell with my IBS. Even then it takes me a couple of days to recover from it, so offering it as part of my service isn't worth the hassle.
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I don't currently offer anal as i find it unpleasant, lets face it, it feels like you are going to the toilet. SO of course if i don't enjoy something i wont offer it. Personal preference each escort to their own.
Some rude men ask me for it despite knowing i don't offer it. Some offer me more money, i always decline. The usual one liners such as "Well you haven't tried it then" or "It wasn't with the right man" or "You weren't relaxed" To which i respond to their rudeness with "Have you ever had it? No. I don't offer it end off, feels like you are going to the toilet, sorry to burst your bubble." Sometimes you have to be sassy huh. One man even came out with the line "You are a prostitute, i paid you, you were made for anal" Huh charming.
I like to explore my options but of course i like to keep my service as honest as possible.
Do you enjoy anal and do you feel it makes you more money offering that service?
To much anal the doctor told me the worst cases is where it leaves incontinence. I would rarther stop ahead instead to having a bag having to quit. When they ask tor anal now my response is that my bum is precious. When I did anal it was within the time fee not exrtra.
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I offer it at discretion. I will not do it with people who have large equipment as I can get very sore but If its a little one I dont mind and actually really enjoy it. When I say no theres not really much offence as Ive just told the client the have a massive package hahaha ;D
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I enjoy it, and so I don't mind doing it... frankly when I was young a lot of girls did it to make sure they didn't get pregnant.
However I do think it has to do with how tall you are.... I think...
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I enjoy it but don't offer it to clients :)
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I don't offer anal and it annoys me when guys think that its ok for anal play i tell them that i don't like that /don't offer it
(on these occasions i wish i had a nice big tail like my dogs so that i could ram it between the cracks of my ass so that they cant touch me there )
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I love it. Healthy eating and douching do the world of good for your health and enjoyment when offering anal
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I like it :D But I also have IBS, so it does create health issues for me. I really don't enjoy it with small cocks but I'm not sure how good for business it would be to advertise that I enjoy a certain size for anal!? I tolerate the smaller cocks and think about shopping, I love shopping ;D
I also absolutely hate having a finger up my ass. It's sooo annoying when clients do that without even thinking to ask. I make it VERY clear on my website that I don't like it. It results in 50% shut down for me. Ok. I'm here, you're doing that, I am thinking mostly about the shoes I'm going to buy but remembering to make appreciative noises and I will NEVER meet you again.
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I like it :D But I also have IBS, so it does create health issues for me. I really don't enjoy it with small cocks but I'm not sure how good for business it would be to advertise that I enjoy a certain size for anal!? I tolerate the smaller cocks and think about shopping, I love shopping ;D
I also absolutely hate having a finger up my ass. It's sooo annoying when clients do that without even thinking to ask. I make it VERY clear on my website that I don't like it. It results in 50% shut down for me. Ok. I'm here, you're doing that, I am thinking mostly about the shoes I'm going to buy but remembering to make appreciative noises and I will NEVER meet you again.
I love a cock up my arse, but the finger NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
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I like it :D But I also have IBS, so it does create health issues for me. I really don't enjoy it with small cocks but I'm not sure how good for business it would be to advertise that I enjoy a certain size for anal!? I tolerate the smaller cocks and think about shopping, I love shopping ;D
I also absolutely hate having a finger up my ass. It's sooo annoying when clients do that without even thinking to ask. I make it VERY clear on my website that I don't like it. It results in 50% shut down for me. Ok. I'm here, you're doing that, I am thinking mostly about the shoes I'm going to buy but remembering to make appreciative noises and I will NEVER meet you again.
I love a cock up my arse, but the finger NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
I don't actually mind fingers either, but it has got to be gentle and I hate it if they don't ask first and just try to ram a dry one in with no warning and no lube. I can only think they forget fingers have bones, joints and nails, and I always offer to do it to them so they know what it feels like :D.
I think the smaller ones are annoying because they tend to pop right out when they pull back, and then they just shove them back in again which is horrible - once it's in it needs to stay put and get on with it.
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When guys start on their usual spiel on "why not" I tell them with a straight face that yes, I do do anal, I have many toys of various sizes that I am willing to ram up THEIR asses. Soon shuts them up. ;D
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No I don't like it !!!!
It hurts OK if I was offered ten thousand pounds I would defiantly do it hey but nobody is going to offer me that !!!
in my younger days I was a volunteer in African Countries helping the poor . As already said women did this to avoid pregnancy the doctors and nurses were concerned about HIV as they had no education but they were happy to point out to them that regular anal would not cause too many problems .That said the poor girls out there did not appear to enjoy it and I would say 99 % of most European women don't do it
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While it's not something everyone enjoys, the number of women who do it is somewhat higher than that :) - it's one reason why most anal sex in the UK is between men and women, not men.
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Oh, I don't know - if 'most' indicates more than half (say 51%) then I'd say 99% of that (or 45.9% of the total female population of Europe) is probably not too far off...
Either way '99% of most' is my new favourite statistic :D.
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I would say 99 % of most European women don't do it
God my mates are weird ;D
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It's now behind a paywall, sadly, but a few years ago there was a wonderful article in something like Nature called 'If your friends were normal, you would not know them'.
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I have spoken to three of my Indian friends and all of them have done anal since their teens as a form of contraception, and they say they are very comfortable with it... so horses for courses ...
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I dont offer it to clients because it's the only part of me that only my boyfriend has access to and I kinda like that. Who knew bum-holes could be romantic ay!
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When guys start on their usual spiel on "why not" I tell them with a straight face that yes, I do do anal, I have many toys of various sizes that I am willing to ram up THEIR asses. Soon shuts them up. ;D
That's what I say to guys on dating sites. I get the same 'you just need some wine and lube'. I've done it and didn't like it-hate the finger. A lot of guys like the finger in them so they assume everyone does. I don't have a prostate gland.
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When guys start on their usual spiel on "why not" I tell them with a straight face that yes, I do do anal, I have many toys of various sizes that I am willing to ram up THEIR asses. Soon shuts them up. ;D
PMSL ;D X
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I really enjoy A Levels, although sometimes it hurts a bit until I get loosened up. I had a lovely gent the other day who managed 4 fingers and it was great.
Can/has anyone managed more up there and if so how?
I'm not trying to gross anyone out, it's just something I genuinely enjoy and I am looking at ways to make it more pleasurable for me and clients as I am really only a novice.
I have become expert at douching and use the basic Lovehoney one at a tenner as it does the job and is easy to clean. Plus, I don't eat much ;D
Thanks
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Merged with a fairly recent thread on the same topic, although if you do a search for 'anal' there are others :).
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I am scared to do it! There are cases where it has made people incontinent, probably an urban myth? But have seen extreme anal porn where girls have done it so much over the years part of their bowel pops out their arse hole! Looked like a red tennis ball, x
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Oh dear, I admire girls who do it but I would worry about two things- condom breakage in anus and/ or an "accident" followed by a nasty feedback. Some men can be very indiscreet.
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I asked the doc and he said it was fairly normal and widely accepted these days! I love it and would get a whole hand up if I could!!
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I asked the doc and he said it was fairly normal and widely accepted these days! I love it and would get a whole hand up if I could!!
Ohhhh, made my eyes water just reading that! I have done it with an ex but was a bit tipsy at the time, not against it just not my cup of tea x
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I asked the doc and he said it was fairly normal and widely accepted these days! I love it and would get a whole hand up if I could!!
Normal and accepted doesn't mean (a) he has proof everyone is doing it(I very much doubt it's the first thing patients tell him) and (b) it doesn't cause physical pain or other problems. Sounds to me like Doctorly reassurance.
Probably the same Dr who tut, tutted at me for not using dams, but when asked if she's ever used them, blushed and shook her head.
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Ohhhh, made my eyes water just reading that! I have done it with an ex but was a bit tipsy at the time, not against it just not my cup of tea x
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A whole hand, Nia??
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I can't work the quote thing lol. :-X
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Well I'm not shy, Rosa and since it's been practised since time immemorial, I'm not that worried. I WAS concerned about infection from anus to vagina at the time as I recall.
Don't get me wrong, I know it s not for everyone, I mean I would shudder at the thought of 'fisting' vaginally and I know people do it!!
I didn't give birth that way as had c- sections and there's no way anyone is putting a hand up THERE! OUCH :o
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Reading this thread, I'm quite amazed that women enjoy anal. I, personally, find it too painful and loathe that about-to-poop feeling. Plus, I think I'll save that hole for Mr Cara ;D
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I don't ever feel like I want to poo - strange.
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I don't hate it and I don't love it. I don't offer it but I have done it with favoured clients, if it is important to them for real enjoyment I like to see them go away happy. I wouldn't to it for every Tom, Dick or Harry. I have done it in private life in the past but only when we are in a ' I know let's do this' kind of mood.
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Ohhhh, made my eyes water just reading that! I have done it with an ex but was a bit tipsy at the time, not against it just not my cup of tea x
A whole hand, Nia??
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No just his willy! Have fisted lots of clients and I always feel like a vet whilst doing it! X
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:-\ Ive had surgery in that area and its a definite no on me, I do offer anal play and massage on that area for clients though they don't mind .
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I include anal in my services and love it! It never hurts and it always slides right in.
Been doing it since I lost my virginity even lol. I find it very relaxing....
Just a little lube used for good measure and hey presto the guys luv it too!
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Can you get a whole hand up there Lushblossom? :D
Nia, do you fist blokes or girls? How do you get your hand up there?? Tbh, I have a reg who would like to get his hand right up my arse.
Girls, if you don't want to discuss on public forum (which I completely understand) then please PM me.
I am finding this fascinating!! 8)
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Reading this thread, I'm quite amazed that women enjoy anal. I, personally, find it too painful and loathe that about-to-poop feeling. Plus, I think I'll save that hole for Mr Cara ;D
I enjoy anal too, but not with every client. Just few of my regulars get it as I know I will cum with them.
I cant cum with normal sex, its how I am and always was like this, thats why I keep anal just for my needs.
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lucielee I have never tried to get a fist up there in fact that sounds quite scary!
I would be worried it would irreversibly change my anus forever lol.
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Can you get a whole hand up there Lushblossom? :D
Nia, do you fist blokes or girls? How do you get your hand up there?? Tbh, I have a reg who would like to get his hand right up my arse.
Girls, if you don't want to discuss on public forum (which I completely understand) then please PM me.
I am finding this fascinating!! 8)
I fist men, all my clients are men! It takes a longer session but I start with strapon, relaxing them and ease it in! Takes some practice and patience and I have small hands! X
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LMAO Lushblossom. It's true, I wouldn't want to be wearing Pampers when I'm ancient!
Nia, I've never had a bloke ask for that yet but I will be using a strap- on soon so I'll need to go slow. I doubt the ol' bum hole would go back to its usual 'pucker' state with a lot of fisting and Nia, my hands are not small so god help the guy who asks!!
Casualty anyone ;D ;D ;D ;D
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I cannot believe that being fisted anally doesn't have long-term health and functioning implications! :-X
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Think that I must be one of the few girls who enjoys anal & anal play! Ok first off, get a 'booty bath' from Ann Summers {?12 I'm in Dublin but would imagine the UK price to be less than ?20) to 'cleanse' before play {or cleanse any time to relieve tummy bloating!} I also got an 'anal bleach' cream from a sex shop, again it was really cheap and after a few applications leaves you with a pretty, pink, butt! I find that once I'm turned on, loads of lube, loads of teasing {the anus is a highly sensitive erogenous zone!) its very pleasurable!!! The initial, ahem, entry can be a little painful but I find once you relax, a little manual clitoral stimulation and you a well on the way to heaven! I have come loads of times this way! I would deffo say try it at least once this way, you dont know what you are missing!! But maybe thats just me! :-) I had a guy once who was anal obsessed and obsessed with licking my bum - rimming- and omg I found it the sexiest thing ever!! apologies if this is a little graphic!! xx
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SarrahSue, I couldn't agree more. It turns me on like nothing else and guys love it! I love douching too as it cleans you out and like you, I douche if bloated.
I find if I stick two or three fingers up before a guy attempts penetration, then he slides in nicely. I also don't eat certain types of food and this helps with the evacuation. It's a normal pre working ritual for me now. My arsehole isn't too dark lol but the bleaching cream sounds interesting. There'll be a bloody colour chart soon, like when you choose paint!! ROFL ;D ;D ;D
Delicious!!
Lube is my best friend 8)
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I don't usually have guys trying to convince me to do it-- I do offer anal play cause I don't mind a lubed up finger or a tongue in my bum, although I get really ticklish with the latter, so occasionally I will have someone call and ask if that means I offer anal to which I firmly respond no and have never had anyone argue with me over it-- but in the after sex chat I have had guys ask me about me and have gotten similar responses to what yours have said when I say yes I have done it and hated it and wouldn't do it again, unless it was for a boyfriend on his birthday or something as it wasn't painful or anything to me just not terribly enjoyable.
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I cannot believe that being fisted anally doesn't have long-term health and functioning implications! :-X
It does!x
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Hi- I'm a 20 y/o student escort. One of my regulars has said he wants to "take" my anal virginity. He is rich and my best customer. He suggested a price but I have no idea. I think I'm ready and want to do it anyway. I don't want to go into the practicalities of preparation I'll ask you all about that nearer the time. How much should I charge him?
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Pieces of string, how long are they? :)
Are you happy with the price he's offering? If not, what price would make you happy?
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I love anal, I get ready with a medium glass plug beforehand and lots of liquid silk :)
I do have issues with guys getting a bit too excited with their fingers, trying to put them from my bottom to my vagina :-X strongly considering banning fingers from downstairs
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I sort of liked anal play but found penis penetration painful more often then not. So, I did some googling about it and got ideas on how to "learn" it. I bought a douche thingy (and I absolutely love it. I use it for every bowel movement, now.) I bought special anal lube that has a slightly numbing effect. I use a vibrator during vaginal penetration in cowgirl to apply it - they like the feeling of the double penetration/vibration, and it is an easy way to prime the hole!
I read that bearing down just as the penis begins to enter helps it move in (although you might think you're pushing it out, but it doesn't work like that. It just pops it in. I ask them to hold still and I will gently rock back and forth, taking more in until he's all the way in.
I do really like it, but I can't stand it for very long, like I can vaginal penetration.
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When I first started working ( a zillion years ago) I never offered it - now I totally love it. Even though I've been doing it for years I still find that the *angle* has to be right otherwise it can be uncomfortable.
I'm wary of offering newbies anal after doing it for the first time with a regular who just shoved it straight in - I almost ended up with my head embedded in the wall. Slow and lubed to start with before I can take a jolly good pounding.
Strangely enough I HATE anal play - no fingers are allowed in there.
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I love anal but no way would I do it with a client, or anyone who wasn't a serious boyfriend.
Even then I wouldn't do it too often due to what can happen (prolapsed arsehole? No thanks)
I've a friend who has had anal so much she has real problems down there
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Hmmmm, I must be in the minority. I'm like a cross breed of you fellow posters, lol.
You see, I LOVE the thought of anal, it turns me on so much! Just reading this thread makes me hungry for it, haha! But, like many others on this thread, I find it very uncomfortable, sometimes painful and, yes, I agree, like I need to poo! Lol.
It frustrates me so much that I cannot do it.
I have a douche, a multitude of anal lube, a million anal toys, I have tried everything! I have tried roughly 20 to 30 times, and only 2 to 3 times were really enjoyable, I fully got off on it and the feeling of needing to poo and the discomfort subsided. All I know was that I was very drunk and my labido was sky high, that was how I was able to work towards it.
For those who just have the problem of feeling like they need a poo. I found that once you've gently worked him in, your relaxed, slowly pick up the speed, picking up the speed (but at your own instructions and pace) helps eleviate that feeling, and it then becomes enjoyable. This is just in my opinion though that worked for me, we are all different, so please don't take this as a definite answer to the poo problem, lol xox
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- they like the feeling of the double penetration/vibration, and it is an easy way to prime the hole!
I have to admit this does turn me on... a guy having his finger in my bum while having sex with me vaginally, I had a guy do it couple years ago and it got me super hot! I'm too afraid to ask my guy to do it though as he's a little vanilla in the sex department and I think he'll think I'm a total weirdo.
I agree with the comment about guys switching fingers between bum holes and the vaginal hole, it really annoys me as I know you can get an infection that way, they just seem totally clueless about it...
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Being slightly drunk helps! I just am paranoid about prolapses x
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Giving clients anal play with a covered toy is good except when it's messy. I regurgitate inside, that awful smell gets me each time. And to see a clump on the condom not a pretty sight. It can take a while airing after. And then say they need to wipe in the bathroom kindly. I have always been funny like that. But hold my professional composure. If they want my finger I wear latex disposable gloves.
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Once when I wasn't expecting it a guy jammed his dick up my bumhole and I passed out ... Good memories. We were doggy. Couldn't see that coming. Not a client though.
This thread makes me want to swaddle my asshole in blankets and gently rock it to sleep.
I do like anal if I'm 100% in control from beginning to end, meaning guy can't move a muscle or his hard on at any time. Don't know how I'd make a client be that still, though.
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Giving clients anal play with a covered toy is good except when it's messy. I regurgitate inside, that awful smell gets me each time. And to see a clump on the condom not a pretty sight. It can take a while airing after. And then say they need to wipe in the bathroom kindly. I have always been funny like that. But hold my professional composure. If they want my finger I wear latex disposable gloves.
I am the same MD, I ask them to couch and most do but many don't! I wear gloves and use condoms and am ultra paranoid about hepatitis b so make sure my resistance is good at the clinic x
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I'm a little embarrassed to say this, given the amount of years on and off I have been escorting, but I am an anal virgin! :-\ However, given that it seems to be a popular thing at the minute and guys are willing to pay a little more for it and anal play, I am now considering it.
However, I have a few questions about it for anyone that offers these services. Is it safe to do? Apologies for the too much info, but I have a very slight vein(?) or something which I think was after a boyfriend tried to do anal play, coming out. I am obviously planning on getting this checked medically before any client goes near there! How do you build up to it and enjoy it?
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I don't really have to build up for it - but then again I do a lot of anal also in my personal life. I'd suggest trying out some toys on yourself first to get comfortable, and remember that if you push out, the entry is actually easier. Counterintuitive, I know.
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I don't know anything about veins, etc.
But what I have done is to play around a bit with fingers (men's fingers, not my own.) Lots of lube and very gentle fingering to get used to the sensation. And I've used toys on myself. There are special anal lubes that have some numbing stuff in them - not totally numbing but slightly. Anne Summers makes something that has, I don't know, peppermint extract or something, that is sort of soothing.
If you do try anal I suggest you try it with someone with a small cock who is calm and patient. It's not the length that matters as much as how wide, and the width of the head matters most to me. If a cock has a big, round plum of a head that's harder than a bullet-shaped cock that actually grows wider along the shaft.
An arsehole are like tardis: bigger on the inside. The sphincter muscle is what you need to concern yourself with. I googled a bunch and found a tip: when the cock is about to enter and is pressing in, bear down as if you are trying to, well, poo. Although it sounds counterintuitive, this will sort of "pop" the head in. Once the head is in, you're pretty much good to go. The more relaxed you are, the better it will go. If I rush things, I end up with a stinging pain that is no fun.
Frankly, I'm a bit rubbish at anal. Some women absolutely love it. I sort of like it/can tolerate it. Maybe someone who has learned to love it will be along and we can both learn from her.
Oh, yeah - and buy an anal douche bulb thingy. The basic red one on LoveHoney is great. Once you start douching you'll kind of get addicted to it and wonder how you ever managed to feel clean without it.
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I've offered anal as an extra for years, but only because I enjoy it.
Just make sure you are in control, as if he starts thrusting too early there will be pain. I like to start with a glass plug, that way I can do the initial stretching myself. Even after the plug I still take my time with insterion.
I think for your first time go with a partner, toy or trusted regular who is patient and can keep it hard ;D, nothing worse than trying to insert a deflating willy in there loool
Take your time and enjoy.
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An arsehole are like tardis: bigger on the inside.
;D
-mega-tons of lube, keep refuelling his 'gun'
-I open up with my finger first before he starts
-slow deep breathing on your part
-take it slow stop/start and control the client
at all times with your hand.
- if it takes 30 mins or 5 mins fine don't rush it
It helps if the client is extremely compliant
and a bit 'passive' for this to be comfortable.
Veins tend to grow bigger over
a long period of time just from
regular constipation. Many people
have them who've never had anal.
I would totally avoid bearing down
as this might be what caused
the vein to prolapse in the
first place.
Yes I'd check it with your GP
for bleeding, size and
irritation.
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Oh and the thing coming out may be a skin tag? Def get checked at the clinic tho :)
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Definitely go for a check, as if it's a haemarrhoid or something - ouch!
I'd start working your way up with increasingly large butt plugs, until you can comfortably insert one equivalent to a small-average cock. As others have said, use tons of lube, preferably desensitising to begin with, and you can also get relaxing sprays and creams.
Then with a someone you trust and who has a strong, long-lasting erection, have a go with lots of build up first - fingers, then plugs, then cock. The best way is doggy, and you reverse on to him: if that doesn't work get him to slowly penetrate you.
Eat plenty of fibre, perhaps supplemented with e.g. psyllium husks, to keep everything moving.
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I'm thinking the same also interested in offer anal as extra. But what was like when you ladies at the first time? Was it painful? I tried do it with a toy once it was a weird feeling.
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I'm a little embarrassed to say this, given the amount of years on and off I have been escorting, but I am an anal virgin! :-\ However, given that it seems to be a popular thing at the minute and guys are willing to pay a little more for it and anal play, I am now considering it.
However, I have a few questions about it for anyone that offers these services. Is it safe to do? Apologies for the too much info, but I have a very slight vein(?) or something which I think was after a boyfriend tried to do anal play, coming out. I am obviously planning on getting this checked medically before any client goes near there! How do you build up to it and enjoy it?
I think if you are not comfortable with it in your private life, or experienced, then don't do it.
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I used to offer anal all the time and loved it. I gradually built up with various sizes of butt plugs. You can get some great ones at lovehoney.
I've stopped offering anal so much now as I had some over zealous clients and I started getting swollen veins (hems). They've cleared up now but I don't want them to come back.
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I think if you are not comfortable with it in your private life, or experienced, then don't do it.
Oh I agree completely with Roseanna and Lacey...
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I would agree that you shouldn't offer it just for the money. However, it won't hurt to indulge in a bit of play with someone you trust. You may find that you do like it, after all.
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Omg I love anal. I rarely do vaginal. I don't charge extra for it, it's included. I honestly would hate to do a booking without it unless I had a dodgy tummy of course. My only annoyance with it is having to do enemas beforehand n if the guy isn't slow at first n doesn't take it easy when going in. That can hurt. But once I'm relaxed he's welcome to be as rough as he likes. And some guys just seem to fit like a glove n enter without any discomfort whatsoever which I adore. I would say though that if you don't like it don't offer it. I found it seriously painful n awful when I first attempted anal a long time ago. It took a longterm boyfriend over some years to get me to the point of actually loving it.
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I'm a little embarrassed to say this, given the amount of years on and off I have been escorting, but I am an anal virgin! :-\ However, given that it seems to be a popular thing at the minute and guys are willing to pay a little more for it and anal play, I am now considering it.
However, I have a few questions about it for anyone that offers these services. Is it safe to do? Apologies for the too much info, but I have a very slight vein(?) or something which I think was after a boyfriend tried to do anal play, coming out. I am obviously planning on getting this checked medically before any client goes near there! How do you build up to it and enjoy it?
If you haven't done it before your best not to offer it as i doubt you will like it as it is very soar especially the first few times.
If you had a boyfriend or a toy to use as an experiment i would try that as the last thing you wanna do is offer this to a client and stop whilst his enjoying it and your not x >:(
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Don't be embarrassed, and don't do it because it's "popular" or for the extra money (would you even get extra money, maybe slightly
more business, but there's plenty of girls already offering it..)
I've been whoring on and off since I was 14 and I've tried it, a few times, and hated it!
So I don't do it..
When I worked in the sauna's when they were still here (they've all closed down now), hardly any of the girls offered anal, maybe
one, if that, on every shift..
Honestly, if you're not into it, don't do it..!! :)
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I'm a little embarrassed to say this, given the amount of years on and off I have been escorting, but I am an anal virgin! :-\ However, given that it seems to be a popular thing at the minute and guys are willing to pay a little more for it and anal play, I am now considering it.
However, I have a few questions about it for anyone that offers these services. Is it safe to do? Apologies for the too much info, but I have a very slight vein(?) or something which I think was after a boyfriend tried to do anal play, coming out. I am obviously planning on getting this checked medically before any client goes near there! How do you build up to it and enjoy it?
With me I cannot build up to it if they try using thier fingers it just closes back up. So use my wand that makes it very enjoyable. And for him as he stays in until coming. I charge extra for anal and ever since have not had one hurt doing anal. Where as when had it included in the price it happened. I call it vip access. Clients like. 😀
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I am also trying to build up to anal.
Pain will get ease eventually but I am worried if I get problem pooping! I tried just once and it was awfully painful, and was really scared to go to toilet. Everyone is okay with going toilet afterwards?
Upon entering, how much time do you take specifically? 10 mins? 20 mins?
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If your getting pain you're not doing it right.
Pain is your body telling you to stop or slow down.
Keep working through pain and you may damage yourself.
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Exactly. It shouldn't hurt. Lots of lube, being relaxed, and starting small is necessary.
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If you want to enjoy it first and formost, don't try it with clients. You know what they're like, shoving things in as fast as possible and as deep as possible.
Try having a bath and getting yourself off normally, then introduce it with 1 finger, then 2, then a super small butt plug. (over periods of time of course not all at once lol) then a meduim one THEN actual anal sex with a partner and then when you are confident you can do it, offer it to clients within your own bounderies "at discretion". I can't ever imagine not doing it at discretion tbh, big ones will never ever get there. Your butt doesn't lubricate plus if your a virgin it wont be ... stretched. Vaginas don't "Stretch" out of place but bootys do.
If it becomes part of your turn on routine, you'll miss it if your not doing it (I used to HATEEEEEEE anal. Just felt like pooping) I prefer the stimulation rather than the being filled sensation so I still have a size limit with it. But it's an incredible leap and I guess that's how everyone gets into anal. Hating it to enjoying it lol.
It does seem every girl offers anal when you don't, but hey, if you never get into it I wouldn't feel bad, we don't have G spots there. So it's not like things are supposed to go there. It's more assocsiating the stimulation say with sneezing or stretching.... as a sexual stimulation. It's a pleasurable feeling but not nessisarly sexual but you can team it together to feel that way.
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Yes if it hurts then something is not right, if you're feeling pain stop as your body is not ready. you should be fine to use the bathroom afterwards. Sometimes it's a little sore if sex was particularly rough but it shouldn't be unbearable.
I charge extra for anal so I am always aware if a client wants it before we meet. I advertise at discretion but I have never turned down a large fella as I'm always prepared. I like to use a small glass dildo plug to stretch at home, I find the hardness of it a little uncomfortable so I switch to a larger soft one which I keep in while Getting ready for my booking.
I'm then ready for anything :D
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I'm loving all the tips on this thread :)
I think I'm really unusual though in that I don't like anal play, anal toys or fingers up my bum? I can take all that stuff but I don't really like it. I do like anal sex though, most of the time. When I do anal I just lube the condomed willy up (very generously) and put it in with zero bum foreplay ;D because although I like the feel of a smooth cock in my bum I don't like the feel of bony, nail-y fingers or bumpy anal toys. If that makes sense.
Reading all these answers though I think I'm in the minority. I didn't even know pre-stretching was a thing? But maybe now I will give it a go just out of curiosity :) xx
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Meant to say butt plug above lol, keeping a dildo up there for a while may get a bit uncomfortable!
Yes pre stretching is a thing. Lots of places sell training kits, they're great to use in foreplay but I'd only do this with my partner.
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I'm now wonder if I should look into stretching as I can't handling anything big.
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I have done anal both in private life and trusted regs. But my main worry is, am I clean. I am paranoid about it and check anything that has been used in me, fingers, toys condom etc. I worry sick there will be evidence of the environment. Must admit not tried douching, a bit scared to be honest.
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When I first started actual anal sex with partner. We spent aggess trying to get there in one session. In the end I was like just go for it. And then it resulted in my writhing around on the floor in pain haha I shouldn't find it funny but it was slightley comical if you look past the pain. If you don't activley relax the muscle, it hurts like a bitch. So you have to metally chill out your butt hole muscle else it will hurt like anything. Obviousley foreplay helps physically to chill it out but if your thinking oh god oh god it's in my butt the whole time it's going to clench up. Almost like how you relax the muscle when going to the toilet but no pushing XD
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I think I'm really unusual though in that I don't like anal play, anal toys or fingers up my bum? I can take all that stuff but I don't really like it. I do like anal sex though, most of the time.
You're not unusual, I don't like it either. Though I don't like anal also. I have IBS so have had problems since I was a kid, anal sex for me is just uncomfortable and most of the time I can't do it due to my toilet habits anyway.
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I have done anal both in private life and trusted regs. But my main worry is, am I clean. I am paranoid about it and check anything that has been used in me, fingers, toys condom etc. I worry sick there will be evidence of the environment. Must admit not tried douching, a bit scared to be honest.
An anal douche is awesome. Little squeeze bulb with a nozzle. I use it every time I poo. Heck, I use it even on my days off. I use a lot less loo roll these days.
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I'm loving all the tips on this thread :)
I think I'm really unusual though in that I don't like anal play, anal toys or fingers up my bum? I can take all that stuff but I don't really like it. I do like anal sex though, most of the time. When I do anal I just lube the condomed willy up (very generously) and put it in with zero bum foreplay ;D because although I like the feel of a smooth cock in my bum I don't like the feel of bony, nail-y fingers or bumpy anal toys. If that makes sense.
Reading all these answers though I think I'm in the minority. I didn't even know pre-stretching was a thing? But maybe now I will give it a go just out of curiosity :) xx
Wow, this is me.. I cannot stand fingering in my bum! It's the joints and the fact they bend/wiggle. Whereas cocks are smooth.!
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Oh.. And i cannot cope with anal unless I have my magic wand on my clit.. Then it goes from too overwhelming to amazing! Makes me cum every time... Most intense orgasms ever!!
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I just couldn't do it no matter how much money was on offer
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so i get asked if i do anal always saiid no but im wondering wetha i should or not i enjoy it in my private life how ever it takes a bit of time to enjoy it im worried they may just go for it and hurt me
worjking for an agency so my price is set but can ask for more when im with a client and he asks?
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I would recommend NOT advertising it as a service until you've experimented a bit. If I were you, I'd tell clients you thought suitable (gentle, not too large) if they'd be interested in helping you "explore" anal. Make it clear that you're a novice and that you might not like it/may wish to quit. They may love the idea, and they should understand it needs to go slow.
Beforehand, do plenty of reading on how to prepare, how to relax, etc.
If you try it, manage to do it painlessly, and still don't like it, then don't offer it. Generally, if a girl offers it, quite a lot of clients will expect it to go just like porn. That is, they'll assume they can bang away.
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thanks
i like it but like i said anal is not something for me where men can just bang away
so if i like the client and explain to explore that mite be better as i can always no its not for me
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I offer it but I charge extra and it must be booked in advance so that I can douche as I like to be scrupulously clean.
I do this so that I don't hurt myself and I find that I don't get that many bookings for it but I enjoy it when I do. I used to offer it as part of my standard service but I found I was constantly douching and it was too much for me.
I enjoyed anal in my private life so I was confident in offering it as a service but I would never offer it in the standard service as I think too much anal could be damaging in the longer term (well to me anyway!).
It doesn't hurt me now but it was really painful in the early days of my relationship and I really had to practise. I have an escort friend who enjoys it in her private life but just can't offer it to clients as she finds it too painful.
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thanks hun
everything is trial and error i guess im really new to this so much to learn yet one thing i have already learned i cant c needy clients who look for kissing and cuddling ( the ones that are extremely lonely) makes me a bit ill god knows why gone of subject here lol
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The most important thing to learn is you don't do anything you don't want to do.
You said that you work for an agency so your price is set, so why are you thinking of offering this? Because clients are pushing your boundaries.
If you do some experimenting and decide it's something you want to do, then you do it. If you don't want to do it, then don't . Totally up to you.
Out of interest, if you work for an agency why are you looking for a driver, do they not provide one?
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I would say explore it alone or in your private life first, with a client generally isn't a good first time for these things.
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wouldnt be my first time i enjoy it in my private life but not sure if clients would understand the slow part of it
i would never do anything i dont want to im extremely headstrong i really want to make this fun for me hence why im asking as i enjoy it but mitr be very different with clients as they probably think the can just stick it in and go for gold but i guess im in controll and can say i will give it a go but if it hurts me i will stop , im local only atm so dont need a driver but id feel safer with one not all agencies provide drivers how ever they are looking at getting me one only just started but ball is rolling
thanks for all replies xxx
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I offer anal sex for almost 3 years. i'm always horny for that ;D
it takes sometime to reach your comfort level but be careful
last month I had a client with super massive cock which is so rare, I don't know how could I tolerate anal sex with him, just felt pain and couldn't work for some days :'( but intercourse was perfect, after ten pumps I exploded ;D
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I have a question which is kinda relevant - for the ladies that offer anal, do you see any difference in your bodies back there, or is it an urban myth that it changes/damages you?
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No, after 3 years I haven't seen any damage, although I offer anal sex once a week
I do Kegel exercise, it's great for anal and vaginal health. it makes both my vagina and back hole super tight. I also have more control on my orgasms
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No difference in my ring lol ;D.
A civvie guy taught me how to do it.
It's matter of controlling and holding the guys cock,
breathing, relaxation, lube and taking it very slow. :)
Even 'normal 'stuff like constipation can be very damaging,
creating anal tags, internal and external haemorrhoids,
anal fissures, bowel prolapse etc.
It's a delicate area and needs to be handled softly with
stuff entering and exiting.
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No difference in my ring lol ;D.
Cheesy - I love you ;D
i was just curious, I've done it in my private life but it's never a service I've offered in work....I don't know I find it more of an emotional thing somehow and I think doing it in work would mess up my head. I never realised how odd that is until I just read it. Maybe it's because of the trust involved.
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:D lol Curves.
I agree, lots of trust.
So I choose passive blokes who I can 'manipulate' literally.
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I offer it and get lots of requests for it. But only about 50% actually try or manage it. I find a lot of clients overestimate what we'll do in the time we have or they get distracted by other activities.
Those who do try, many of them clearly don't know what they're doing and will just try to go straight in. But I just direct them exactly what to do, lube, prep, slow slow entry. If it still hurts or I'm not into it I ask them to stop.
I want to start charging extra for it as I do find it more work and prep even though I do genuinely enjoy anal as a rule.
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You're right it's more prep and attention.
It's a 'speciality' that not everyone provides.
I charged 50 squid more for A.
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You're right it's more prep and attention.
It's a 'speciality' that not everyone provides.
I charged 50 squid more for A.
I want to start charging extra for this but I had a question. I don't currently charge for any extras. What if they pay for it but don't do it? Sometimes clients want to do it with me but can't get hard enough. So not my fault but I worry they'd ask for a refund?
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I do tons of extras so I know where you're coming from :)
When he came in did he say 'My cock is a piece of string.
If I can't get a woody will you work for free >:(?
The erection is his job.
I do my job well.
I am confident I did my part of the contract.
The idea of a refund never enters my mind.
If it's bouncing around in your head he will suss it.
if the client sees a little worry or negative thought
in your face he will jump on it.
If he can't do his winkle-duty I give a big smile, clothes on quick,
and say 'we had a good try'. He laughs...and off he toddles
I never gave him him the time or option to negotiate.
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:) sound advice. Definitely going to add some extras!
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Welcome Lil. See how it goes.
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...I do offer anal but if they are to big I just tell them that I would be able to erm accommodate them...I am pretty assertive about this and so far so good no problems.
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During my trips I noticed some female escorts struggle with having anal sex ... I thought it would be nice to write a little column on ANAL TIPS
Douching: Don't be shy and ask at your local sex shop for an enema device or get it online ...
There's something called "Shower Shot", its a sort of dildo that you attach to the shower pipe, it has tiny holes at the tip, you can regulate the water power which is great ... (google: lovehoney total splash aluminium intimate douche attachment with adjustable pressure)
Enema Syringe: its a big plastic syringe with a plastic tip ... fill it w warm water and insert on anus, repeat a few times until water is transparent.
Some girls are very tight in which case anal sex can be painful. When I get many clients on the same day I get the same, in this case I use a mix of lube and lidocaine (anaesthetic), you can't find it in gel everywhere so when I'm at a country that sells it I buy several ... In Italy it's called Luan, in Spain Organon, in Denmark Xylocain ...
if you are committed to do it regularly you should consider a small butt plug, there are a few that are cute and tiny ... when you know you have someone coming put it for 5 or 10 minutes, it will help relax the muscle and make you are mentally and physically prepared ... google: amazon Diamond Anal Butt Plug Gem- Stainless Steel Jewel
Hope it helps
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If someone is having to use lidocaine to get through anal sex then they should be giving the area a rest until it is feeling better.Your body tells you are sore for a reason i.e it is telling you to have a rest from whatever is happening as it causing you pain.By using something to numb it it is like you are ignoring the obvious which is that the activity you are doing is not doing you any good. I think to continue by masking the pain is possibly putting you in danger from something that could be serious.
I personally don't offer anal as a service but each to their own but the same applies to if I have done alot of bookings and my vagina is sore, I take a rest and let it recover I don't numb it and carry on.
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I second Bibi's response. I was told by my doctor not to numb pain as it was my body's way of warning me. I'd be wary of using anything numbing. I don't offer anal to clients but do enjoy it in my private life. My advice is lots of lube and actually upping the fiber in my diet which helps keep me "regular" which helps avoid any irritation in that area to begin with.
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well it makes sense from your point of view ... on this occasion i was advising people that are not used to anal sex to use lidocaine as a way to facilitate it ...
not saying there is a specific problem, it gets sore when you get fucked a lot ... as you mentioned it happens to your vagina too ... but if i'm touring (which means making an investment) and i have to take a day off every time i have a good day its not going to be very profitable ... isn't life about making efforts to reach golds and all that
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well it makes sense from your point of view ... on this occasion i was advising people that are not used to anal sex to use lidocaine as a way to facilitate it ...
not saying there is a specific problem, it gets sore when you get fucked a lot ... as you mentioned it happens to your vagina too ... but if i'm touring (which means making an investment) and i have to take a day off every time i have a good day its not going to be very profitable ... isn't life about making efforts to reach golds and all that
Not if it means you irrevocably damage a delicate area of your body. We all know the vagina stretches and lubricates naturally, the anus does not
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well it makes sense from your point of view ... on this occasion i was advising people that are not used to anal sex to use lidocaine as a way to facilitate it ...
not saying there is a specific problem, it gets sore when you get fucked a lot ... as you mentioned it happens to your vagina too ... but if i'm touring (which means making an investment) and i have to take a day off every time i have a good day its not going to be very profitable ... isn't life about making efforts to reach golds and all that
Not if it means you irrevocably damage a delicate area of your body. We all know the vagina stretches and lubricates naturally, the anus does not
Actually, the anus DOES lubricate. Certainly, mine does get extremely wet.
I don't offer anal as a service but I do practise it in my private life and I love how wet I get. I don't advocate numbing any part of the anatomy to facilitate sex however as this is harmful.
I have lignocaine gel which medics use for vaginal and anal examination (from a previous minor condition) but it never worked and I can't see how any gel could lessen the pain of any unwanted anal intrusion.
No thanks!
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well it makes sense from your point of view ... on this occasion i was advising people that are not used to anal sex to use lidocaine as a way to facilitate it ...
not saying there is a specific problem, it gets sore when you get fucked a lot ... as you mentioned it happens to your vagina too ... but if i'm touring (which means making an investment) and i have to take a day off every time i have a good day its not going to be very profitable ... isn't life about making efforts to reach golds and all that
No life is about being healthy and happy it's not about forcing yourself through bookings when your body is telling you to have a rest and you then having to numb parts of yourself to get through it.Longterm if you keep doing something that is actually painful it will prevent you working full stop so better to have a break from it and if you are sore don't offer it until the area is feeling better.You don't need to do anal at all to be busy but if you do offer it same as any service you don't need to over do it to make a decent amount of cash.
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Okay ladies....so I've had so many men wanting to stick things in my ass...fingers and penis of course haha and lick around it
now I have only done anal on a couple occasions in my life when I was super wasted anyway I really want to try to be comfortable with it and I know it would increase my business but....how do you girls do it??? My biggest fear is them sticking their fingers or dick inside and it coming out brown grosse...do you girls just not eat like ...ever??? I eat regularly so I'm sure there's always something in there most times ...I don't know please tell me how you girls do it :)
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I used to offer it, but have recently decided to keep it for certain previous clients and personal life only. The problem is some men are absolute idiots, they try to ram it in without easing it in first or they want to pay twenty extra (or expect free because of course we all love it so much constantly 😏) then want fuck ass for the full half hour!
The other thing I worry about is the extra risk of the condom failing and its increased risk in that area.
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I just don't offer it. Fingering is ok but that's as far as it goes.
I'll only do it with regular clients who really want it and I feel comfortable doing it with. Because if he's big and hurts me then I'll never see him again and they know this.
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The problem is some men are absolute idiots, they try to ram it in without easing it in first
Don't initiate anal in doggy position - I always start with me on top, thus setting the pace of entry.
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I won't do anal with me on top at all - I find doggy far easier and more comfortable. I've had a couple try to suddenly thrust upwards really hard in cowgirl and it's far easier for me to move forwards out of the way in doggy in somebody's a bit over keen :).
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I really want to try to be comfortable with it and I know it would increase my business but....how do you girls do it??? My biggest fear is them sticking their fingers or dick inside and it coming out brown grosse...do you girls just not eat like ...ever??? I eat regularly so I'm sure there's always something in there most times ...I don't know please tell me how you girls do it :)
Hi Victoria, try not to worry too much. (TMI warning!)
The rectum (the inside bum!) is just a passageway. Poop is kept in the bowel, which is much higher up and won't be disturbed by anal sex. If you are a normal healthy person eating three meals a day then your inside bum will be naturally clean :) and there won't be any brown stuff on the condom when it comes out.
You don't have to eat super-healthy to achieve this - a normal diet is fine. However anal sex without douching is best avoided if you've had a very heavy meal that day, or have any kind of tummy trouble (including IBS).
x
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The best way I have found to do it is in missionary position. I just lift my bum slightly, the angle feels better and I can put the penis in at my pace. I absolutely have to be in control of the penis as one false move and I get the water infection below.
I personally don't allow fingers anywhere near my bum as my vagina just loves getting infections, and having a finger up my bum almost guarantees me an e coli water infection, which Is a pain in the bum (pardon the pun). I rarely get symptoms of a water infection (unless its cystitis of course, nasty one that is) so I can only tell by the smell of my urine and if I leave it too long it will give me thrush and or BV. The next problem is, e coli takes different antibiotics to normal water infections and it doesn't show up on the dip test so they have to send it to the lab to grow it, which never used to be a problem as they would dip my wee, if an infection showed up they would give me the usual antibiotic, if it didn't, they would give me the other antibiotic and just send off my wee for clarification. Now, they no longer hold the e coli antibiotic (cut backs) so they have to send off my wee and then order it in when they got the results, which means that its an extra visit and by that time ive probably got thrush and or BV as well, and they are harsh to have as you probably know, plus I get thrush with the antibiotics again :FF
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I offer anal and love the feel of it. I prefer it to normal fucking as my poor pussy gets sore quick because of the condoms and also, if i'm not turned on and wet, the guys wont know. Plus anal is usually doggy style, which means I dont need to look at the client. It keep my income constant when I'm on my period, as I have 2 other holes :P
Anal definitely feels better with practice
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Hi ladies. I would really appreciate some insight from the SAAFE hive mind about anal. I realise some of the answers may be a little sensitive, so please feel free to PM instead if you don't feel comfortable sharing everything.
1. Those of you who offer anal in potentially every/all bookings (i.e. you don't need to prepare especially, don't charge extra for it and the client isn't hung like a horse), roughly what percentage of clients want anal?
2. As it's so much tighter, do you have more problems with condoms slipping off or breaking during anal compared with vaginal intercourse?
3. Aside from the obvious soreness, if you have anal regularly (let's say up to five times per week), do you have any side-effects?
4. Any of you who've been doing it for yonks, did you find it got easier/more comfortable over time (in terms of months/years, not days)?
5. If you don't prepare specifically in terms of eating, douching and so on, do you find it's normally OK re. 'shitastrophes'? Or is it something you really need to prep heavily for?
6. Finally, and I realise this is subjective, but do you ever think there's any differences in personality/behaviour/attitude in clients who only want anal, or who are very interested in it, versus those who only want oral or vaginal sex? (I hope that makes sense...)
Many thanks!
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Merged with the main thread and I'll do my best with the rest :)
1. Those of you who offer anal in potentially every/all bookings (i.e. you don't need to prepare especially, don't charge extra for it and the client isn't hung like a horse), roughly what percentage of clients want anal?
It depends - overall probably around 10-15%, but I can go for a couple of weeks or more without being asked and then have it three times in the same day.
2. As it's so much tighter, do you have more problems with condoms slipping off or breaking during anal compared with vaginal intercourse?
I've never once had a condom break during anal, whether at work or not. I suspect we tend to pay more attention to having adequate lube when doing it, and condoms don't tend to slip off because they have to be harder for anal than is necessary for vaginal sex or it won't go in in the first place
3. Aside from the obvious soreness, if you have anal regularly (let's say up to five times per week), do you have any side-effects?
None whatsoever, and I don't find I get any more sore than I do with vaginal sex. If I'm sore it's because somebody's been rough or clumsy, or I'm overdoing it.
4. Any of you who've been doing it for yonks, did you find it got easier/more comfortable over time (in terms of months/years, not days)?
I never found it particularly uncomfortable provided they follow the protocol and start slowly/patiently, but then I've been doing it almost thirty years and I can't remember much that far back :)
5. If you don't prepare specifically in terms of eating, douching and so on, do you find it's normally OK re. 'shitastrophes'? Or is it something you really need to prep heavily for?
I douche before bookings with anal and how much/many times depends on the time of day - if you know your body you have a reasonable idea of what's going on. If it's later in the day I can not bother but I prefer to anyway. But there will very occasionally be accidents (if not shitastrophies ;D) even though I can't remember the last time and I've thankfully never had any real disasters.
6. Finally, and I realise this is subjective, but do you ever think there's any differences in personality/behaviour/attitude in clients who only want anal, or who are very interested in it, versus those who only want oral or vaginal sex? (I hope that makes sense...)
I've never found that any more than I've found any common/shared traits between punters who like a particular service? I'm not sure I really understand the question though - is there an answer you're expecting and if so what is it?
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Actually, the anus DOES lubricate. Certainly, mine does get extremely wet.
I realise the above poster is no longer a member and that post was aaaaages ago but I'd love to hear others' experience on this point.
I don't offer anal with clients but have enjoyed it in my private sex life but the only time my rectum gets "wet" is when I've got diarrhoea!
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I realise the above poster is no longer a member and that post was aaaaages ago but I'd love to hear others' experience on this point.
I don't offer anal with clients but have enjoyed it in my private sex life but the only time my rectum gets "wet" is when I've got diarrhoea!
I need to use Lube for ease and to protect the condom from splitting, maybe a little wet it gets as notice it gets more comfortable as time goes on. I think it is like how a pussy gets wet from arousal the anus is the same. Anal is my favourite.
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Cheers, Amy!
Re. the last question, I just wondered if anal-seeking punters were perhaps more into the whole PSE thing overall, maybe a little rougher, or if there were any other characteristics that separated them. I think I'm a bit put off by some of the idiots whose first question on the phone is 'Do you do anal?'
VC, I agree about the anus not lubricating if everything is OK down there. With me, it would just be vaginal lubrication spreading downwards.
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Some anal fantasists will ram the bum like a pussy if you don't pre warn them. Unless I do it would be wrecked by now.
I charge extra for and have noticed those who do pay extra compared to who don't. Well the don'ts are careless the majority are. Remember some don't care if they hurt us belongs they get thier rocks off.
So in my opinion without the extra I would get more of the ones I am trying to avoid.
The anal fanatics are the ones to be cautious of because these will do the most damage to us given the chance. There have been a few times where I stopped midway through because they where doing anal long it was getting sore.
Remember if you are left very sore bleeding after he cums he wouldn't care. The client came not all respect us like you see with time wasters already and the phone wankers.
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I enjoy anal every so often but it has to be at my own pace. I only do it with a few select customers who I know treat me well and respect my wishes. If they are too big I don't do it as it will struggle to fit and just be too sore and there is no fun in that.
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Almost all clients who requested anal fell into two camps. Many clients have never heard of a 'lube shooter' or lubricating the bum. (My bum is tight so I must buy a butt plug.) New clients who requested anal during booking either had an anal fetish (which when one client who gave off red flags all the way through booking ended in my reporting him) or were too rough and wanted to use poppers and wanted me to take poppers to relax my bum muscles. I have declined all new clients with an anal fetish or who were doing anal wrong.
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Re. the last question, I just wondered if anal-seeking punters were perhaps more into the whole PSE thing overall, maybe a little rougher, or if there were any other characteristics that separated them. I think I'm a bit put off by some of the idiots whose first question on the phone is 'Do you do anal?'
No, I don't find that at all but then the punters who want a PSE service don't book me because I don't offer one, so I suppose we just don't run into each other. I'm more likely to get punters who haven't tried it before (or who just like it :)). As for the phone manner, I'd just count that as bad manners combined with not having read my ad, so I'd be just as put off as you.
VC, I agree about the anus not lubricating if everything is OK down there. With me, it would just be vaginal lubrication spreading downwards.
I agree too - if your bum is making mucus or other slippy stuff that isn't poo, that would indicate something like IBS to me.
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do you girls just not eat like ...ever??? I eat regularly so I'm sure there's always something in there most times ...I don't know please tell me how you girls do it :)
You're right. Some girls fast 6-8 hours in advance and some would take a copious amount of repeated anal prep.
I keep my A-level (discretion) at the moment, but I have been thinking of not doing it long-term. I don't think the prep e.g. anal douching, is particularly good for the ageing gut of mine. You know that in fetish, some men enjoy getting enema under his mistress/dominatrix as it weakens him (a form of domination). Do it occasionally, it's probably okay. But doing it too often, I doubt if it's good for you. But if younger escorts tolerate it well, then enjoy whilst it lasts. :)
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I threw an anal douche in the bin five minutes ago because I mixed up the spouts and didn't know which one was mine or used by a client. I don't know enough about the hygiene issues so thought better safe than sorry.
I don't prep my unless a client specifically wants anal and even then just a douche or three to prevent unsightly accidents. My biggest problem is lube. I'm not sure how much or how deep or when to apply beforehand. I had loads squirt out of my bum once which caused a client to worry.
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they have to be harder for anal than is necessary for vaginal sex or it won't go in in the first place
This is the main item in the 'things my school sex ed never mentioned...' list!
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hi Kay,
as a (part-time) bi male escort, i'm surprised more of the gents haven't replied, after all we are the experts for anal sex - most of our bookings involve us giving or receiving (or both) anal.
You asked some very good and structured questions and I think got some good answers. I would just say from my experience, anal does get easier after the first few times, I don't think it's about stretching but just being more confident and relaxed. I can remember, in the beginning (when I did it in my private life - not for work) it really hurt every time, my friend I was having sex with was quite big (8 inches) but not massive. Somehow I learned to relax, after that it never hurt with him and I really enjoyed it!
When I started working, again it started hurting, even with much smaller ones! Then again I managed to relax and it never hurts again - even really big ones! Now I actually like the challenge of taking a big cock, I feel very proud of myself afterwards! It doesn't really hurt either, just feel a bit "worn out" and feel aware of my anus (but not in pain).
So what I learned is that it's all about having confidence, being able to relax (so your ring doesn't tighten through nerves) and then it's possible to enjoy it. Also I have a friend, ex female SW, we have been occasionally having sex for like 15 years. She used to hate anal (never did with clients nor me), but now loves it and can orgasm through anal, often asks me to switch from her pussy to her ass.
About being clean, I always douche before receiving anal. With experience, you can know if you will be clean or dirty based on what you ate and how long since last ate, but to be sure I always douche - this also is part of me feeling confident (knowing that the client will be clean). Almost always girls I have had anal with have been clean, but clients very often are not - male bums seem to be dirtier than female ones, for some reason!
About condoms, always use plenty of lube. I never had any problem with splitting or slipping off. As others have said, cocks have to be harder to enter an ass than a vagina in the first place.
Good luck, and let us know how you get on!
henry
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I love a cock up my arse, but the finger NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
I dont allow the finger up there either it but a few manage it unexpectedly, I say to them that I don't have that just do anal. I don't allow me to be rimmed either as do protected rimming. I just couldnt trust the guy with he could slip it away.
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as a (part-time) bi male escort, i'm surprised more of the gents haven't replied, after all we are the experts for anal sex - most of our bookings involve us giving or receiving (or both) anal.
About being clean, I always douche before receiving anal. With experience, you can know if you will be clean or dirty based on what you ate and how long since last ate, but to be sure I always douche - this also is part of me feeling confident (knowing that the client will be clean). Almost always girls I have had anal with have been clean, but clients very often are not - male bums seem to be dirtier than female ones, for some reason!
It was great to see henry's input. I too, expected far more input from male perspective. Maybe, the subject is too personal, I don't know. Some clients clean themselves prior to the booking and some assume that they are clean without any douche (and they are not). Some clients never heard of "douche" and never seen one and what it takes to prep for anal even when "anal" is his main dish.
I have seen posts from women who had some "accidents" during the booking. I do think these things may or do happen unless you fast for the past 6-8 hours or so like you do when you do your colonoscopy (just like porn stars who receive anal). And you know that patients are expected to drink the prep fluid (laxative) for colonoscopy beforehand as well.
I quite agree. It depends on what type of food you had eaten and how "overactive" or "settled" your gut might be on a given day. The gut has its own mind. For clients who would freak out if gets dirty, I would say, maybe, anal isn't for you. You never know. I doubt any escorts would fast for many hours in advance or modify what you eat just because you offer anal.
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I too, expected far more input from male perspective.
Oral is the (almost) universal act between men, not anal.
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we are the experts
Bless.
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Bless.
Bless!
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Oral is the (almost) universal act between men, not anal.
Interesting.....
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we are the experts.
That's what I firmly believed...... ??? I thought it was a "trade secret" hence experts tips for anal are hardly discussed on the forum.
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I do have to confess that I got most of my anal tips from Dan Savage. That was before I started escorting.
I still hold dear, "Butt fuck in haste, bleed rectally at leisure" :D
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VC, you killed this serious thread on anal where men have been wanking over. ;D.
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I do have to confess that I got most of my anal tips from Dan Savage.
I have no idea who that is, but if memory serves I got virtually all my sex tips from Just Seventeen magazine *shows age* ;D
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That's what I firmly believed...... ??? I thought it was a "trade secret" hence experts tips for anal are hardly discussed on the forum.
That wasn't me, SM. I was quoting somebody else and (very gently) taking the piss at the weapons-grade mansplaining whilst reflecting on the fact that punters who try to contribute here pretending to be prossies but without putting any effort in to scrutinise how women write often seem surprised when we spot them after one post (http://www.saafe.info/main/index.php?topic=19030.msg137802#msg137802).
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I've decided to offer anal as an extra on my services - but I'm a bit concerned about condom splits with the extra tightness on entry.
Several years ago when I first started escort work, I used a Durex version that was suggested by a clinic for anal - it was good and i used it for work and private life bottom business. I think it was called Durex Strong.
I have been using Durex Extra Safes (although some punters have complained that I have these and brought their own super thin ones - I'm OK with theirs for front entry but not back door business).
I'm fairly tight and dont use butt plugs or poppers - so I need something strong and reliable - there are so many to choose from.
Are there any made for anal and what do other escorts have best experience with.
Any advice on anal lube also welcome - I'd like something I can put in before an appointment - I use ASDA Intimate gel at the moment but it tends to ooze out. Any experience out there????
I'm planning on an extra ?20 to ?30 for anal (Bristol) - any experience on what punters will pay? I want to charge extra both for the extra cash I'll get and also to limit it to once or twice a week. At the moment I'm getting between 1 and 3 appointments a day - sometimes none but sometimes 4 or even 5.... but I don't want them all asking for it - hence the need to price high and thin down the numbers.
I'm comfortable with anal and don't get sore if i do it now and then - any advice on how many times a week is too much?? :P
Thanks,
Sam
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Are there any made for anal and what do other escorts have best experience with.
All condoms are made for anal - if they weren't then they wouldn't be fit for purpose. I use Skyns for everything because they're latex free but before I found myself getting latex sensitive I used Mates Naturals which are about 16-18 quid a box from the Freedoms shop :). The only condoms I've ever had break were Durex and I never buy them now, nor would I use condoms that a punter had brought with him.
Any advice on anal lube also welcome - I'd like something I can put in before an appointment - I use ASDA Intimate gel at the moment but it tends to ooze out. Any experience out there????
I like Liquid Silk, but I don't apply it until it's time to start so I don't know about getting it inside (for anal especially). I do think that water based is better than silicone based for anal although I use silicone lube for everything else, but other people prefer it the other way around and I think it's a matter of trying a few and choosing what suits you.
any advice on how many times a week is too much?? :P
I don't think you can really work that out - it depends how rough the punter is, how long you keep doing it for and all sorts of other stuff; I'm good at telling them to be gentle when they're starting off and to slow down if necessary and I've never had to refuse it on the grounds of soreness, but it only takes one idiot to go at it like a bull in a china shop to put you out of action for the rest of the day and probably the next day too. Conversely I've had days where virtually every booking has included anal and provided everybody's behaved it's been no problem at all.
Anyway, there's a lot of info and advice upthread so have a read through :).
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I started replying to this post before Amy merged it, and she said most of what I was going to, but I'll add that my recommendation for lube is Doc Johnson's "Golden Girl" anal jelly, I've found it really goes the distance.
Also just wanted to ask if there's a reason you don't want to use butt plugs before an anal booking?
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I'd just say avoid Durex as overall I've found they're the brand most likely to break. The client won't have much sensitivity but EXS Extra Safe are thick and strong. Otherwise Mates, Skins, Skyns or Pasante have all been fine with me.
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Also just wanted to ask if there's a reason you don't want to use butt plugs before an anal booking?
I agree that Doc Johnson was always the go-to brand for specialist anal stuff - they have a big range of lubes and Lovehoney would be a good place for a look. I'm too cheap to buy lots of different things when one of each will do ;D
I don't use butt plugs as I find even the small ones very uncomfortable, so maybe that's it? It's not something I've ever given much thought to but I find the sensation really unpleasant (in the same way that I'd find walking around my flat feeling like I was about to poo myself pretty unpleasant too :D).
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Thanks for all the suggestions.
Why don't I like butt plugs??? - well I guess it is a bit of an embarassment thing - I don't like the idea of the punter finding it and taking it out (I actually like the feeling of it being in - but on my own in my own time). I also find that with most cocks I can get them in quite easily if I use my hand to gape it open for them. I have some regular clients who are too big but want to do it and even with a super gape effort and them being gentle, it just wont go - square peg.... round hole ...lol
How long do you think the stretched and easy access lasts after you take out a plug??? I find that I tighten up again after 5 ot 10 mins. Is it worth putting it and taking it out before the appointment to satisfy my clients with "square pegs" ????
Sammy
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one thing on Pasante - is it just me or do they smell strongly of rubber when others dont. I have had some clients comment on me smelling of condoms when the go down on me when I used Pasante - even 5 hours and a good shower later. I avoid for that reason. I once had a punter whose cock smelt of rubber and when I asked him why he told me that he had fucked his wife with a Pasante the night before!!
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I find Pasante really unpleasant for the smell and I also find the King size and super king really uncomfortable to use. The rolled rubber ring seems very thick. I now use My.Size condoms which I order off Amazon. They are expensive but I'd rather spend a little more and feel comfortable.
I don't offer anal to clients but I do it in my private life. I usually put a small-ish butt plug in an hour or so before the meet then take it out just before they arrive. It works for me, but each to their own and when it comes to butt stuff you definitely need to work out what is your own!
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Yes always offer it, even as a basic service as I don't enjoy vaginal. I do get lots of guys wanting it. It can feel as though I'm going for a shit backwards if I'm not in the mood I guess but generally I like it or I wouldn't do it. I took 10" earlier too. Not had such a big one for some time. So proud of myself for managing it.
I don't particularly enjoy toys up my bum though and have to really be in the mood for fingers...go figure?
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My anal service seems to be getting me more business - 2 yesterday and 2 today. Using a butt plug in preparation certainly changed things from discomfort to what I can actually call mild pleasure (done at the right pace I think it could bring on a decent climax for me - I got very close on the last one!).
Sorry if this is TMI but I still get traces of poo on the condom when they pull-out (clients dont complain - but there is a slight smell at the end and it stains bedding if you are not careful). I did anal douche (2 rinses each time with warm water) about an hour before each appointment..... before I put my butt plug in. How much rinsing and douching is needed to get clean and should I be trying to do nearer to the start of the appointment. I'm not consitipated and regular (I poop twice a day like clockwork). My friend who also escorts says a double squirt douche gets her squeeky clean - am I doing something wrong??????? Am I using too much lube??
Sammy
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A slight trace of poop is the price of admission with anal. It's your anus! That you shit out of! Unless you want to take a porn star 3hr enema before every anal booking then yeah there's gonna be a bit!
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I'll preface this by saying I've only done anal a handful of times, with a partner, but I found that it was pretty random as to how clean it would be. Sometimes I was worried it was a bit too soon after a bowel movement and yet there was no mess on him or the bed; otherwise I thought it would be fine and there was a bit of staining (I haven't been brave enough to try douching yet...)
I doubt lube is the problem. Perhaps watch the timings if you're very regular and/or up the amount of fibre in your diet so there's less matter 'hanging around'?
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My anal service seems to be getting me more business - 2 yesterday and 2 today. Using a butt plug in preparation certainly changed things from discomfort to what I can actually call mild pleasure (done at the right pace I think it could bring on a decent climax for me - I got very close on the last one!).
Sorry if this is TMI but I still get traces of poo on the condom when they pull-out (clients dont complain - but there is a slight smell at the end and it stains bedding if you are not careful). I did anal douche (2 rinses each time with warm water) about an hour before each appointment..... before I put my butt plug in. How much rinsing and douching is needed to get clean and should I be trying to do nearer to the start of the appointment. I'm not consitipated and regular (I poop twice a day like clockwork). My friend who also escorts says a double squirt douche gets her squeeky clean - am I doing something wrong??????? Am I using too much lube??
Sammy
Everyone is different, sometimes it just takes two pumps of the douche for me to be clean, sometimes 10 or more. I douche till the water runs clear, or if it's not happening, just text the client and say anal is a no go zone.
I douche at least an hour before a client arrives, do a check 30 minutes before, and one 15 before. Sometimes douching can encourage movement.
Post, I keep the guy close, grab a couple of tissues, hand down, disconnect, unglove and bin. If something has happened I can then hide the evidence before they even see it.
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Ouch ... no I will give it a miss as I'm occasionally asked by clients during their visit .
I don't even like them rimming .. I had surgery some years back to repair a tear so noo way !!!
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To allow easy entry you have to be properly dilated. Either a good partner who works things open with fingers maybe over 20 to 30 minutes - so unlikely with a punter.
Best approach for SW is to use butt plugs (yes plural) - work up to one that is approx the size of a cock and have it in for a good 30 mins before the booking. The resulting gape will last 30 to 40 minutes after you take it out. A warm douche can help get the first small one in.
If you get a good comfortable plug set, you can have the large size in place when the punter arrives and even sit down (slowly!) with it in. Then you can make a quick visit to the bathroom at the start to pull it out - I usually do this between taking the cash and getting started.
Having made it sound easy, I have never solved the poo appearance problem. At the moment, I'm not offering anal intercourse (too many clients wanted it and I was doing it too much for comfort) but I do offer an anal toy show (dildo with flared base) - a black dildo hides any stain. I stlll use a douche and multiple butt plugs to prep.
Try the multiple butt plugs on your own and experiment with penetration with a big vibe or dildo - but be careful not to lose it. For safety sake always use a flared base to if a client is controlling it.
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To allow easy entry you have to be properly dilated. Either a good partner who works things open with fingers maybe over 20 to 30 minutes - so unlikely with a punter.
Best approach for SW is to use butt plugs (yes plural) - work up to one that is approx the size of a cock and have it in for a good 30 mins before the booking. The resulting gape will last 30 to 40 minutes after you take it out. A warm douche can help get the first small one in.
If you get a good comfortable plug set, you can have the large size in place when the punter arrives and even sit down (slowly!) with it in. Then you can make a quick visit to the bathroom at the start to pull it out - I usually do this between taking the cash and getting started.
I've been having anal sex (paid and unpaid) for pretty much as long as I've been having sex, and I've never had to resort to this. I would say making sure they're hard enough is half the battle, but angle is important too - doggy is easiest to start with as you can tell them to stay still while you guide them straight in and go slow. If they try to push forward you can just move away from them and tell them to stop until you've got going, and if there's a big height difference they can always stand at the side of the bed or something :).
The main problem I find is with the few who like to pull it all the way out and then try to bash it straight back in again. It's annoying with vaginal sex but with anal once it's in, it needs to stay in.
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I've started offering anal to clients and although I enjoy it, I struggle to actually get the cock inside me most of the time!
I use loads of lube and warm myself up with a butt plug first. I know that with anal a penis needs to be harder than you would need it to be with vaginal, but I seem to struggle with most clients.
Any tips?
Anal is my USP and it?s pretty much standard with most my bookings. Guys usually get softer coming up to when it?s time for anal as they get over excited and nervous, especially if it?s their first time. I try and switch to anal from vaginal as soon as I can as I know timing can be an issue. It comes with practice I guess! I find it better being ontop as I can guide him in without too much pain for me. I keep the lube handy on the bed and while he is still in me vaginally and I have the lube in hand for the switch. Personally once they are in and I?ve guided them painlessly they can then get creative with positions ;D
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Love anal but sometimes it hurts at first and other times it can feel like taking a backwards shit. I don't think it's bought me anymore work in than anyone else though TBH.
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I enjoy anal. I douche myself before hand and use lube and prefer performing it doggy style.
I do charge extra for it and list it as extra on my AW profile. it is very common request.
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I do enjoy anal in my personal life thinking of charging extra for it , what concerns me is we know we don't get gentle punters sometimes they think they can just ram it in and go hard straight off just wondering what you girls think ?
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I'm also thinking of offering it as an extra to some of my regulars.
I think I'd be concerned about them not listening to instructions, ie, go slowly, stop when I say etc but it f it didn't go ahead through their own stupidity, would you feel obliged to refund the extra charge?
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I'm also thinking of offering it as an extra to some of my regulars.
I think I'd be concerned about them not listening to instructions, ie, go slowly, stop when I say etc but it f it didn't go ahead through their own stupidity, would you feel obliged to refund the extra charge?
If they had some anal but had to stop because they were being rough not listening I wouldn't give any money back if nothing had happened but I didn't want to offer it to them I would give the money back.
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Tbh it's no different really than if they're being rough at any other time. If you stop the service after earning them then it's their own fault! I'm not offering it at the moment but I'm going to be A LOT more selective with who I offer it to (mostly based on size) than I was before. Tbh most guys want you to guide them in and you could start off on top then you're in control
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I offer anal, at no extra charge.
The ones that do ask for it, imo, have been very aware of the difference in penetration. They've either taken it very slowly and asked if I'm ok, or they've let me take full control.
The trick is LUBE LUBE LUBE!
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I offer anal, at no extra charge.
The ones that do ask for it, imo, have been very aware of the difference in penetration. They've either taken it very slowly and asked if I'm ok, or they've let me take full control.
The trick is LUBE LUBE LUBE!
I am the same, I don?t charge extra for it and I get lots of guys who have not tried it before come and see me. I explain to them to not go all the way out and then back in again as it just traps air in there making it uncomfortable (Also can be an embarrassing if you don?t want to fart like a trooper!), I have to go on top at first so that it?s easier to get in (do reverse cowgirl if you want to give them a better view) and a shit ton of lube. I spend a lot of money on lube ;D
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Hi ladies
I'm offer anal as extra. While i enjoy it i always take extra careful in case condom spilt.
I only ever use extra strong condoms. Recently ran out and used normal condoms.
Do any of you use extra strong condoms.
Thanks ladies
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I don't do anal, but I think any decent standard should be OK - though personally, I wouldn't use Durex. I had some EXS ExtraSafe and they were like gardening gloves! My guess is plenty of lube is actually the key issue to avoid splits.
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I don't do anal, but I think any decent standard should be OK - though personally, I wouldn't use Durex. I had some EXS ExtraSafe and they were like gardening gloves! My guess is plenty of lube is actually the key issue to avoid splits.
Lube really is the main thing. I would invest in lube especially for anal to avoid wastage. Before I used to just use the generic stuff and I would use so much that it was just everywhere! I do anal for almost every booking I have as it?s my USP so I would also go through a hell of a lot of the stuff too.