What screening process do you have?
I think that as we're mostly 'indoor' workers here (I think car meets are generally considered more closely related [in terms of risks etc] to street work?) the first answer that'll pop into most of our heads is "Don't accept requests for car meets". You probably have been VERY lucky with the ones you've done (although having good security is of course a smart move
- are you making sure that all your clients are aware that you have security nearby? For example, making a security phonecall in front of the client at the start of the appointment so that he hears you say "Yes, I'm with John, all is well so far. I'll phone you after the appointment so you know I'm safe." This is extremely likely to deter your everyday nutjob because he will know that you're
not easy prey working alone) and I think that if you want to focus on safety, security and sanity in your work, you'd be wise to consider only visiting hotels.
It does depend a little on your location - for example, having a Central London incall means there's absolutely no need for me to visit the homes of clients I've never met before, and I don't even travel to far-off hotels because 99% of my clients want incalls because it's cheaper and more convenient for them - but I know smart women can make a decent living from sensible outcalls only because I've seen it done.
But I was talking to a couple of friends yesterday about how we all did things when we were new that we'd never consider now; when I was new, I thought this job entailed meeting all sorts of gits and that that's just how things were. Now I know you can make a good living even if you only see the most polite and respectful men and turn all the others down - but it takes time to experience this for yourself, and to establish yourself etc, so unfortunately it's almost certainly going to be tough for a newbie.
Have you considered working for a (nice) parlour? There is a huge choice and yes, you might have to travel to the nearest large city to work for a more popular one (if you check out punter sites like Punternet and Punterlink, Google to find 'em, you'll see from the numbers of positive reviews of certain establishments that they are somewhat beloved by the clients - and happy clients usually means, on the whole, happy girls & a decent working environment) but you can expect to be busy at these popular ones, taking home several hundred pounds a day while working at a massively reduced risk to your personal safety because there'll be other girls and a maid etc at the same location.
To be honest, I think there are certain personal preferences that have no place in a healthy
working life. I might prefer incredibly intimate monogamous relationships in my personal life but to try to turn each booking into something like that? It'd obviously be a rather weird, unpleasant and un-sensible way of doing things! Similarly, I think that enjoying doin' sexy stuff in cars with special friends in civvy life does
not necessarily mean that that's the best way to work, and I would even venture to say that having satisfying/horny [for you] work sex should be the least of your priorities. With a boyfriend, if he suggested meeting up in a hotel for a couple of hours of sex and wine, I wouldn't be into it - that's a work sex environment, to me! So if a client suggests it, I'm 100% up for it because I know it's a scenario I'd feel amazingly comfortable with in a working situation. Not sure if I'm explaining this right - basically, I just mean: Don't bring your personal sexual preferences into your work, especially not where it might compromise your safety and sanity while working. If you like car stuff in your personal life, that's great! But doing bookings (i.e. sex
with strangers for cash) in cars is, statistically speaking, deeply unwise.
So perhaps looking at working in a more 'standard' way (from a hotel room that you've booked, or visiting clients in hotels only, or trying a good parlour or decent agency) would enable you to implement more of the common and effective safety procedures that we all use. I'm not sure there's much we can advise about car meets except either avoid them, or at least make sure to tell each client (in a calm and friendly way) that you've sent a picture of his license plate to your safety buddy ...but if he's determined to assault a prostitute, he's probably not using his own car. Or he might just scrap his car the next day and, despite DNA evidence, get away with a horrible crime - see
this recent example if that sounds unlikely.
If you're hosting incalls from a hotel room or other premises, or meeting clients for hotel/home outcalls, you can check out the
main site and
search this forum ('screening', 'safety', 'confirmation procedure' etc are good phrases to try) for loads of really great information on how to stay safe and be a happy, successful hooker.
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