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Mirror

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Notice for dress requests and services
« on: 29 November 2021, 06:20:41 am »
For those members who accept dress requests and or offering BDSM as well as GFE, at what point do you accept these requests?Do you require this when the person makes their booking?

Quite a few punters book me because I have a wide ranging wardrobe, shoes, clothes, lingerie, stockings (I would say these are a speciality), and I also have a BDSM (Domme) side but for many years was known for my GFE which I continue to advertise.

It's usual for me to accept bookings months, weeks, days ahead, absolutely fine but some (quite a few) are booking then contacting me after I've accepted the booking (for which I take a deposit) sometimes the night before to list the clothing, lingerie, shoes they would like me to wear (often quoting photos from my website or AW).  Sometimes this has happened once I'm away from my base eg on the few occasions I've been away touring. The BDSM requests often days or weeks after making the booking with no indication they require this. I am sure anyone providing BDSM services is aware consent, discussion of expectations, limits etc is really important.

I have changed my wording do include 'dress or service requests must be made at the time of booking', some bookers are doing this, but some are not.
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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #1 on: 29 November 2021, 08:25:00 am »
Quote from: Mirror on 29 November 2021, 06:20:41 am
For those members who accept dress requests and or offering BDSM as well as GFE, at what point do you accept these requests?Do you require this when the person makes their booking?

Quite a few punters book me because I have a wide ranging wardrobe, shoes, clothes, lingerie, stockings (I would say these are a speciality), and I also have a BDSM (Domme) side but for many years was known for my GFE which I continue to advertise.

It's usual for me to accept bookings months, weeks, days ahead, absolutely fine but some (quite a few) are booking then contacting me after I've accepted the booking (for which I take a deposit) sometimes the night before to list the clothing, lingerie, shoes they would like me to wear (often quoting photos from my website or AW).  Sometimes this has happened once I'm away from my base eg on the few occasions I've been away touring. The BDSM requests often days or weeks after making the booking with no indication they require this. I am sure anyone providing BDSM services is aware consent, discussion of expectations, limits etc is really important.

I have changed my wording do include 'dress or service requests must be made at the time of booking', some bookers are doing this, but some are not.

It puts me about when they do this. I'd rather they requested it when they make the booking, not afterwards or closer to the day if the booking.

I don't get requests often but usually I can accommodate. If it's a 30 minute booking I have started telling them I won't take requests for these. As I've said before, it always feels pointless when the outfit comes off after about 5 minutes.
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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #2 on: 29 November 2021, 10:10:51 am »
 I have started asking for a deposit for new bookings  as see very few clients these days and find lots of the time wasters bang on about outfits x
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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #3 on: 29 November 2021, 12:57:16 pm »
Not sure where their head's at making these late-breaking reveals. I'd presume it's important enough to mention first contact. Maybe they're just doing an 'eat all you can' thing at the last moment to give you the run around.

I expect dress requests at the time of booking as I have to bring the gear to my work flat.
So far no one has popped up with late breaking requests.
Requesting items on the way over would mean cancellation.
« Last Edit: 29 November 2021, 01:11:02 pm by saltysweet »
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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #4 on: 29 November 2021, 04:28:25 pm »
Quote from: saltysweet on 29 November 2021, 12:57:16 pm
Not sure where their head's at making these late-breaking reveals. I'd presume it's important enough to mention first contact. Maybe they're just doing an 'eat all you can' thing at the last moment to give you the run around.

I expect dress requests at the time of booking as I have to bring the gear to my work flat.
So far no one has popped up with late breaking requests.
Requesting items on the way over would mean cancellation.

I do the same.. I have noticed the ones who ask for outfit requests 5 mins before the booking is due  have been awful men to deal with.. I tell them all now outfit requests have to be made before the booking not 5 mins before the booking is  due..

I will also cancel any last min demanders  as in my opinion  it shows what kind of character they will be in person.. ..I have learned  they are always nightmares in person these type of blokes ..

« Last Edit: 29 November 2021, 04:35:40 pm by Petlover29 »
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Lady Frog

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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #5 on: 29 November 2021, 09:08:26 pm »
I don't encourage outfit requests as all my work gear is sexy asf so I'd rather wear what I feel like wearing.

If they ask for a certain outfit they've seen in my photos, a few days before the booking, I will accommodate if I don't have to go out of my way to do so (ie it is washed and with me at my location). I think that they do this because they are looking attentively through our photos and websites in anticipation of the booking, and just generally getting excited about seeing us (particularly for first time clients) so I don't really mind that. It often is first time clients that ask for outfits from my pics, so I feel like when I say yes, I have that outfit, it proves them that I am 'real' in their mind and they feel more relaxed about their upcoming booking.

If it's the day before, or even a few hours before, they can usually fuck off. Equally with overly fussy or specific outfit requests in advance - I will send them a link to the page where my sizes are listed on my website, and advise them they are welcome to bring me a gift which I will wear for them.
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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #6 on: 29 November 2021, 09:17:51 pm »
I should add I am talking about GFE bookings in the above post.

For Domme sessions, my outfit is part of the booking/session planning procedure, and outfits vary a lot more, depending on the client and the session content (eg role play, body worship, hardcore CP, tie&tease).

I will choose an appropriate outfit when I plan the session, and will try my best to accommodate any client requests. Ironically, I don't mind receiving outfit requests from my submissive clients, although in general they irritate me coming from GFE clients. I quite like hearing 'Mistress could you please wear the sexy boots from your photo'  :angel: ;D
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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #7 on: 29 November 2021, 09:18:21 pm »
I actually refused to see one  recently. He wanted a 30 min booking.. he told me he was an adult work member so instead of asking him to phone me I asked him send me a booking request.. I do this so I can have a nosey at there feedback..

He had zero feedback and under the booking  request he put demands like
*must be sensual pse
*need a shower and don’t want it coming out of his 30 mins
*wear lacy items
*a black short silky dress over it
*must wear nude fishnet stocking
*must wear heels to show my feet

I cancelled him and told him find someone else.. he was asking me for outfit requests what wasn’t even my outfit list..

Some of these men pure delusional.. to expect all that for 30 mins
« Last Edit: 29 November 2021, 09:21:04 pm by Petlover29 »
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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #8 on: 02 December 2021, 08:07:35 am »
I just put in a text when they are enquiring that to let me know about any request for outfits otherwise  it may not be available on the day or at short notice
« Last Edit: 20 September 2023, 12:36:15 am by RB1 »
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Mirror

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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #9 on: 02 December 2021, 09:33:58 am »
Quote from: RB1 on 02 December 2021, 08:07:35 am
I just put in a text when they are enquiring that to let me know about any request for outfits otherwise  it may not be available on the day or at short notice

But my GFE service doesn’t include any of my fetish stuff / outfits
My  GFE is lingerie high heels stocking suspenders little sexy dress

My BDSM is all the kinky stuff like latex leather pvc wet boots look and it’s priced at a higher amount than my GFE service

Yes I do charge extra for latex, my GFE is often blended with 'BDSM' activities and my GFE rates are fairly high already. I am aware as you will be that some BDSM takes extra prep and clean up time. For example I clean all implements, strap-ons, butt plugs, toys, harnesses, restraints immediately after the booking (although by keeping tidy as I go along some of this can be reduced).
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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #10 on: 02 December 2021, 10:22:17 am »
I have been asked many times for particular dress styles/colours etc. from new clients who have confirmed a booking but decide to text me very close to their arrival time with clothing desires.

I always reply "if I can I will" type of responses and do my best but no promises.  I never repeat an outfit twice in a row for regular clients and I know some men don't really care what I wear but I DO! Currently I have 3 or 4 clients who always just ask "please can you wear all black" or "will you wear red today" or similar.

One man I had not met before was not thinking with his sensible head as he sent something like this "I know it is short notice but could you possibly wear navy blue seamed stockings and a navy blue short office type skirt but if not possible then a black shirt opened to show your cleavage and a pair of red knee boots would be amazing thanks"

As for the service requests I don't accept them at all. My do's and don'ts could not be more clear on my profile and anyone new to me asking for things in a pre-booking text just means I cancel them. I class them as wankers wanting to get a thrill and then not turn up.
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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #11 on: 02 December 2021, 10:48:02 am »
It’s when they ask for something really specific  like seamed Cuban stockings black lingerie with sparkles and really really high stripper shoes in pale pink
Im like no - I have everything in my photos and if that’s not enough - go away
« Last Edit: 20 September 2023, 12:35:30 am by RB1 »
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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #12 on: 02 December 2021, 02:53:09 pm »
I don't like outfit request, most men have 0 fashion sense, some of those request would look really bloody silly.... I prefer to just wear what I like, I will take easy request like work out gear, jeans and t shirt or stockings. but anything else is a no go....
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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #13 on: 02 December 2021, 04:16:10 pm »
Quote from: Justine on 02 December 2021, 10:22:17 am
blue seamed stockings


I'm sure I remember a thread on this forum about a massive timewaster who kept spamming ladies with a request for blue seamed stockings
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Re: Notice for dress requests and services
« Reply #14 on: 02 December 2021, 08:10:38 pm »
Quote from: Lady Frog on 02 December 2021, 04:16:10 pm
I'm sure I remember a thread on this forum about a massive timewaster who kept spamming ladies with a request for blue seamed stockings

Hey I just did a search on here after reading your comments. I found the thread re the blue stockings man/pest and it was a few years ago but doubt it is the same man.  I did not meet him.
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