IMO this is not the right job for you

You compare it to blocking people based on age or race but these are not things you can easily lie about. How will you know if they are single or not....obviously they could just lie. Even with your sugaring arrangements how do you really know if they are single?

Even with your sugaring arrangements how do you really know if they are single?

Theoretically I do not, although they'd have to have quite a skill in deceit and weaving a web of lies, since they often complain to me about their exes and our meetings are often dictated by their predictable and routine child custody arrangements. I've also seen their houses.
I did actually have one arrangement that I suspect may have been lying to me about his supposed divorce. We saw each other three times before I broke it off, but he never invited me to his house despite us living in the same city, he was rather vague when I asked him about his child custody arrangements, and he never once mentioned his ex (very unusual in my experience). I broke it off because the third time we saw each other, it took him 5 days to send me the money, which in hindsight I suspect may have been another sign that he was deceitful. I don't feel upset at the idea that I potentially slept with a married man, because at the time I was none the wiser.

don't ask, don't tell and you'd likely never know. If you do find out, finish the booking and don't allow them to rebook you.

I somewhat abid with the rule, it’s tricky though and undoubtedly you will never be able to stick to the standard unfortunately as, like most ladies have informed, men fucking lie!!!

This approach may be the only answer, alongside making myself more appealing to the single man and less appealing to the married man, for example with when I offer appointments etc. It's very much the knowing that they're cheating that would bother me as it would make me feel complicit in the act. It's true what they say, ignorance is bliss 😂


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If anyone can afford to turn down married clients for moral reasons then they are very privileged and obviously sex work is not their main source of income. Not everyone can afford to have a moral compass.

Absolutely, like I said I have a full time civvie job so don't rely on sw to pay my bills, so in this instance I can afford to have a boundary such as this. But I'd like to make clear that just because I feel a certain way morally about something, doesn't mean to suggest that I look disapprovingly on or judge anyone else who views things differently or does things differently 

Phew! That's a relief.

Lol I know no-one should care what I think🤣 I thought I picked up a slightly defensive tone from a few of the comments, could be wrong! So just felt the need to clarify I wasn't attacking anyone!

I’m still curious about the screening process

I think the reality is that screening out married men is unworkable.
Giving them a question sheet to fill out just isn't going to work - not if you are offering in-calls. I guess it might work OK if you are doing outcalls.

I do screen out younger men.
HOW?
Firstly, all my marketing is towards older men and says I don't see young men (I do not explain why). I don't put negative stuff in my advertising; I emphasize the positive - why I'm perfect for the older man and not younger guys.
And I is almost always possibly to tell when someone under the age of 30 makes contact - it is the distinctive and strange way they communicate.

I would suggest if you try it, then do this - really "sell" your service as being for single men and not married ones.
Have your website profiles emphasising who you DO and Don't want to see.

Nevertheless, there are guys who just don't read stuff and will send back-and-forth messages (actually, as soon as you get this, then 9 times out of 10, they aren't going to book - the ones who do book and turn up have read your profile and think you are a perfect fit and just make a booking without asking nonsense questions that are already on your profile).