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Fifi

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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #15 on: 02 November 2024, 07:20:14 pm »
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« Last Edit: 08 November 2024, 12:59:00 am by Fifi »
There is such a thing as a stupid question

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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #16 on: 03 November 2024, 08:14:00 am »
There's a limit to just how classless I'll be.

Really?  So you wouldn't class running a brothel and teenage girls as classless but counting cash before a booking is a new low.   :FF

Luvmylips

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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #17 on: 03 November 2024, 08:41:30 am »
Yes. I'm used to wealthy men who would never underpay/not pay a working girl. So it's already embarrassing that I have to ask for the money upfront and I'm not counting it like they're buying sweets and alcohol from Carters. If it's the only way you're used to working, I'm sure it feels normal. I'll rather lose a few quid, as I expect my men to have class and manners. The most I'll do is peek inside an envelope to make sure it's cash and not Tesco vouchers,  apologising all the time.  I'm very seldom underpaid.  But an uncouth yob might make his way through my screening. He won't see me again though.


I was deceived by a wealthy Indian client who picked me up in his brand new £80,000 BMW;  that dirtbag gave me an envelope full of cut up white paper instead of my fee because I got lulled into a sense of security blinded by his "wealth".

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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #18 on: 03 November 2024, 08:52:07 pm »

I was deceived by a wealthy Indian client who picked me up in his brand new £80,000 BMW;  that dirtbag gave me an envelope full of cut up white paper instead of my fee because I got lulled into a sense of security blinded by his "wealth".
Hence, peek into the envelope. 

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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #19 on: 04 November 2024, 12:00:51 am »
20 odd years of being in this business
And I don’t care  if i have seen the client once ot 100 times
I’m counting that money in front of them

Don’t care if it’s 60 quid or 600 ever not gets counted out in front of the client with a smile on my face 

I also put in all my texts
Xxx amount
Cash only
No bank  transfers

Luvmylips

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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #20 on: 04 November 2024, 03:28:41 pm »
Hence, peek into the envelope.

Yup.  Learned my lesson from that episode. 

Today was another one - very rich client sent his Rolls Royce to get me and take me to his house in North London.  I've seen him at least 200 times over the years.  Today he started wanking as soon as I walked in and I said to him, " Honey you're going to have to stop that and give me my money"  ... 

Don't care who they are, where they live, what car they drive - just pay me first please!!!!

Very few decent people left in the world.  Trust no one!


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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #21 on: 06 November 2024, 12:44:56 pm »
Always get your money upfront. Then you shouldn't have any problems.

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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #22 on: 07 November 2024, 01:50:21 pm »
Yeah that comment comes across as unbelievably snooty. It's definitely OK to ask for the money upfront and count it in front of them however "high class" you perceive them to be. Really they should hand it over at the beginning without even being asked. They are being rude by making you ask in the first place IMO.

Gazaro

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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #23 on: 10 November 2024, 09:49:36 am »
People who want to pay 'afterwards' are trying to control you. They want you to be wondering throughout the whole meeting if he's going to pay you the full amount.
This way they want you to try harder to please them.
Seeing an escort is like going to the cinema, concert or another show. First you pay, then you see.

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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #24 on: 10 November 2024, 10:00:24 am »
Some seem to think paying at the end is a sign of trust, that they a

Someone who I 'let' pay at the end because of his 'knowness' as a 'gentleman punter', asked to extend partway through saying "I have the cash". At the end he revealed all the cash for the entire booking was in his out of sight car, he did come back with the full amount. He boasted about this display of trust publicly, so I put him right explaining this sort of behaviour is not acceptable, I had no option but to 'trust' him.

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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #25 on: 10 November 2024, 12:18:20 pm »
Another dirty tactic clients use especially with new escorts is "I'll pay at the end and if you give a good service I'll tip or extend" Thinking you fall for I'll get extra if take money at end.

This scammers usually have booking then say oh your service was shit etc not paying etc.

Don't fall for any of this. No money upfront, no honey first rule of whoring!

Gazaro

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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #26 on: 10 November 2024, 06:08:54 pm »
I don't think we're in this occupation in order to be classy or to build trust.
We're offering sex for money, we're expected to look nice, to turn them on, do our service.
I'd better be classy in my everyday life and my civvy job 😉.
In escorting we try to stay safe and not get cheated or worse.
When we pay anyone: at the dentist, a shop, etc, they will always count money so we should do the same. The problem is that in the UK only small banknotes are in use so counting becomes a bit awkward...
In the shops they sometimes check banknotes if they are not fake. Maybe we should do the same 😊

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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #27 on: 11 November 2024, 11:11:58 pm »
OP the beauty of sex work being legal in the UK is that it's fine to ask for the money without worrying that you're being trapped by an undercover police officer. I usually say "So it was half an hour GFE right? So thats £xxx" then when I count it I make a comment like "oh these silly new plastic notes, people have accidentally given me extra so many times, let me make sure you haven't overpaid" - and I have in fact handed guys back an extra note several times, half of whom have told me to keep it as a bonus for bring honest 😂

I would rather secure a long term client who values my honesty and make thousands of pounds worth of future bookings, than make an extra £10 or £20 once.
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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #28 on: 12 November 2024, 11:42:27 am »
I look at it with a question like this.

Name one positive from receiving payment afterwards…

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Re: Payment before or after the meeting?
« Reply #29 on: 12 November 2024, 07:53:12 pm »
OP the beauty of sex work being legal in the UK is that it's fine to ask for the money without worrying that you're being trapped by an undercover police officer. I usually say "So it was half an hour GFE right? So thats £xxx" then when I count it I make a comment like "oh these silly new plastic notes, people have accidentally given me extra so many times, let me make sure you haven't overpaid" - and I have in fact handed guys back an extra note several times, half of whom have told me to keep it as a bonus for bring honest 😂

I would rather secure a long term client who values my honesty and make thousands of pounds worth of future bookings, than make an extra £10 or £20 once.

1000% this, I read this but could have written it, I do and say exactly the same with the same results and reaction 👍