I'm going to be starting working for a very reputable and high-end agency in Toronto in the next week or so and while I've got everything set as per security/drivers/payment, what I'm most nervous about is "making a connection" with clients. I'm a pretty outgoing womyn, but I do tend to clam up and get shy when I'm feeling nervous. I have a feeling that once I actually dip my toes in  (or other things haha!) I'll be just fine, but the first client I have is specially chosen by the agency- he sees all of the new girls and I feel like that dynamic is going to be a bit intimidating for me...like its some sort of test.

What kind of things do you usually talk about with clients? I want avoid an awkward, "Ummm...hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii" you know? Also, how do you initiate sex after an introductory chat? What kind of positions do you use most? Is it a lot of girl-on-top? A lot of missionary? Do you find that you guide most of the sex or that its fairly equal or do men like to really take control and fuck you? I guess that's VERY dependant on the client, but are there any trends?

Are there any specific things that I should bring in my bag? Lube, condoms, toothbrush, toothpaste, travelling mouthwash, maybe deodorant and some perfume, travel-sized bodywash, some basic makeup, extra pantyhose.... I was thinking of bringing my vibrator with me-- yes/no/suggestions?

So yeah, I've got the technical side covered, any advice for RELATING to clients would be wonderful! I'm thinking of coming at it as though I'm taking home somebody from the bar. Not quite a date, but still being sweet and affectionate but assertive.

To be honest, I'd embrace the awkward. All agencies have clients who love the new girls and it sure can't because new girls are confident and relaxed! I suppose there's also the idea that if they keep seeing new girls, they'll eventually find a "genuine nympho" (i.e. someone who so desperately needs to have loads of sex with strangers that she'll let him do anything, ideally without paying?) but I think usually it's more that newbie-hunters want girls who are distinctly unfamiliar with the business. Either so they can be pushy, or so that they can avoid having their delicate feelings hurt by a girl who is businesslike.

That all sounds a bit critical, probably, but I think it's just a fact of the biz and therefore it's best to focus on dealing with it positively than anything else! So with all that in mind, I'm glad to hear you have your own security system set up and sound confident about taking payment up-front (never, ever take payment afterwards or you will eventually get robbed. I mean, we all do it - I don't think you could find an escort on this forum who's never dropped her guard and been thoroughly ripped off in 'reward' - but as a newbie, the more cautious you decide to be from the outset, the less likely you are to end up in horrid situations). Once those sorts of important-yet-unsexy details are all out of the way at the start of the appointment, it makes it a lot easier because you can get on with focusing on the client.

You can search the forum for things like "handbag kit", and there's a long article thread here about it. A bag with a hidden compartment is a good idea, to hide your fee in, and maybe even put a bell on it (think that tip comes from Amy!) so you'll know instantly if anyone's ferreting around to steal his money back. Best always make sure your bag is in the room with you - most criminals are, after all, acting on an opportunity rather than a pre-planned thing. Although lots of scammers and weirdos and worse out there do pre-plan their attempts to rip off escorts, too. So yes, never let that guard down, although do cultivate an "I'm totally new and innocent and adoraballs!" attitude for the newbie-hunters to soak up - it's always good to be fresh and positive in attitude for any client anyways, no matter what you might have just been dealing with from someone horrid the day before.

On outcalls, I like to have a few minutes to say hello, sit down, accept a drink (only from unopened bottles, and never more than a couple of sips if it's alcoholic) and chat in a friendly fashion. Then I suggest we get the "boring details" out of the way and once I've been paid and I've checked the money (best to do this in front of them just in case of disputes), I go to the bathroom to freshen up (good idea to check first that he's just had a shower; in hotels they almost always will have but there's always a chance), hide the money in my bag and make sure I'm feeling super-confident about my appearance. Then step out of the bathroom, pop condoms and lube quickly on the bedside table, smile in a cheeky fashion and start to slowly undress. By then the client will be literally all over you and things tend to just sweep along. To a certain extent, the most important thing is that you do what you feel comfortable with and remember that the client is going to be really excited so he's not bothered if you get a button stuck or trip over your heels or whatever - just laugh and move on.

As an indie escort doing mostly incalls, I try to act like a special girlfriend/mistress that the client stops by to see now and then when he can escape from the office. But agency outcalls are a little bit different - he's called your agent and requested you be sent to him, so I used to think of it more like "entertainment delivery". It's a little less personal than indie incalls because of the 3rd party involvement etc, but that's no bad thing - you can even feel more daring and adventurous because it's less personal and you know the hotel room's walls have probably seen/heard far worse so why not play it up?!

Mostly, clients want enthusiastic and willing escorts. Just be totes excited about all the sex stuff (if he pushes for something you don't offer, though, you do need to be firm and it's his own fault if he insists on spoiling the atmosphere - always a shame if they do that but try not to let it get you down) and yes, initiate the things you do offer yourself so he doesn't have to ask and also so that there's no time left for being pushy about other stuff.

Oh god yeah, don't worry about impressing someone who likes new girls. You can go safe in the knowledge that he'll be getting off on your inexperience, and hopefully he won't be too weird so you go out feeling more confident about relating to clients.

Yes, the sex dynamic depends on the client. Be prepared to take control, but if your client's an active type you'll soon know. If I'm having to move things along I usually start with cowgirl, roll him over into missionary and if it goes on long enough for another position change than doggy's usually good to finish. Some clients will come too quickly to contemplate changing positions though. Don't worry about it, just clean up and then snuggle up like you've had the best sex ever and if there's enough time, start getting sexy again later so he's got the option to go again.

Are there any specific things that I should bring in my bag? Lube, condoms, toothbrush, toothpaste, travelling mouthwash, maybe deodorant and some perfume, travel-sized bodywash, some basic makeup, extra pantyhose.... I was thinking of bringing my vibrator with me-- yes/no/suggestions?

Condoms and lube, yes! Try to get some small and large condoms as well as regular ones, you sometimes need them.

Toothbrush isn't recommended. You shouldn't brush or floss within two hours of doing OWO. I only do OW but I still avoid brushing my teeth for the sake of good practice. Having some mouthwash is good though, and don't be afraid to ask the client to use it (if I need to do this when I've already had a chance to smell his breath I just say I'm sensitive to smells).

Take deodorant if it'll make you feel more confident, but you should be fine without it. Bring perfume if you feel like it but don't use it unless asked or you could leave difficult to wash off and awkward to explain smells on your client.

Pantyhose? You mean hosiery with a gusset? Punters generally expect stockings or hold-ups.

Vibrator; sure. You probably won't use it much but you might as well have it.

The essentials are condoms, lube, a phone and enough money to get home. See other threads for huge lists of things that people bring.

Regarding condoms I would add that the ones for latex allergy sufferers is  always handy. Ive' had a few clients try that line on me ' Oh but I'm allergic to latex' fter  pushing for bareback and not stating that is the case before!

Yes I am sure there are genuinely allergic to latex people. Point is, whatever the reasob for syaing it it's always great to whip out a special one and say' not to worry I have these especially.........' .