Author Topic: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward (Read 3055 times)

Rosenrot · « **on:** 28 July 2019, 10:05:01 pm »

Hello,

Just sitting here not exactly knowing what to think.

Saw the punter today, arrived on time, paid for 1.5hours. Someone with impeccable feedback. Felt weird at the first sight, he had strange unmoving eyes fixated on me. He wouldn’t really talk much, I’m normally quite humorous because I get nervous and this helps me to diffuse the tension I feel when meeting someone new.

Came 20 minutes into a 1.5 hour meeting and the rest of the time (around 10-15minutes) he spends watching tv and not really doing anything. I asked if he wants to go again, cock not responsive to play. I began playing with myself instead and he again just stared at me without any emotion showing. Gave up a few minutes later, feeling stupid and the conversation was awkward. Kind of forced. I get uncomfortable if someone doesn’t return my attempts to keep things light hearted and playful, all was met with a half smile. No second pop since he didn’t get it up.

Eventually I remarked that it’s a little awkward and whether he wants to leave the meeting earlier. I refunded him for the time we didn’t spend and actually asked if there was anything I said or did and if so I didn’t mean it. He claimed nothing wrong and “he’s not in the mood”. Walked out, money settled and that was it.

Quite pissed off, especially when having had a no show as well on the same day, quite paranoid I’ve done something to turn him off. Have you ever had a situation like that? Did he later tell you what’s up? I’m getting quite paranoid I’ve done something that I’m not aware of...

$:-\$

Serendipity · « **Reply #1 on:** 28 July 2019, 10:16:51 pm »

Quote from: Rosenrot on 28 July 2019, 10:05:01 pm

Hello,

Just sitting here not exactly knowing what to think.

Saw the punter today, arrived on time, paid for 1.5hours. Someone with impeccable feedback. Felt weird at the first sight, he had strange unmoving eyes fixated on me. He wouldn’t really talk much, I’m normally quite humorous because I get nervous and this helps me to diffuse the tension I feel when meeting someone new.

Came 20 minutes into a 1.5 hour meeting and the rest of the time (around 10-15minutes) he spends watching tv and not really doing anything. I asked if he wants to go again, cock not responsive to play. I began playing with myself instead and he again just stared at me without any emotion showing. Gave up a few minutes later, feeling stupid and the conversation was awkward. Kind of forced. I get uncomfortable if someone doesn’t return my attempts to keep things light hearted and playful, all was met with a half smile. No second pop since he didn’t get it up.

Eventually I remarked that it’s a little awkward and whether he wants to leave the meeting earlier. I refunded him for the time we didn’t spend and actually asked if there was anything I said or did and if so I didn’t mean it. He claimed nothing wrong and “he’s not in the mood”. Walked out, money settled and that was it.

Quite pissed off, especially when having had a no show as well on the same day, quite paranoid I’ve done something to turn him off. Have you ever had a situation like that? Did he later tell you what’s up? I’m getting quite paranoid I’ve done something that I’m not aware of... $:-\$

If it was me I wouldn’t have refunded, especially if you were being friendly and offering round 2 but he wasn’t being responsive at all. I’ve never had any experiences like that, but it sounds so awkward and horrible

Did he suggest putting the tv on?

EvelynWho · « **Reply #2 on:** 28 July 2019, 10:21:51 pm »

Had a similar client experience a while back. He arrived. Minimal small talk. Bit awkward and quiet. Asked him if he wanted to take his shirt off while I was feeling him up asked if he wanted to lie down? To which he sat up against the wall but at least on the bed, tried everything I could think off to get the ol’ juices flowing. Next to no response or warmth from him.

just figured we’d go for it and I’d give minimal effort in return and just get it over with as quick as possible. Think this was only an hour booking though.
In the end he finished with some very awkward hand relief and then he sat there with a (I can’t even describe the expression tbh) on his face.
I thought maybe he was embarrassed about finishing so quickly??! So I said to comfort him, we still have plenty of time left don’t worry we are allowed to ‘go’ again

To which he said I think I’ll leave it actually, and he quickly got up and dressed. He didn’t say a word. So like you I asked if I had said or done something wrong (never would normally care but he had a air of sad about him that made me feel SO BAD and I panicked that I’d actually done something wrong ??)

I’ve heard about the cum guilt some men get but had never knowingly experienced it until that client. But boy was he guilty. Realise now that it had nothing to do with me. But in the moment and in the awkwardness of it all I think it’s easy to direct it inwardly towards ourselves when it could and would have been the same with anyone else, and anytime. It’s him. It’s his guilt and his awkwardness. Not you. Not your service. Not us.

Rosenrot · « **Reply #3 on:** 28 July 2019, 10:24:52 pm »

Quote from: Serendipity on 28 July 2019, 10:16:51 pm

If it was me I wouldn’t have refunded, especially if you were being friendly and offering round 2 but he wasn’t being responsive at all. I’ve never had any experiences like that, but it sounds so awkward and horrible

Did he suggest putting the tv on?

No, the TV was always on, I always put it on so if the convo runs dry at least there’s no radio silence. I have refunded just in case he ever walks around talking shit how I ripped off or anything similar. Never seen that before and quite paranoid I’ve done something :/

ana30 · « **Reply #4 on:** 28 July 2019, 10:27:18 pm »

I would;t have refunded a dime. You did your job like a pro and he was akward as hell. You tried to be nice, put him at ease, he thought the TV was more interesting that you. Total weirdo.If a client tells me he wants to spend half the session watching TV, that's fine, but I'm still charging him because I'm a sex worker, not a charity. I don't have an ad on aw so that creeps can come and watch telly with me for free.

EvelynWho · « **Reply #5 on:** 28 July 2019, 10:31:39 pm »

Quote from: Ana30 on 28 July 2019, 10:27:18 pm

I don't have an ad on aw so that creeps can come and watch telly with me for free.

Not for free obvs but I have a client who finishes in the first 5/10 mins always and then we do genuinely lay and watch tv for the rest of the time, making sarcy comments and laughing at the people on there. He joked once we should be on gogglebox. Lol! Id watch the SW episode special of it for sure!

GG · « **Reply #6 on:** 28 July 2019, 10:34:54 pm »

Don't worry about it. These are the hardest bookings, we all have them & unfortunately, he probably will not be the last client you get like this. In that situation I would have offered him a nice hot shower and asked if he wanted me to wash his back or asked him if he wanted a tea or coffee then engaged in small talk bringing it around from sexual to normal (works well if they have cum guilt ) I understand why you did what you did but I don't think I would have offered him his money back unless he was creeping me out so bad I wanted him gone quickly lol I remember offering a client a facial in a similar situation, I cleansed & toned put on a face pack, covered him up, put the music low, lights dimmed and left him for 15 minutes to recover. He actually thanked me for it, I felt a bit bad at the time but short of throwing him out I really had run out of ideas. Sometimes they just need some head space x

ana30 · « **Reply #7 on:** 28 July 2019, 10:39:48 pm »

Quote from: EveWithEve on 28 July 2019, 10:31:39 pm

Not for free obvs but I have a client who finishes in the first 5/10 mins always and then we do genuinely lay and watch tv for the rest of the time, making sarcy comments and laughing at the people on there. He joked once we should be on gogglebox. Lol! Id watch the SW episode special of it for sure!

But you're not charging him for a 5/10 min session, I'm guessing he's paying for a full booking. So If he wants to spend the next 40 minutes watching TV with you because that makes him happy hey ho

Problem is if he demanded back his money for the 40 min.

Rosenrot · « **Reply #8 on:** 28 July 2019, 10:42:45 pm »

The reason I refunded an apportioned fee is because I’ve had a situation where I turned up 5-10mins late, the punter paid the full amount with no peep and then later attacked me for “ripping him off”. I don’t want that kind of shit again.

I know. Never had that before! I’m considered a “popular” escort and most meets are very pleasant, with many coming back to see me. Which pisses me off even more because there are lots of guys who wanted to book and instead I proceeded with that weirdo who booked before the other offers.

What’s bizarre is his feedback: “he was fun and laughed at my silly jokes”

So one obnoxious no show (got angry he doesn’t get a time and purposely flakes once I managed to get him the time) and a weirdo. And it’s a fucking tour!

EvelynWho · « **Reply #9 on:** 28 July 2019, 10:48:19 pm »

Quote from: Ana30 on 28 July 2019, 10:39:48 pm

But you're not charging him for a 5/10 min session, I'm guessing he's paying for a full booking. So If he wants to spend the next 40 minutes watching TV with you because that makes him happy hey ho Problem is if he demanded back his money for the 40 min.

Oh gosh no he pays for the full time. An hour or more whatever he’s feeling. Think having the company is something he enjoys as much as the relief to start.
But if anyone ever ‘demanded’ money back after arriving I’d never again accept a booking from them. And I’d hope they’d give off that vibe during or before at least?? fortunately never had clients demand money back or partial refunds. (Touch wood).
I’d hope I’d stand my ground, and refuse, whether they’d spent the full time or not.

EvelynWho · « **Reply #10 on:** 28 July 2019, 10:54:45 pm »

Clients talk and discuss every aspect of bookings.
I don’t want to ever give the impression that if they even asked politely for a partial refund that id agree and give money back.
If they book an hour, and finish in half hour. I’m not paying them for finishing early. That’s not the direction the cash flows thanks very much, hahah.
And I don’t want clients coming to me hoping to get money back bc they’ve heard from others that I do that/agree to that.

If I had any piece of advice to give it’s to never do or agree to something you wouldn’t do with every new client in future. If a previous client had mentioned this or that about your service or how you work, new clients may well be expecting it, it’s unlikely they’ll mention it before booking, and there will be the awkwardness when they arrive...expecting money back, or for you to take out your month old piercings (my experience!). ugh

ana30 · « **Reply #11 on:** 28 July 2019, 11:00:00 pm »

Quote from: Rosenrot on 28 July 2019, 10:42:45 pm

The reason I refunded an apportioned fee is because I’ve had a situation where I turned up 5-10mins late, the punter paid the full amount with no peep and then later attacked me for “ripping him off”. I don’t want that kind of shit again.

That's perfectly understandable rosenrot, if a client who had behaved like a total weirdo asked me for money back and I was by myself and afraid of him getting violent I may have done that too. Choosing between a) loosing 100 pounds and b) a possible violent "scene" with a mad man I will go for "a".

Ellie B · « **Reply #12 on:** 28 July 2019, 11:33:30 pm »

You have not done anything wrong and should have not given him any money back.

It has been discussed previously, that when some clients cum they change personality from becoming super horny before the deed and completely weird and in a rush to get out asap after he explodes his lot.
This is so common.

If he is weird and stares a lot and there is no conversation beforehand and freaky, then I would end the booking and offer a partial refund.

I often find the weird ones are addicted to porn and therefore think of you as an "object" and not a person!
Block him and move on.
There are plenty of normal ones out there!

Pretty Pink · « **Reply #13 on:** 29 July 2019, 12:13:29 am »

I very much doubt it was you. I have a reg that is a really lovely man but once he’s cum he literally runs to the bathroom, showers, gets dressed and leaves without a word. He then txts to say thankyou, he just gets shy. Iv also had clients who have had a shit day but honoured booking even though they’re stressed out their head. Who knows what was up with him or how his day was but if you felt that giving him a partial refund was the right thing to do at the time then that’s what matters (even if I’m another vote for never)

DiscreetLady · « **Reply #14 on:** 29 July 2019, 12:19:18 am »

was it an AW client with feedback?

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