I could be wrong but i think its rare that men want to hurt women during sex and usually appreciate being told to go more gently.  and if you say it in a sexy, sultry kind of way they usually apologise and ask for guidance as to how you really like it.  I wouldnt be too scared to tell them, to be honest any guy would know that if he is too rough to the point your in pain, your less likely to let him book again. 

I agree with the above, it's best to be direct about what you do like.  YOu don't have to suffer silently.  He probably didn't realize he was hurting you, some guys are really that clueless!

I had a man who fingered me and decided it would be a good idea to use his other hand to push down on my uterus from the outside.  Needless to say, he got a high-pitched "ouch" in his ear because it took me by surprise and it bloody well hurt!  He jumped a mile and I asked him to be a little more gentle.  He was and that was that.

My question is two fold; firstly how do you tell a client that they are hurting you without ruining the mood or putting them off, and secondly can this kin of thing do any serious damage? Thanks in advance xx

Ouch?!!! thats what I always say. And no one hasnt been that unconcerned keep doing it. Fingering, ramming and harsh testicle suction isnt my idea of pleasure 

Quote from: brandy@saafe on 16 December 2008, 09:45:40 pm

Yeah. Why the hell do they do that? What on earth makes them think that's a turn-on in any way?

I read about this 'technique' in an article on g-spot stimulation.  Definitely doesn't do anything for my g-spot, or for yours by the sound of it!

On a somewhat more pleasurable note, is having orgasms with clients a common thing?  I'm surprised at how often it happens for me and it really freaked me out at first.

I hope that's not too much information but genuine orgasms are not something I expected when I started out a few months ago.  Just wondering if I'm normal!?!

perfectly normal. if your enjoying yourself, why not.  it would be rude not too 

I have found the older, less attractive guys that would not normaly register on my radar are the ones hitting the spot most and best... now is that normal?  I dont know, but im not going to complain 

I think men are sometimes rough with us ladies because they like harder handling themselves (i mean have you ever seen the way most men masturbate? they look like they are about to pull the damm thing off) so they assume that being rough will really work,i think porn has a lot to answer for as well cos the women in them are usually being handled quite harshly and appearing to love it!

I just tell clients that are  rough that im sensitive and love a gentle touch and then i show them what feels better,most follow your lead and with the few that have refused too ive just taken their hand away and distracted them with something else.

I never have orgasms with clients,im a tough nut to crack at the best of times and i dont think i could ever be relaxed and secure enough for that to happen. Also (and i know some of you will think im mad) but i have a boyfriend who i love very much and having orgasams with clients would feel wrong for me somehow,almost as if im giving away a piece of myself that i dont want to.

probably silly i know.

I never have orgasms with clients,im a tough nut to crack at the best of times and i dont think i could ever be relaxed and secure enough for that to happen. Also (and i know some of you will think im mad) but i have a boyfriend who i love very much and having orgasams with clients would feel wrong for me somehow,almost as if im giving away a piece of myself that i dont want to.

probably silly i know.

That doesnt sound silly to me at all.  Its partly why i couldnt see myself escorting if i was in a relationship, I never say never but i dread it ever happening to be honest because i know it wouldnt sit right in my head.  I'm pretty good at compartmentalising sex from emotion when single but not in relationships.

It also isnt too difficult to make me have an orgasm (not if i want it to happen) so i would be feeling like that all the time.  I'm totally single though so i might aswell get my jollies while being paid to give others theirs.... i think of it as my bonus 

I never have orgasms with clients,im a tough nut to crack at the best of times and i dont think i could ever be relaxed and secure enough for that to happen. Also (and i know some of you will think im mad) but i have a boyfriend who i love very much and having orgasams with clients would feel wrong for me somehow,almost as if im giving away a piece of myself that i dont want to.

probably silly i know.

I can relate to that 

I do enjoy it with clients but I NEVER orgasm (I think it's a mental block or something). I get asked a lot if i have though!

As for the roughness, I just ask them to rub somewhere less sensitive (I think this varies in different people though). Personally, I find it strange that in a relationship I prefer a rougher touch which would completely put me off a client 

Most men like to be told what to do though!