Author Topic: Phoning vs Texting (Read 8253 times)

Siorse · « **Reply #15 on:** 15 August 2015, 07:13:28 pm »

Quote from: sensualmilf on 15 August 2015, 01:24:57 pm

Is it a problem for you Siorse? You could try hypnotism X

No, it's not really a problem, I can force myself to answer the phone or phone someone if I have to, I just much prefer texting and e-mailing etc..
I've no idea where this comes from, maybe it runs in the family lol, my brother hates phoning too lol.
But it doesn't affect my business or anything, I just wish I didn't mind phoning like normal people

Siorse is actually properly spelled Saoirse, pronounced "Sheer-sa", it's Irish Gaelic for freedom

sultress000 · « **Reply #16 on:** 15 August 2015, 09:05:25 pm »

I am exactly the same siorse!

zoe · « **Reply #17 on:** 15 August 2015, 09:34:10 pm »

I hate texting, so much easier to speak. And have a chat.

Emma_C · « **Reply #18 on:** 16 August 2015, 12:11:28 pm »

Quote from: sensualmilf on 15 August 2015, 01:26:31 pm

And BTW, how DO you pronounce your name - it's bugging me lol?

Is it Shorsha - phonetically??

I was wondering that too!!

I do both, am guilty of letting it ring & texting if I'm busy or not working that day. I hate feeling like I'm working in a call centre. Tried that job and it kicked off my anxiety disorder. Will always get them to call to confirm though.

TheLittleMatchGirl · « **Reply #19 on:** 16 August 2015, 12:21:00 pm »

Yes I've got the talking on the phone phobia too. Clients, boyfriends, friends & sometimes family

DiscreetLady · « **Reply #20 on:** 16 August 2015, 12:48:57 pm »

For me calling is a must at least to confirm a booking. Part of my security process is to hear the way they sound on the phone as that's crucial for a good (or bad) impression. Besides, texting is free so too many timewasters by text.

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #21 on:** 16 August 2015, 01:29:46 pm »

One who was accepted for a booking via text. He arrived on the street. But didn't come up. He sounded like one that wouldn't have gave a booking if heard him on the phone. My lesson learned. If they don't want to phone at all usually it is for a crafty reason.

Cheryl87 · « **Reply #22 on:** 16 August 2015, 02:11:52 pm »

Exactly the same here. I will force myself to phone 'official' people, and family and close friends is no problem, but clients? no way! texting all the way, unless it's very quiet and they are demanding to call x

Bluetits · « **Reply #23 on:** 16 August 2015, 02:26:20 pm »

I?ve had it where men have just become a member on AW, for about an hour and have submitted a Request. It?s mainly those who?ve just become members who place a booking without email or text and my profile says to call first. One recently made the booking a week before so I said please call within next couple of days. I heard nothing all week and forgot about it and I wasn?t surprised, then half hour before the time he text that he?s in a meeting so can?t talk but would still like to come. What?s full address please. No way was I going to text my address. I get fed up with the meeting excuses. He refused to call so seemed creepy.

In a booking we have to talk to them, at least a bit, and god forbid take our clothes off so a text for me isn?t enough.

Nearly forgot, and train excuses!

victoryrose · « **Reply #24 on:** 16 August 2015, 04:59:12 pm »

I have social anxiety that can get considerably severe and I still call them. I think demanding a phone call is one of the best screening methods possible, gut instinct rules above all. I don't understand being fine to have sex with strangers but not talk to them on the phone, I mean I do get the not wanting to answer a phone call but considering in this job what we do is considerably more dangerous I'm not going to lie, I think it's just silly. Try to reason with yourself if that works at all, kind of like self-CBT. If you can't take a call then you can't take a call, it's certainly not a way of working that I'd recommend but that's just paranoid little me for you.

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #25 on:** 16 August 2015, 05:35:25 pm »

How easy it is for a phscopath to use his head to get a booking via text. Then game over. A big risk to take and sadly not being able to change with it being too late. Just my reasoning.

The_Lynx · « **Reply #26 on:** 16 August 2015, 05:57:07 pm »

Quote from: victoryrose on 16 August 2015, 04:59:12 pm

I have social anxiety that can get considerably severe and I still call them. I think demanding a phone call is one of the best screening methods possible, gut instinct rules above all. I don't understand being fine to have sex with strangers but not talk to them on the phone, I mean I do get the not wanting to answer a phone call but considering in this job what we do is considerably more dangerous I'm not going to lie, I think it's just silly. Try to reason with yourself if that works at all, kind of like self-CBT. If you can't take a call then you can't take a call, it's certainly not a way of working that I'd recommend but that's just paranoid little me for you.

To be fair, gut instinct applies to written communications as well. For my part, I have a very long history of internet-facilitated hook ups and I spend more of my time communicating in text in my personal life than in any other way (expat, all friends in different countries, long story

). As such I feel most at ease with written communications also when it comes to general screening. There is also honestly nothing that makes a potential robber or a rapist sound different than any other person, though I'll concede that having a chat is a good tool to filter out people who have a manner which you find grating/uncomfortable for whatever reason.

victoryrose · « **Reply #27 on:** 16 August 2015, 06:02:02 pm »

I'm way more likely to have a booking I hate with someone I really dislike on all counts than a booking in which I get raped or robbed, so the former is what I'm screening for with a call. I immediately screen out the stupid-sounding texts so it can work similarly in that regard, but the majority of mine pre-phone call all sound the same and there are a few that I definitely would have regretted taking if I didn't get them to call and reveal their idiocy to me that way. I also communicate via text for most things, but in this line of work you don't really want more than 5 texts both ways before a booking is settled (unless you're fine to spend that much time on it) and IMO that is nowhere near enough to be able to tell what they're like. I like being able to outright ask them if they know what my services are, what my price is, basically see if they trip up anywhere which is a lot easier to not do over text.

The_Lynx · « **Reply #28 on:** 16 August 2015, 06:05:51 pm »

Quote from: victoryrose on 16 August 2015, 06:02:02 pm

I'm way more likely to have a booking I hate with someone I really dislike on all counts than a booking in which I get raped or robbed, so the former is what I'm screening for with a call.

That's fair. I tend to have only security in mind. If I really cannot stand them as a person, I'll just elect to not see them again. To be fair though, it doesn't happen very often in the first place, and I'm less bothered by a lot of things than seems to be the norm. I do use emails though, not texts. Tends to be a much lengthier form of communication.

Siorse · « **Reply #29 on:** 16 August 2015, 07:17:43 pm »

Seems we're pretty divided on this lol, some of us prefer emailing/texting, others insist on phoning.
I do admit on the phone you can instantly tell someone's age (roughly), but I stand by my opinion that you can tell a lot from
texts (and e-mails) too!
At least I'm not the only one who doesn't like phoning lol, I'm not the only freak

I don't mean I'd take a booking after just one text, and it's not that I'm completely petrified answering a phone,
but I just don't like it..
Sometimes it's necessary, but I get by with a minimum amount of phoning and I don't think I get anymore nutters, psycho's or TW's
than anyone else, maybe like a blind person learns to rely on their other senses, I've learned to rely on my other senses rather than
verbal ones

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