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zara34

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Re: new to escorting
« Reply #15 on: 13 March 2012, 10:49:30 pm »
OMG,, you guys, I have just been in the process of creating my profile on AW in the last couple of days. To my surprise, I have had emails from three prospective clients. One of them has corresponded further and lefthis mobile number and expressed an interest in meeting up. I havwnt even posted any pics yet. I havent even got myself a PAYG mobile fone yet lolll.
I have kind of started a convo with him, but, tbh, I am not sure where I am going to go with this loll

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« Reply #16 on: 14 March 2012, 07:19:29 am »
AW sends out an email whenever a new profile is created. As you haven't got any pics up, I would safely assume that the people who have contacted you already are timewasters and/or bargain hunters looking to take advantage of a naive newbie. I would ignore them until your pics are up.

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« Reply #17 on: 14 March 2012, 08:48:53 am »
AW sends out an email whenever a new profile is created. As you haven't got any pics up, I would safely assume that the people who have contacted you already are timewasters and/or bargain hunters looking to take advantage of a naive newbie. I would ignore them until your pics are up.

What she said!

There are lots of guys who are into New Girls - they're the ones who sign up for newbie escort notifications and send 'em emails before they've even put pictures on their profiles, as you'll have noticed, Zara - and although some of them might be perfectly fine, a much higher percentage of them will be intending to mess you about (getting loads of free sex chat because newbie escorts usually don't know not to engage in lengthy conversations with random strangers in the hope of eventually getting paid for a booking) and some will have even worse things planned, like boundary-pushing (getting you to meet them in their car and/or in a lay-by or other unsafe place, pushing you into doing services that you're not sure you want to do, etc etc etc).

I think a lot of the biggest Newbie Hunter guys actually focus on newbies solely because experienced escorts suss out their wanky behaviour too quickly. So please bear that in mind any time a client contacts you for your first 3 months or so of working. You cannot be too cautious. Consider every single one a timewaster (or worse) until proven otherwise.

Search this forum for "screening" for more information on what to watch out for - and what to avoid - in potential clients. Lengthy conversations about the booking are probably Timewaster Sign #1. No genuine client needs to do more than pick a day, time and duration for his booking. "Do you really enjoy your work?" and all that are totally nonsense questions which should be ignored. Similarly, asking for discounts and/or extra services at any point indicate that the client has no respect for you and should be ignored. Talking to you like, "hiya babe r u lukin 4 sum fun i can't wait 2 lick ur pussy" means he's just an idiot kid who should be ignored.

Someone who politely and respectfully inquires about your availability on a certain day at a certain time is much more likely to be genuine, but never consider a client truly genuine until he's handed over that cash. Never rely on potential income. You can have a whole day/week of bookings lined up and every single one of them can turn out to be timewasters - it's not unheard of! Also, be REALLY careful about guys offering you lots of money and/or wanting to book you for large amounts of time. It's a common scam technique to get you to give them services for which they will pay you "lots", "later" - i.e. they will probably not pay you anything, ever. Read the whole of this thread to see a particularly horrific example of this sort of scammer.

Set strict booking and confirmation procedures and stick to them with all potential clients. (Search "booking procedure" or "confirmation procedure".) This will stop you from getting ready for 99% of those clients who do not actually plan on turning up. It will also enable you to suss out a client's attitude before you're alone in a room with him - is he happy to go along with your instructions, or does he call you a stupid c*** for expecting him to treat you with respect? If the latter, please do feel free to block him (after making careful note of all of his contact details) and never speak to him ever again.

Reading and following the advice you're given here on this forum will cut your chances of having an unpleasant experience in the sex industry by 50% at least. The sex workers here are experienced and sensible and if we say, "Guys who want to talk about your appearance and your services and whatever for ages are timewasters", it's because we've personally all had our time wasted when we were new by guys doing that. Not because we're trying to make life boring for you, honest. :) We just want to save others from making the same mistakes.
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Re: new to escorting
« Reply #18 on: 14 March 2012, 09:00:34 am »
There are a whole host of scammer, and advantage takers out there who target newbies. Luckily there are also some very nice guys out there too.

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« Reply #19 on: 14 March 2012, 12:37:51 pm »
Don't know wat I wud do without all of ur advice. I will bear all of wat u hv said in mind. I need to stay focused and prepare myself before I laynch myself into this. I am no where near as ready as I know I need to be. Starting to accumulate the things I need. Looking into the prepaid credit card and pay as you go. Hv old fone sets at home so I think I just need to get a sim.
I had one question and this will definitely show my ignorance, but, how do I get the different sized confoms from the GUM clinic? Di I just walk in there and ask at the reception? Feel really silly even asking this quetion. I hav only ever bought my own condoms. And also will they be able to give me any latex free ones too, just in case?

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« Reply #20 on: 14 March 2012, 05:08:06 pm »
Hi Just another quick question please. i have been readinh around on this forum and it seems like the general consensus is that to ask for client's pic is inadvisable. May I ask why that is? I mean i that something unheard  of? Does abyone on this forum asks for pics beforw hand?

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« Reply #21 on: 14 March 2012, 05:17:36 pm »
Hi Just another quick question please. i have been readinh around on this forum and it seems like the general consensus is that to ask for client's pic is inadvisable. May I ask why that is? I mean i that something unheard  of? Does abyone on this forum asks for pics beforw hand?

Why would you need to see their picture? They're choosing US, they're paying US, as long as they're clean and respectful (and don't push your boundaries) then their looks are irrelavent.

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« Reply #22 on: 14 March 2012, 05:34:45 pm »
It is because looks don't matter a jot when we decide to accept a booking from someone. What does matter is all that all the security criteria are followed and your potential Client abides by this procedure at all times and doesn't veer off into any of the timewaster or general weirdo behaviour as outlined by Emily and others above.
 
I'm sure you knew this and the photo idea is for your own security incase anything went wrong?

 There will be very few guys who will be happy for an Escort to have their face pic in the posession. What if you were a nutter and tried to blackmail him? I have heard some awful stuff about desperate Prossies from my own clients. :o

 The only guys I have ever come across who have willingly volunteered a pic is because they believe you will be blown away by their sheer looks ( and girth  :P ) that you will agree to be his Fuck Buddy for no charge  ::)

 
Believe me, you will definately be sent pics more times than you can shake a stick, but these will only make you want to block them.

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« Reply #23 on: 14 March 2012, 05:41:26 pm »
Sorry, I forgot to add; To rely on a photo as some kind of safety insurance would be folly at best.

The photo could be 10, 20 years old and, most likely not even themselves ( just someone who fits the general description ).

When they turn up at your door with the money you are not going to be stood there verifying the ID before you let him in are you?  ;D

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« Reply #24 on: 14 March 2012, 05:59:22 pm »
all i will say is dont ever get swayed simply by the money  if it sounds to good to be true then it probably is especially as you are a newbie to this

 i wouldnt put on your profile that you new -  as such maybe word it a bit differently ( no idea what)  but putting new brings out all the timewaster assholes  would be pimps and dicks that will try to take advantage of you as you are new
im not trying to put you off just trying to put you in the right frame of mind
thing to watch out for would be 
particualry long detailed emails specifically requesting various thing  often the more detailed the more of a fantasy the more of a timewaster  ( not always but often. its up to you to judge
 
photos being sent to you
 
asking for things you dont do /dont offer for more money  ( this is often boundry pushers)

previously went out with an escort  so would like to get together and meet you for drinks ect ect   

wants to link up with you because you could do adult content and sell it (read free fuck free sex)

ones that want to meet in the bar first before going up to the room ( ok they could be genuine clients and i know that some clients do actually like to do this - but if you dont know them before the booking then  they could be sat there with a bunch of mates sniggering at the escort they booked)   


i could go on and on but i wont, the main thing is to use your gut instinct  if it dont feel right then it probably isnt right

a genuine client  ( imo) would be brief polite and to the point  -  those that waffel on about this that and the sunshine and trying to prolong the converstation are often timewasters  - not always but often   


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« Reply #25 on: 14 March 2012, 07:12:38 pm »
To all my lovely ladies above, thanku as usual and I hv taken note of everything u have said. I had this idea in my head that somehow if they send me pics that wud mean they r genuine, buf u r right. I m a bit embarrassed to tell u mow that I have asked one of my very first prospective clients through AW for not one, not two, but three pics loll. I m sure now that I wont hear from them agsin lol. But u guys did say that in the absence of my isn pics on my profile yet, the guys qho hzv contacted me already are probably tw, wierdos.

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« Reply #26 on: 14 March 2012, 07:57:24 pm »
Zara, I'll say it before anyone else does.  Please don't use text talk on here, it is frowned upon. Don't want to have to come and give you a spanking before you get started.  ;)

To be honest, it's not that it's not allowed - it's more that text talk comes across as very immature, so it's always an additional worry thinking about some young'un walking into one of this industry's many evil traps.
 

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« Reply #27 on: 14 March 2012, 10:56:11 pm »
Zara, I'll say it before anyone else does.  Please don't use text talk on here, it is frowned upon. Don't want to have to come and give you a spanking before you get started.  ;)

To be honest, it's not that it's not allowed - it's more that text talk comes across as very immature, so it's always an additional worry thinking about some young'un walking into one of this industry's many evil traps.
 

It's not even txtspk, it's really bad typing. A bit like when I get a drunk guy on cam, and they are having trouble controlling their fingers, and think I am their 'mate'.

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« Reply #28 on: 14 March 2012, 11:01:14 pm »
I just find it so so difficult to try and translate and to work out what typing errors are  :FF  If someone has a problem I can help with then I want to help but if I can't understand what they are trying to say it is impossible.
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« Reply #29 on: 15 March 2012, 12:49:20 am »
To all my lovely ladies above, thanku as usual and I hv taken note of everything u have said. I had this idea in my head that somehow if they send me pics that wud mean they r genuine, buf u r right. I m a bit embarrassed to tell u mow that I have asked one of my very first prospective clients through AW for not one, not two, but three pics loll. I m sure now that I wont hear from them agsin lol. But u guys did say that in the absence of my isn pics on my profile yet, the guys qho hzv contacted me already are probably tw, wierdos.

I have to agree I'm afraid...there was a time when "txtspk" didn't exist and we could understand one another properly.  As EJ said, use of it can sound immature and that worries me because although I'm a newbie, I'm certainly mature and have my head fully screwed on - and would hope the same for any other person in the same position.  The thought of a young, naive lady out there on her own, without these "life skills", frankly scares the crap out of me xxxx