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lovelyeve

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new-in need of advice
« on: 11 June 2007, 05:28:27 pm »
Hi all.
I'm very new to escorting - so new in fact that i've just recieved my first call from a perspective client. Oh what a disaster! I felt like a real bumbling idiot. i was a bit taken aback by the questions he asked and felt i wasn't prepared.
When asked by the client: "i wonder if you could tell me a few details about yourself".....what does this mean exactly? is it code for 'what services do you offer' ? or is he just wanting to know what i look like? (even tho he saw a picture). Is it normal to openly say what you offer (is it illegal?) over the phone and how do you end the conversation? i think he sensed my unprofessionalism as he didn't ask to book.
Should i just ask when he wanted to meet.....you know, get right in there and be upfront?
Hope i can get a bit of advice in this ' client booking etiquette'
Eve xx

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Re: new-in need of advice
« Reply #1 on: 12 June 2007, 07:01:18 am »
Hi lovelyEve, welcome.

Please don't chastise yourself. We've all been there and we've all been as nervous as hell when first starting out. It'll get easier with time, I promise.
To answer your question, when somebody calls and asks you for details, in my experience, it will either mean that he's a timewaster and he gets off on hearing about you and your services, or, more rarely, he'd like to get a few details first so he could save booking you for another time. If you have a website where he got your number from, chances are everything he needs to know is really already answered for him. But then there are the odd gent who would like to find out that little bit more.
Don't be disheartened by the fact that he didn't book you. Not every gentleman that calls will. A lot will call with genuine enquiries, maybe something they haven't been able to find on your website which they'd like answered. Next time somebody asks you for some details, ask, "what would you like to know?" It stops you going into this whole spiel about what you do and don't offer, and if the caller is serious, he'll know exactly what sort of questions he'll want to ask.

And no, don't ask any client when they'd like to meet, leave that up to them. It'll come over as pushy and there's no quicker way to turn a perspective client off. Being an escort itself isn't illegal, so therefore I'd imagine that quoting your prices and services over the phone isn't, although to be quite frank with you I'm not sure about the legalities of quoting sexual services over the phone. But for various reasons there are some ladies who don't feel comfortable reeling off a menu and prices anyway. For some it just feels tacky. For others they feel that there's a fear of entrapment and feel they might be recorded. That may seem farfetched to you but newspapers and journos still seem to live by the old adage that sex sells newspapers, so you never know when there's a tape recorder being switched on.

Next time you get a phone call asking for details, as I say, ask them what exactly would they like to know. Keep your call short, sweet but concise. Try not to get caught up in too many explicit details, that's a sure sign of a timewaster looking for free phone sex. Then if you feel that you've done enough in selling yourself, just end it by saying something like "is there anything else I can help you with?", and bring the conversation to a close. If all else fails just refer them back to your website. If the caller is serious, he'll come back and book you. If not, well at least you won't feel that you've wasted your time for nothing.

You'll never completely weed out the timewasters. But in time you'll find a way to cut the amount of them down. The best of luck to you and feel free to ask any question you like.

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Re: new-in need of advice
« Reply #2 on: 12 June 2007, 08:16:11 am »
Yes I know a lot of ladies who get completely irritated by the "can you tell me some details please?" question.

To be fair to the guys though, for some its just an opening phrase as they dont really know what else to say. I ususally pin them down asking them what specifically they would like to know and from their response to that you can usually tell if they are genuine enquirers or just guys wanting cheap phone sex.

Some guys do look out for new ladies so they can play on their inexperience so you'll probably get a few wasters as you start out but in time you'll learn to spot and deal with them without feeling concerned that you've put off a genuine client.

Good luck.
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« Reply #3 on: 12 June 2007, 11:57:57 am »
Quote from: brandy@saafe
I'd imagine that quoting your prices and services over the phone isn't, although to be quite frank with you I'm not sure about the legalities of quoting sexual services over the phone.

To be illegal, soliciting has to be a) in person and b) on the street or similar public space.

So if you want to, you can happily say "I will do X for ?Y" on the phone / your website / ads without fear of arrest.

Some of the reasons for not doing so on the phone are above :)

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Next time you get a phone call asking for details, as I say, ask them what exactly would they like to know.

One formulation for this is to ask them what one thing they'd like to know. If they whinge that they need to know more than that, they need to email.

And keep your responses in worksafe language. So if they ask if you do X, you say 'yes' or 'no' or whatever, but not 'Yes, I do X and...' - it frustrates the wank callers who get off on hearing rude words.
'The Ian formerly known as SW5'. What they said: "Indispensable", "You are our best resource", and (hours later!) "I'm afraid that you're being made redundant..."

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Re: new-in need of advice
« Reply #4 on: 12 June 2007, 01:32:04 pm »
Hi
Thanks for the advice ladies. I will bear all in mind and try to remember everything.  i'm sure i'll get better with a bit of practice!
Thanks,
Eve x

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Re: new-in need of advice
« Reply #5 on: 13 June 2007, 06:41:40 am »
Quote from: brandy@saafe
I'd imagine that quoting your prices and services over the phone isn't, although to be quite frank with you I'm not sure about the legalities of quoting sexual services over the phone.

To be illegal, soliciting has to be a) in person and b) on the street or similar public space.

So if you want to, you can happily say "I will do X for ?Y" on the phone / your website / ads without fear of arrest.


Thanks for clearing that up for me. I kinda thought as much, seeing as escorting in itself is legal, but it's good to be 100% sure.


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Re: new-in need of advice
« Reply #6 on: 13 June 2007, 09:17:15 pm »
Yeah, "could I have some details" is annoying, but plenty of genuine guys open with it so I ask what details they're after. If it's everything than I tell them (politely) that they should look at my website to find out what I'm like, and that the are pictures there too. Usually these guys have taken my number from a listing without bothering to follow the link, but the promise of pictures is enough to convince them to go there.

If they want to know about services I tell them my two basic nos (OWO and anal) and say most other things are ok, is there anything specific you're interested in? Then they might ask about one or two things like kissing or roleplay and as long as he's not wanking it shouldn't take long.

"When are you available" is another annoying one that I don't attempt to answer. I ask what timeframe they have in mind, it's usually quite specific and there'd be no point going through every available timeslot in the next two weeks only to find that they really want to know if they can see you in the next two hours.

Don't get hung up over any one call like I did when I started! Just answer and move on. You'll get lots of calls which won't result in bookings, it's quite normal. Even if they're genuine and sound keen there are a lot of reasons for someone not to progress to the booking stage. Also, remember that a lot of your callers don't do this often and are as nervous as you.
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