Dear all,

I was thinking on this question for a while now and am not sure about the answer. I am curteous to others' opinions on this topic.
1. Would you plan a baby while having no intention of ever giving up escorting?
2. Is it okay to be an escort and regard it as 'just another job' and move forward with your life?
3. Would you advise of getting a civvie life and quit escorting if you plan a baby/babies?
3. Or would you make a plan as you try your best to go civvie and during the transition you would continue escorting?
4. Or do you think negatives outweigh the positives?
5. Is it stupid to think everything to be okay on long term and 'just do it'?
Having these questions, am I worrying too much? I have fears for the future that is for sure I dont want to 'mess up'. I also worry about this question because while having these thoughts for a while I realized that during the years my belief in the institution of marriage and partners really shaken. What i constantly see everywhere is that people seem to be together for 1-2years maximum and it really makes me anxious and sad and full of doubt. It also got me into thinking aboutfinancing my future as raising children cost quite a bit and I want to make sure that I can provide on long term if me and my partner split.


I dont write about my situation as just want to know what you guys think in general.
Also I am not being UK specific (no social services worries).

Do you think that if I accept myself and my job then people (or society) will accept it as well?
Are we living in a modern society or this is just too optimistic thinking?
After all, gay can marry now and I am positive and open minded about it too.

Society will never accept prozzies even if you accept as the stigma is set. Only clients are more accepting as their horny needs are met.  In life we need to be carful with decision making as just doing it on the spur of the moment thing. Can mask bad situations possibly only later realising when there. So to be aware with a plan of action helps preventing. In escorting we need to think as cannot do hoping for the best. As this way of operating is dangerous especially when not all of clients behave.

''gay can marry now and I am positive and open minded about it too.''

This statement is in the civy world not prozzy so doesn't carry much weight about escorts being accepted.

The most important is thinking hard about your questions as you know best your circumstances.

Amy, I'm in agreement with your last paragraph except I really wouldn't want my child being on the receiving end of the opinions of ignorant people. I live in fear of my daughter being affected by this, and wouldn't plan to have children whilst escorting. For me it was either this or homelessness with a baby (impossible to get a council house here). I do enjoy it but can't wait for civvie life.

hi

i have 4 children but 3 are grown and only one lives with me and my hubby she is 5  i have been doing this for money for a few months i am a sub i don't do sex as in the personnel services bit. i only do at the most  1 a week
 
i don't do in calls because 0f my child and it a council house anyway. also no one except my hubby now i do this it a difficult one the main reason im so private is my child  i really wouldn't want anyone at the school to know what i do.

if i was pregnant a wouldn't work and the trying will be difficult if having sex with other people.

rose xx

There is nothing wrong with being an escort and a mother but I wouldnt personally plan for a child while escorting no.

I never said there was if you read it again, but then you agree with what I said. Each to their own. It was baby planning while escorting that is demanding enough I said then gave my personal view. Also it would be a precious time for me with my mind totally on getting pregnant. Not sleeping with other men as well at the same time. I would prioritise the baby planning but that is just my view.

I think you misunderstood. My post wasnt in response to anything you had said, it was in response to the OP comment. Mine just happened to come below yours.

I worked through 2 of my pregnancies. I have older children too and they are school aged. I work normal hours, from 9-5 and it really works for me, in-fact escorting is great for working around my family commitments. I know not everyone will agree with working through pregnancy but I found myself just as, if not more busy with clients.

Thank you all for your replies, it was interesting to see different opinions

I was thinking more of the 'after the baby is born' part, not so much about the 'planning a pregnancy' tbh. As someone said the questions are for me to answer as i have to look at my own circumstances.

To respond to Amy, I think what you say is, would be the correct answer, ignore society/who cares about society, save enough money = wait for the perfect time= make enough money= work hard. These are of course only my interpretations. I am at the stage where I need to choose between what is correct and what is correct for me, and that makes a huge difference.

I think i 'work with scarce resources' e.g. money and time constraints. My own thinking comes bit in the way, eg. I want to be a mother before the age of 30 but at the same time when i think about money it never seems enough and whatever I could save I spend it. (I do not spend it on clothes, shoes etc but I save for a deposit, but once i have it, i spend it on a property and take a mortgage, so basically I spend it.) I think I am being realistic here, I do understand I need a fair bit of money in the coming years and I try to secure my future so I never need to worry about how i will pay the mortgage, whatever happens. Also business seems very slow recently for me, and while i understand i could probably advertise more to shake things up I don't think i actually want to as i am also building up another career in the way and also study and therefore reduce escorting.
I also consider moving to another country where my money i have would be enough to live my life without debt. However, infrastructure, lack of healthcare etc seems a big compromise in those countries i looked at so far. Therefore, as I put it I have to manage what i have, the scarce resources, and even if it seems irresponsible to some, to decide to have children while having no solid foundations (financially). And yes, this is self employed job however the nature of job is unusual with the stigma attached so I not only have to consider the self employment aspect, but what society says about it.

Sorry if my post doesn't make sense I am in mess pretty much but do hope you guys understand where I am coming from.

ETA: even to me i just realized, seems that I have a plan (before 30) but I ran into problems with the execution.