Hello Ladies!
I've been asked by Penny to re-post my contribution on the Punternet forum regarding mistakes and how to avoid them. I WISH I had known about the buddy scheme when I started out. I remember emailing (obviously the WRONG) ladies and being told "Fuck off, we are not your friends", "I don't have time to mentor you", "You do this on your own, don't try and pal up with other escorts" etc ...
Until I met ladies via the Punternet forum, I thought it was best to keep yourself to yourself. Had I known about Penny's buddy scheme I would most likely have avoided many mistakes I made initially.
Come up with your own "booking procedure". It will make things clear for both parties and avoid mix-ups. As an example, here is the Sindi booking procedure:
-Initial Enquiry
-All info covered and questions answered
-Appointment established
-Send a confirmation email. My confirmation emails would take the form of:
Tuesday 1st July - 1pm - 2 Hours @ ?300
I would then send a contact number and ask that they confirm the day before the appointment. No confirmation the day before and I assume the meeting is cancelled.
-Clients confirms day before
-Send directions to your place
-On the day ask that they text when parked
-When they text to say they are here, ring straight back with your flat number and how to get in etc ...
I found this worked pretty well, however, I still got the occassional chap who wouldn't confirm the day before, so I would make other arrangements. Then on the day, I'd get a text saying "In Leicester. Where do I go?". This is very infuriating. Some people cannot understand instructions.
Also, as a tip - I wouldn't take appointments too far in advance unless you're absolutely sure nothing is going to crop up that day. I remember when I started out, a chap booked in the February for a one hour appointment in June. I thought he would contact me nearer the time. As it happened, I'd forgotten completely about it and was having lunch with my Dad when I got a text saying "I'm here!" How terrible is that?
My main tip for you would be to not spend too much time dealing with timewasters. Identify them immediately. This isn't always possible. Here's some hints:
-Anyone who sends pictures of their penis
-Anyone who sends an email in txt spk
-Anyone who can't be bothered to write a greeting and a sign off
-One liner emails such as "Are you free today?" or "How much?"
-Explicit emails
-Emails which say that the chap wishes to be a financial slave and buy you gifts weekly. Oddly enough, you will never meet these chaps in person!
-Anyone who sends long emails about times they have spent with other escorts and what went on
-Anyone who claims to be "considering" 4 escorts at the moment. This isn't a job interview. If they're choosing from 4, let them decide between the other 3
-Obvious "copy and paste" jobs - I once had an email "Dear Debbie" ... Busted or what, young man?
-Anyone who asks "What will you do to me if I book with you?"
Following on from this, you may find you have established an appointment with a chap who will then bombard you with text messages every hour on the hour up until the appointment time with things such as "What will you be wearing?" "What will you do to me?" "I am going to make you cum" etc ... This can be frustrating, so simply text back my template of: "It's very nice that you're excited, and I am rather flattered, but there's no need to be nervous at all, you will be fine". You don't need to be as patronising as that, but it's important to not get into a ping-pong text conversation which is just serving as a prologue to the meet.
Final Tips?
-Don't see NEW clients after 8pm
-Ensure outcall checks are made before setting off
-Ensure the client is aware that for overnight liasons dinner and breakfast is expected ... I always pay for drinks on a night out with a client as it's a nice touch, but don't go into an overnighter if the chap is not prepared to do dinner. If you're happy to go ahead with this, make sure you've eaten beforehand, you will need it!
-Don't fall for the bartering trick of "I don't have ?150, can I pay ?140?". Everyone else manages to pay the correct amount, why should hagglers get a discount? It's rude and it's embarassing.
-Ensure you have "backup" available for unruly clients (in my experience a pair of handcuffs and a head shaver works until the heavies arrive - I am serious)
-If timewasters persist in calling and making a nuisance of themselves, do the following:
*whistle down the phone
*get a camp friend to repeat homosexual explicit scenarios down the phone
*read out a shipping forecast in a monotone
-If you're doing incalls at home, hide all bills, documents, teddies with your name on, ANYTHING which can identify you
-Always have refreshments at home for clients
-Don't be embarassed to wrap up an appointment if you're waaaaay over time
-Dont' do ANYTHING you're uncomfortable with, even if extra money is offered. If you're not into something, don't do it
Most importantly:
-Ensure your GOOD clients know how good they are. There are a LOT of horrible, unsavoury types out there whom you hope never to see again. Escorting would be an absolute breeze if we didn't have to deal with the bad eggs. When an appointment with a nice client is coming to an end, let him know you've enjoyed yourself and you'd like to see him again. He will most likely say "I bet you say that to all your clients" but be sincere. Every good client has something fabulous about them. I ALWAYS text clients straight after they leave (so I know a wife/gf isn't around) with a thank you message. Make it personal too, so it's not seen as a standard motif. Something like "Good luck tonight at the casino, let me know how it goes" or "Enjoy the film later on" or "Drive safely and don't forget to email me the video of such and such etc ...."
As a side thought, I want to just quickly mention sinister Google detectives. I didn't post this on Punternet, but shall do so here. Even AFTER I had started out I had a very creepy scenario. I had briefly nipped to the loo, leaving the client with his wine for a couple of minutes. It later transpired that during this time he had leaped over to my desk, going through drawers to find bank statements, electric bills, ANYTHING with my real name on. THIS, ladies is the risk of seeing clients at your own home. I know you will say to me "You shouldn't have seen punters in your home" but I did not escort full-time, therefore could not justify renting out a separate flat. I had no idea about his detective work and saw him again. He smugly sat back and informed me what he had done and then said he had been scouring Google to find info about me and my personal life. It's absurd. Some people a) have too much time on their hands and b)are creepy beyond belief. He took great delight in letting me know he had gone through 257 people on Friends Reunited with the same name as me, trying to find which school I went to. I have since removed this from the web.
-If you're seeing chaps at your home, don't leave them alone for a second!
-Hide all personal documents from view
-If you have a social networking page for your personal life, adjust all settings to private and on Facebook, do not join the network for your city. This just makes it much easier for them
-If you're getting on really well with a regular client and have seen him several times, STILL do not reveal your real name. Come up with another name which can be your "real name"
I've had clients visit me who've told me "I've found her on Facebook, she doesn't know", and one creepy bloke said "I was just interested, nothing more - but I found out where her daughter goes to school, so from that I could work out her approximate age and have been trying to find a MySpace page for her". It's really sad, really creepy, but beware ladies of Google Detectives. If you're in a punting chat room, don't give any hints away. Even mentioning what music you're into will prompt them to get on the web and find compatible sites which feature all favourite music etc.
Best of luck and be safe!
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