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Appeltje

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Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« on: 03 November 2024, 07:11:23 am »
This is my first post so hello everyone. Little bit of my story first before I go on the subject.
I've been working as a prossie before but due to unfortunate event in my life I had to quit work.

What happened? The owner of small studio I was renting throwed me out and I lost everything I had. He came to my door and I had on only dress and sandals and As I was standing in these clothes I had to in a minute leave the place and become homeless. I am from Poland and the situation took place in Belgium.

It was 2019. Now is end of 2024. My body changed. Due to the stress I endured I've been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I'm taking medications. I couldn't count on my family.

My body has hanging skin, I am about 300lbs. I have pretty hair and I can use make up to look attractive. My legs has hanging skin too. Even my vagina. I've been consuming gigantic amount of food to bare with the loss of m clients at large, cause the physical things can be bought again. But even with the looks I have I love this job too much to let it go. I like the intimacy and I feel still attractive. My plan is to loose some weight and come back to Belgium and work again. I love this line of job. It gives my freedom, space, feeling of sexual expression and more.

The question which keeps knocking to my mind: is prostitution about looks? Since I remember I had many clients who wanted to be accepted, have company, be with somebody happy... How do you see the sphere of looks, do you thing that looks and the end matter much, how do you preceive ageing, don't you think that in many cases the clients come to get "that" feeling? Can somebody be too ugly for work, I am smart person and it sound a bit stupid, I know from my experince, when being nice, friendly, love giving, etc. was the main reason I had regulars and clients didn't give a bit about my looks. What do you take from that?

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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #1 on: 03 November 2024, 11:41:26 am »
Im so sad to hear what you've been through. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  I'm 54 years old, no oil painting, and I still get work. Confidence is the most important aspect of escorting.

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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #2 on: 03 November 2024, 12:44:02 pm »
Sex workers come in all shapes and sizes because people come in all shapes and sizes - there is work for everyone :)

I have met an awful lot of prossies over the years, and with one exception (who was too short to be a model, or I'm sure she would have been) I have yet to encounter one who was any more than ordinarily pleasant looking, including me :D

Service and attitude are what matters long term, and good marketing is what gets them through the door in the first place.

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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #3 on: 03 November 2024, 04:20:39 pm »
I agree with Amy. I have been in this industry for 15 years now, and I've worked with all sorts of lovely ladies. There is actually a big desire for bigger girls too. Just be honest on your profile, and you'll get no ugly surprises. I have mobility issues, which can turn certain people off, but there really is a need for everyone <3 and I bet you're fucking gorgeous x

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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #4 on: 03 November 2024, 05:28:43 pm »
My dear 😘 you are what they are looking for... The bigger the better,  I know a colleague who is a dress size 32 and 5ft2 and not a looker but according to her clients ,she provides excellent service. She is very busy at a Premier price too.
So just do ur research of escorts your size and see how they carry in photos /market themselves

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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #5 on: 03 November 2024, 05:31:22 pm »
No you can’t be too ugly, because beauty is subjective. What one finds attractive, another person may not. If YOU feel attractive that is all that matters. It’s amazing you feel good about yourself. As someone who has struggled with body dysmorphia, it’s all in the mind. I’m a healthy size for my height and I still see myself as ‘fat’. For me it’s all down to social media and beauty standards today. You said your plan is to loose some weight, which is a great step into becoming healthy. Just walking an hour a day is a good start, I love walking and listening to a podcast. It really does improve mental health, not just physical.

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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #6 on: 03 November 2024, 06:25:18 pm »
Yeah, there is nobody anywhere as good at finding fault with our bodies as we are. Not using social media helps (and the older you get the less you care, in my experience) but women are far more critical generally when it come to appearance. Men on the whole don't really notice much, bar a smallish group of outliers who most of us would be happy to avoid.

Try to feel good about yourself, which is easier said than done I know, but things like washing your hair and brushing your teeth, making sure your eyebrows and nails look nice (what used to be called grooming before the internet meaning took over) definitely help IME :)

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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #7 on: 03 November 2024, 08:24:08 pm »
As always this forum and you lovely ladies have been cheering be up!

I recently view a topic on tv program about BBW and the fetish [link removed, please don't post these on the forum]

I'm looking like an average figure compared with some of this ladies. I want to lose some weight but do not become skinny. I  know is somehow going to help me to market myself as the big one to have work, only the issue is the hanging skin. But I guess I did watch too much models on Shein app... They all seem to look big and have cellulite and never hanging belly.
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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #8 on: 03 November 2024, 08:46:51 pm »
attitude and approach...

looks are part of the show, but the meat is in your presentation appraoch and attitude. And I keep that going. Its never let me down. Id say I was frumpy and tired and a bit grey around the edges but hey play the game. be what they want. and give it them.

The money comes in and they go away happy.

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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #9 on: 03 November 2024, 08:56:13 pm »
This is my first post so hello everyone. Little bit of my story first before I go on the subject [...]

All you have to be is willing. I've worked with many ugly girls and if they give a bad service, then it's the service not the looks. I've worked with drop dead gorgeous girls who clients bolted away from as they had no "sex appeal ". Got nothing to do with looks


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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #10 on: 04 November 2024, 12:09:17 am »
I've met some very attractive people and they have had awlful personalities, looks is not the most attractive thing about a person. And many clients want to be around someone that can make them feel welcome from the beginning, a nice smile is always attractive and it's how you can make someone feel good about themselves, being fun and being your best in the moment. I think service is more important that just being good looking. Some men like skinny women or curvy or bbw, and I worked with a big and beautiful woman and she was very busy. Lots of her clients secretly lusted after plus size women and she had some very fit young men visit her.

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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #11 on: 04 November 2024, 08:27:12 am »
Im so sad to hear what you've been through. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  I'm 54 years old, no oil painting, and I still get work. Confidence is the most important aspect of escorting.

I cannot stress this enough, I have lost work before it’s not nice before I had a weight loss I was fired from agencies but many years of experience later it’s given me a huge boost from all of it through trial and error it’s all about the person feel good, LOOK GOOD, not the other way round good foods fresh air and keep up with your routines, well done for taking the first steps good luck x

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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #12 on: 08 November 2024, 12:07:14 pm »
All you have to be is willing. I've worked with many ugly girls and if they give a bad service, then it's the service not the looks. I've worked with drop dead gorgeous girls who clients bolted away from as they had no "sex appeal ". Got nothing to do with looks


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I used too work in a parlour years ago. This new girl started. Lovely girl with other sex workers. Really nice and pleasant etc. She was drop dead gorgoeus , looked like angelia jolie in her younger years, really busty. Well all guys booked her.

She lasted two weeks! Apparently her service and attitude in the room with clients absolutely shocking. Really rude too them, took money and not provided services, rushed them in and out.

Yet there was this older girl. Not too be unkind but she wasn't very attractive. A bit of effort to her appearance would have helped. But really outgoing personality and attitude. She only got picked in line up when there was no one else available.

Over the months those clients came back and back again and she was the busiest girl in the parlour. Clients loved her as she was good at her job!

So make most of your appearance, and have a good attitude and offer good service and that's all that matters in this industry.

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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #13 on: 08 November 2024, 03:44:05 pm »
I tried body contouring recently because my stomach is so dimpling it's very unappealing I covered up during seeing clients. My looks aren't too bad most days I'm late 50s. But what is ugly how can it be defined I wonder .

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Re: Is prostitution about looks? Too ugly to work...?
« Reply #14 on: 11 November 2024, 10:56:30 pm »
I echo what everyone else has said. I've been in this game 8 years and in that time I've gone from a 14 to an 18-20, back down to a 10 (at which point I looked awful when I see those photos, I wasn't well) and am now hovering around 14-16.i have clients who have stayed with me the whole way through because they like the experience of being with me - and that is the same no matter what size I am.

Put accurate pictures on your profile, do what you need to do to feel confident (nice lingerie, good hairstyle, good makeup, manicure, whatever) and concentrate on giving a good service and you will find your client base.
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