It seems a bit rude but I had to ask a couple of hearty
blokes their weight at the door after a guy demolished
the object when he sat on it.

Oh but I get it.
Last week I had that lovely guy. He was not overweight but he was bloody tall, 198 cm and muscular!!!!! He was the size of my door!!!!!

Yummy....well rules can be broken

Hmmmm I'm no skinny petite type myself. Actually the first thing I'm going to buy next week is a new mattress 😂😂😂

Sometimes less is so much more and I prefer to be authentic, so I say something along the lines of "I don't think we are compatible" which is a neutral statement.

I have to agree, do not lie or you will be caught out.  In the old days I would grin and bare it, no more if a client wont shower and he asks for owo and kissing I tell them why, they are grown men and should take better care of their hygiene.  If they discuss other wg's I just say, sorry I do not associate with other girls so do not need to know about them.

It keeps you out of the drama and it sends a clear message that you will not tolerate unhygienic men.

I have stated it on my profile in a humorous way and men take note. 

But yesterday I had a guy who sounded like he was hocking a lugy while I was giving him oral and he asked me to kiss him and I just distracted him with other things, i was so scared I was going to end up with flem in my mouth  , but he was a fabulous guy.

But if you have a bad vibe off someone or for whatever other reason just tell them sorry but I do not think this is going to work.  IF he leaves in a huff he leaves in a huff unfortunately you will feel a bit bad but it goes with the territory.

You could pretend that you're the maid/flat mate/sister and say "I'm ever so sorry, Charlotte is unable to make it. She's assured me she's tried to contact you to reschedule". If he makes a comment about how alike you look just brush it off and say everyone says that.

Hehehe the maid! Wearing the maid outfit right? I love your idea:))))

Sorry to hear that Curves.
Hope you ok?

Quote from: cheesypeas on 26 September 2015, 03:39:54 pm

Sorry to hear that Curves.
Hope you ok?

Yeah I'm OK thank you....it was just a horrid experience with a horrid man that I should have knocked back at the door.  But thankfully I'm still in one piece and nothing truely awful happened (although I felt all through the booking that it could have at any second).  I'll get a warning up about him shortly - I saw him in Edinburgh although he was just here for the weekend from London, so ladies in London need to be aware.

Oh do post the warning then. Are you feeling better?

Well I've been working for one solid year now. Honestly I find that experience comes with time and I find it more and more easy to be assertive. This post is not about "hey I'm a choosy bitch, I want to kick out each and every client who's looks or accent don't please me". This really is about the fact that after one year of work I find that no, I won't take risks and no I won't put myself in danger or lose my nerves or tolerate someone's bad hygiene/attitude. 

Sure we make more per hour than most people but it's not worth it. Those bad vibes clients wear us out emotionally and they are not worth it.

I think it's good to be assertive and direct with clients such as the ones who have poor hygiene or are doing something you don't like. *However* that is completely different from feeling threatened by someone's demeanour and presence when through your door.


The latter are a complete different type of person and if it were me I'd try and manage the situation in a way that is likely to keep me as safe as possible. I think lying and saying something such as your landlord has to come round in 10 minutes do to suspected gas leak / next door flood etc. is often best. If someone seems slightly unhinged or dangerous or threatening then a simple statement such as not being compatible could be read as rejection and possibly cause anger. Putting the onus on an invisible person could just direct their annoyance away from you about not getting their booking.

That's so true, Daisy.
Bad vibes can be 1) an annoying, unpleasant, pain in the ass client or 2) client who seems dangerous. And it's true that in case of a dangerous and angry client it would be a bad idea to anger them further by talking about incompatibility since they can take it as something directed against them.

Good thing is we have plenty of ideas here😄😄😄

Quote from: Daisy_ on 27 September 2015, 08:54:21 am

The latter are a complete different type of person and if it were me I'd try and manage the situation in a way that is likely to keep me as safe as possible. I think lying and saying something such as your landlord has to come round in 10 minutes do to suspected gas leak / next door flood etc. is often best. If someone seems slightly unhinged or dangerous or threatening then a simple statement such as not being compatible could be read as rejection and possibly cause anger. Putting the onus on an invisible person could just direct their annoyance away from you about not getting their booking.

Tend to agree with the above. Blaming the fictitious landlord, agency or boyfriend ruse is better for the unhinged clients. I also mention the CCTV if they look aggressive

Hmmm. The guy who robbed me recently didn't care about my CCTV. After we realised with my flatmate what he stole I took a PICTURE of our camera and sent it to him to prove we really have it, I'm not joking and I want my things back.
To be honest all it did was scare us to death. A few minutes later we realised we just threatened a criminal who had our address.