I do some bdsm services both ways giving+receiving, but as pro subbing is harder to find / more niche  than all the different dommes out there, I feel I get booked for that more often

You need the basic rules, obviously traffic light system are popular safewords or “mercy” and no permanent marks left.

I don’t let anyone restrain me on their first booking and i state that on both the profile and when they ask for it. Explain you need to build up trust first with successful other bookings!

Actually have been known to let clients I know after a few meets tie me up or blindfold me. This probably won’t be recommended by most people, as clients can quickly change behaviour, but I’ve had no problems

You can also get the soft handcuffs that are sort of round your wrist big enough that if there was an emergency you could slip out of them. But I’ve done the full thing too- thigh restraints, under the bed etc.


Also have experience with using professional dungeons- these are usually super expensive per hour tho. I have always got the client to book and pay for that upfront. So unless you plan on working a lot is not a good idea to be permanently based in one (and you don’t need to!!) With some of your own kit you can use any room. If you don’t have a specific piece  of kit yet, if the client wants to use it they should purchase it for you

I also have a weirdly high pain tolerance so usually OK with some more extreme impact play, I do worry that a client then treats another escort with same level of pain will be unbearable or get them into trouble 

But all you can really do is simply base it on what you’re personally happy with. Do not be afraid of saying no EVER, or halting the scene completely Don’t injure yourself

As for a friend nearby, you should certainly be letting someone know where you are and what time you expect to return  with an agreed leeway so that if you’re slightly delayed they’re not breaking door down if you run slightly overtime, but it’s always good practice to let someone know where you are!!

This could be anyone you live with, a close friend or a safety buddy from here

With professional dungeons they are usually super prompt with kicking you out exactly at the time you booked for (as another person will be using it after you) and they normally have CCTV outside so definitely the safest option

Oh and also! You don’t have to offer extreme pain or anything like it to be a pro sub, some escorts focus on the roleplay side of things. If you are already doing similar stuff on the amateur sites, it will probably be easy for you to get paid bookings it’s how a lot of people start out honestly

Don’t let clients think that because you’re submissive they can do *anything* they want…. Incorrect

If they’re spanking you too hard. Tell them immediately to stop. Don’t put up with anything beyond your boundaries

Thanks so much for the advice. The dungeon actually sounds like the safest route.

A few guys have said they already supply cuffs, nipple clamps, collars, blindfolds, gags, rope, pegs etc. I think I’m better off buying my own as I’m not sure how clean their equipment will be. One potential client is very much into orgasm denial. I’m wondering how this route will affect my mental health. My income has dropped off recently and I really need the cash.