Hello everyone, I'm starting to give serious consideration to starting work - doing a lot of research. Obviously my main concern is the risk of being attacked. The girls I have spoken to so far have said its never happened to them, and they have trusted their gut instinct and left if they have felt that something wasn't right.
I am really keen to know how common this is, whether anyone as had such experiences and what they did about it, if anything.
Thank you for your time x

Thanks Amy, appreciate that. It is being deliberately harmed or threatened by a client that is my big worry.

Like Amy I've not been physically attacked as such, like her I have been robbed however in my case there was the threat of violence in the form of him presenting a large carving knife, wearing a disguise to hide his face, physically standing between me and an exit and suggesting at one point he would restrain me. Luckily the only bruises I got were those from trying to push past him to get to the door and also bumping into one or two things during our 'exchange'. When your body is flooded with adrenaline (mix of anger and fear)you aren't really being terribly careful!

Apart from that I've had the odd accidentally banging of heads, elbow in the eye, clumsy client sort of thing but I'm pretty tough from my fitness stuff. I get more bruises from the self-defence and other sports training I do, tying steel-boned corsets too tight can also result in various injuries too - lesson learned there.

Doesn't mean there isn't anyone out there who would hurt you but so long as you are aware(I'd become complacent), and take sensible precautions you can minimise the chances of this happening.

Fifteen years working in the sex industry and the closest I've been to being injured at work was when a window frame fell on my head while I was trying to open it to vent the room after a client. It was very painful and I had to lay down with a bag of ice on my head for a couple of hours. That doesn't mean I havent had my share of scary experiences, -of course I have-, but never a confrontation that ended up getting "physical".

I can honestly say hand on heart i have never been in a bad situation with regards to work and punters

Im not sure if its because i am of the mind of anyone who is fucking me about initially  is going to be worse when i meet so i simply don't see them  or because maybe i come across as slightly "Don't fuck with me " in the sense that i sort of take control of the appointment from the start or i simply look like a woman that would put up a good fight  but I've never been in the situation where i have felt scared or vulnerable

To be honest i think its a lot sometimes to do with your own confidence - bullies and potential attackers like to chose easy prey  or people that they think or believe to be easy targets which is why so many street girls seem to get attacked as apposed to indoor workers.
   So if you come across as a victim or weak or even the appearance of being vulnerable  you might find your more prone to attracting such people
 
I  have a friend and she is forever having problems with punters not in a  bad way like being attacked but numerous silly things and them taking the piss with her   However  its often punters that i have seen and had no trouble with them and they are often repeat clients for me.   So to some extent i honestly believe that she  its the way she works that allows these guys to mess her about  They know that they can so they do  With me they know that they cant, so they don't 
It come with experience though and unfortunately you have to go through a lot of idiots and timewasters to be able to smell the bullshit down the phone and  in texts   


But then again in Strawberry case none of above apply  so I'm probably just talking crap

Well my attitude can hardly be called into question and neither can Strawberry's, so whilst I agree broadly, there's no point denying that it happens. In both cases the people involved had previously been for appointment without incident too, so it's helpful to remember not to let your guard drop, in my case at least. It's still very rare for indoor workers - when you're new you'll get far more in the way of boundary pushers and timewasters, as well as 'helpful' punters who may have either good or bad intentions, but are singularly unlikely to be helpful either way.

If you want to up your chances of not being attacked by a stranger at work, I would also write off nursing, teaching, social work or anything involving a uniformed service (police, traffic wardens, paramedics and so on) - these are the jobs are where the statistics get scary. And don't rely on a self defence class - they can give you a false sense of security and I would recommend some assertiveness or confidence building classes instead if you think you need a bit of a boost .

I can honestly say hand on heart i have never been in a bad situation with regards to work and punters

Im not sure if its because i am of the mind of anyone who is fucking me about initially  is going to be worse when i meet so i simply don't see them  or because maybe i come across as slightly "Don't fuck with me " in the sense that i sort of take control of the appointment from the start or i simply look like a woman that would put up a good fight  but I've never been in the situation where i have felt scared or vulnerable.

To be honest i think its a lot sometimes to do with your own confidence - bullies and potential attackers like to chose easy prey  or people that they think or believe to be easy targets which is why so many street girls seem to get attacked as apposed to indoor workers.

So if you come across as a victim or weak or even the appearance of being vulnerable  you might find your more prone to attracting such people
 

+1 for me too.

And agree that returning clients are just as likely to try and get one over on you too so you have to be 100% aware at all times.

Quote from: amy on 16 June 2013, 12:22:18 pm

Well my attitude can hardly be called into question and neither can Strawberry's, so whilst I agree broadly, there's no point denying that it happens. In both cases the people involved had previously been for appointment without incident too, so it's helpful to remember not to let your guard drop, in my case at least. It's still very rare for indoor workers - when you're new you'll get far more in the way of boundary pushers and timewasters, as well as 'helpful' punters who may have either good or bad intentions, but are singularly unlikely to be helpful either way.

If you want to up your chances of not being attacked by a stranger at work, I would also write off nursing, teaching, social work or anything involving a uniformed service (police, traffic wardens, paramedics and so on) - these are the jobs are where the statistics get scary. And don't rely on a self defence class - they can give you a false sense of security and I would recommend some assertiveness or confidence building classes instead if you think you need a bit of a boost .

Completely with you on the self-defence, when I mentioned it in my post I was referring to a training in a martial art. People often ask me to recommend a short one day or few hours course, and I won't because trying to remember one move out of however many taught in a few hours, one day 2 years ago isn't going to help and could delay you actually getting to safety. I also actually ignore people who try giving well-meant self-defence tips. As was explained to me by a martial arts instructor when I myself was making enquiries, you have to train and practice regularly(like at least once a week) for it to be any use, and even then the first thing you'd do is try and talk your way out of the situation (or run away) before anything else.

Im with you on the running away -    its why I alway wear slip on high heel shoes and not those that have straps or anything that prevents me from getting a quick getaway  Just my luck to to get attacked and run off  but to break my bloody neck from falling down the stairs trying to make a quick escape