I'm pretty pragmatic about this job. I see it as nothing other than a wage to feed my family. I don't listen to anybody when they tell me they're going to become my regular, I don't listen to them when they say they're going to take me to their favourite villa (I even upset one regular recently because I didn't jump up and down for joy when he promised to take me away, I apologised and said that I'd heard it all before, it was nothing personal). I also don't see anybody that takes hard drugs (something you seem to attract in your business), therefore making them prone to erratic behaviour. I know it's something I wouldn't have the patience for. This job is hard enough as it is.

This sounds harsh, but don't trust clients. Don't trust anything they say or do. Get your fee upfront before anything commences. If you think you're going to be messed about then leave. Don't eff and blind at them, go and kick an inanimate object. And don't feel you always have to come away with something. There are some days you'll just need to chalk up to experience. Count them as a loss, learn from your mistakes and move on. Immediately make a note of your wayward customer so you never have to answer his call again, and you can derive a little satisfaction from hanging up on him when he tries to call again in the future. Because a lot of them will do.

But never, ever let a customer see how much he's affected you with his behaviour. made a note of their phone number so you never have to answer it again. Because some people will have the audicity to call you again.

But how do you know they're not getting off on your reactions? And how do you know they haven't called you back? How do you know they're not deliberately being idiots to illicit a reaction from you? In this day and age of cheap phones and sim cards, just because the same number doesn't come up you can't swear for certain that you've never heard from the person again.

You consider yourself a business. How many businesses do you know curse you out down the phone? You want it both ways Joey. You want to be taken seriously, but yet will scream down the phone at people at the first opportunity. You will take something from a client's house, just because you think you're owed. You've said you've broken windows, just to satisfy your rage. What business do you know does that?

Your behaviour smacks of immaturity and petulance. Not exactly great traits in being an escort. But you'll continue doing what you're doing, because you feel satisfied at the end.

And this is probably why you sometimes feel degraded at the end of a booking. Because you've let a customer get to you.

By speaking up I assert myself against what they are saying and take the higher ground. Silence is not golden.

But what if my satisfaction comes from telling someone off and putting them in their place? How would that lower me to their level?
 if a repeat client says something stupid, like the things I've heard...they deserve to get it. I can care less if it unprofessional. They are being unprofessional too. Executives carrying on like assholes is unprofessional. If they happen to get a good laugh out of it, well I do too. 

Joey: Once I told him my fee, he says; "no thats too much". I was about to suggest he get a better job, but he hung up

So, because the 'potential' client told you that your fee was too much, you thought it was ok to tell him to get a better job? That's not on really is it? If he would have said 'You're not worth it' or something similar then I could understand you being p!ssed off, but he was simply saying in a round about way that he doesn't have that much to spend. You didn't say he was rude or abusive to you so you have to take this on the chin. Suggesting he get a better job is downright rude. Should he be an escort instead, so he can make more money? He'd be your competition then so be wary of the suggestions you make!

Joey:Why did he do it? To make me feel Im not worth my fee, and to tell me that?

His intention was to find an escort to suit his budget. It's nothing personal, and taking it personally is going to eat you up! Only you can decide how much money to charge for your time. If somebody doesn't have the amount you require, then no hard feelings...just move on and be ready (with a smile) for your next client to call. The guy may have felt embarrased about not having enough money! He might, on another occasion have called you back with the correct fee..you just never know so it's better to be nice than not.

Joey: I see nothing wrong with going to town with someone who says things like that. I just cant see it any other way. Nice guys get treated nicely. Assholes get put in their place. I take my work far too seriously to be worked over. I dont get paid to entertain people who are calling just to waste my time.

You may be making a rod for your own back here, again, with your attitude. You need to open your eyes and realise that there are so many escorts out there. Alot have bad attitudes, but generally they're not making any money. What is going to make you stand out? A bad attitude? Erratic behaviour? Childish arguments? I know personally that I wouldn't want to stand out for any of those reasons. I do not take crap from clients either, but not taking crap and acting like a spolied brat, allowing your mouth to run away with you, are two very different things.

Customer Service Skills need to be practiced, especially when you're dealing with potential clients. We're service providers, as Brandy said. I hope you take time to read the link below and to understand that your job isn't just in the sack...you have to get them there first. And being rude, offensive, ignorant, idiotic, childish, belligerent...isn't going to get them to part with their money. Quite the opposite!

http://www.businessballs.com/customer_service.htm

Again, don't take this personally Joey. I'd say the same to anybody who dealt with clients this way.

Love Alex x