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Mya888

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New punter - meet him or cancel?
« on: 21 December 2017, 12:19:39 pm »
So there's this guy who has been emailing me for the last two weeks asking to arrange a booking for when I'm on tour.
First he wasn't sure what time he can make it, so we exchanged a few messages, each time he'd politely remind me to wear a certain outfit, to which I've always said no problem so I don't get why he'd have the need to ask over and over again. Once agreed on time he said he'd phone next day to confirm,whcih he did, though when phoned he was acting all confused as to why I asked him to phone me? Where he offered himself to call that day.
Over the last few days he'd text asking if we're still on, then said he might not be able to make it so he will phone me on the day to which I said, by that time I might not be available and I'd rather agree on a time he's sure of. Fine, said let's meet that day at that time etc. Then today he messages me asking if I'm still starting my tour today and I'm I'm available still at the time we were discussing originally.
I'm fed up with him, and I have a bad feeling, thinking of canceling this guy. The thing is I do care about my feedback as still building it up, so I don't want to just plain ignore him but not sure what reason to give him apart from - I have a bad feeling about you lol any advice?

VoluptuousCurves

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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #1 on: 21 December 2017, 12:29:11 pm »
"Hi there, I can't deal with this amount of constant texting, I think it's best you find another provider. All the best."
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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #2 on: 21 December 2017, 12:30:56 pm »
Ditto. He is a complete timewaster.

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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #3 on: 21 December 2017, 12:33:49 pm »
Always go with your instinct babe.

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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #4 on: 21 December 2017, 12:35:52 pm »
If you worry about your feedback and continue wasting your time which is money on these type of time wasters you will be working less and spending more time replying to such people who have no intention of ever seeing you. So follow VoluptuousCurves advice and get on with working rather than worrying over feedback :)
« Last Edit: 21 December 2017, 12:37:39 pm by Umrao Jaan »

Mya888

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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #5 on: 21 December 2017, 12:45:32 pm »
"Hi there, I can't deal with this amount of constant texting, I think it's best you find another provider. All the best."

Perfect, thanks! I always worry how to put the message together so it doesn't annoy them lol but you are right, and I always listen to my instinct. How many times have I cancelled a guy cause I had a bad feeling and I still have them calling me up and texting, it's such a pain.

clairebear86

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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #6 on: 21 December 2017, 01:21:27 pm »
I only take same day bookings...all information is on profile only call me on the day u want to book in...it cuts all this crap out.x

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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #7 on: 21 December 2017, 01:37:42 pm »
I would say  " I'm sorry , I am now committed at the time we originally discussed , should you still  wish to meet , please call on the day to arrange an alternative "

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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #8 on: 21 December 2017, 02:30:54 pm »
They just want attention, it's pathetic. If they start messing then I just cancel and ignore future texts  ::)
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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #9 on: 21 December 2017, 03:00:57 pm »
I just read the opening post, what a load of bollocksy bollocks.

Phone to book, agree when and for how long, determine travel time etc and give nearest postcode, if they start messing about with texts and instructions and show even a hint of confusion I am cancelling without a second thought.  Job done.

I have a very easy life as an sp now, however I do realise not everyone works my way or has my experience but it is a very rare day I have anyone causing me stress.

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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #10 on: 21 December 2017, 08:52:28 pm »
I would ask deposit for the booking if he would wish to book again

Mya888

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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #11 on: 21 December 2017, 09:21:05 pm »
I cancelled him, no reply so far.
I can sense a time waster, and it doesn't bother me to cancel, its the weirdos I'm more afraid of and I seem to be getting a lot of interest from them, guys that's just creep me out even before the meet. Boundary pushers and obsessive kind of guys who don't take no for an answer.

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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #12 on: 21 December 2017, 10:53:53 pm »
Glad you cancelled him. He sounds like a time-wasting attention seeking twat. Spend your time with someone who doesn't cause so much grief prior to a booking.
Block him so you don't get any more nonsense from him!

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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #13 on: 23 December 2017, 04:20:27 am »
You have the patience of a Saint  :-* For me, I will answer one call/email to discuss my availability and confirm a service or outfit request ( and I'm seriously getting too old to be bothering myself with the latter, but I digress) Then, he needs to contact me early on the day in question to book. That's it.
My hairdresser would be pissed off if I called her countless times to discuss how she will style my hair during an appointment, and I take the same hard-line. XX

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Re: New punter - meet him or cancel?
« Reply #14 on: 23 December 2017, 10:11:34 am »
You have the patience of a Saint  :-* For me, I will answer one call/email to discuss my availability and confirm a service or outfit request ( and I'm seriously getting too old to be bothering myself with the latter, but I digress) Then, he needs to contact me early on the day in question to book. That's it.
My hairdresser would be pissed off if I called her countless times to discuss how she will style my hair during an appointtment, and I take the same hard-line. XX

You sound rather like me in that respect.  Two new clients recently commented that I was "clear and to the point" on the phone but they also said they liked that! No dillydallying and they appreciated how straightforward it was to set up the meetings. As long as my straightforwardness is done with a nice voice it gets the point across perfectly!

I think some possibly less savvy younger sps have a low bullshit radar and that is not a criticism but they may not be aware of just how many time wasters and text/mail wankers are out there.