Author Topic: New and taking precautions (Read 5627 times)

Tickle · « **Reply #30 on:** 01 January 2017, 02:08:10 pm »

He had ED and needed anal stimulation.

wishlist · « **Reply #31 on:** 01 January 2017, 02:10:39 pm »

Quote from: Tickle on 01 January 2017, 02:08:10 pm

He had ED and needed anal stimulation.

Did you confirm services prior to booking either on the phone or text/email? If you did confirm services and anal was not mentioned hes just trying it on

Tickle · « **Reply #32 on:** 01 January 2017, 02:34:47 pm »

Yes we confirmed everything by email and phone. I'm a pre-transition transgender woman. I prefer a man in the traditional role. This is the one time in my life I couldn't function! It's not that he was going too fast but he was too physical with my thingy and I kept losing my mood. I did say more than once he was rushing it with being tactile and needed to wait for my mood to catch up and every time he went to far it was like he kept hitting my reset switch and I had to begin again. I have toys and couldn't catch his interest because he was too fixated. He was forgiving and complimentary and seemed to want other times together and said he liked my femininity which for him was a USP only I could provide of the escorts he had browsed. I'm expecting a real roasting for this. I can only say I've never done this before and sorry if I'm letting anyone down.

wishlist · « **Reply #33 on:** 01 January 2017, 02:41:52 pm »

Quote from: Tickle on 01 January 2017, 02:34:47 pm

Yes we confirmed everything by email and phone. I'm a pre-transition transgender woman. I prefer a man in the traditional role. This is the one time in my life I couldn't function! It's not that he was going too fast but he was too physical with my thingy and I kept losing my mood. I did say more than once he was rushing it with being tactile and needed to wait for my mood to catch up and every time he went to far it was like he kept hitting my reset switch and I had to begin again. I have toys and couldn't catch his interest because he was too fixated. He was forgiving and complimentary and seemed to want other times together and said he liked my femininity which for him was a USP only I could provide of the escorts he had browsed. I'm expecting a real roasting for this. I can only say I've never done this before and sorry if I'm letting anyone down.

Please dont tell clients your new/never done this before you dont know if the guy will play on this and the bad guys out there relish this, feel free to PM me if you need anything

Tickle · « **Reply #34 on:** 01 January 2017, 02:52:17 pm »

Ok. Thank you.

VoluptuousCurves · « **Reply #35 on:** 01 January 2017, 02:59:34 pm »

Darling the only person you could possibly let down is yourself. You owe us on this forum, or other sex workers, nothing.

Consider this first booking a learning experience and adjust your profile and FAQs accordingly.

Does your profile say you will receive oral? If so, think about removing that if it's going to affect your performance.
Do you specifically say that you'll top clients? Do you feel that's realistic - are you going to be able to get hard if the client is unattractive? Obviously on this occasion you'd been drinking, which won't have helped.

Practise saying "No, I don't receive oral, you need to stop" and "I've already told you to stop doing X, if you try again I will end the booking."

Don't ever offer a customer a free session! Not unless you want a relationship with them. They will just come to expect a freebie every time.

Tickle · « **Reply #36 on:** 01 January 2017, 03:40:30 pm »

Yes, I'm taking this as a learning experience. All your advice through this topic has been good.

I stipulate condoms at all times. I wasn't very happy when he surprised me and used his mouth on my downstairs. I have research things and know what the claimed risks are but it's still a no. I said this a few times and he kept trying for unprotected BJ. I put my foot down and said no and said I'm visiting the clinic for scientific medical advice before agreeing anything. It will still be a no but I'm not falling for being gaslighted.

My food and drinking rules (which I haven't included in my profile) is I will source everything. I'll never say I will never drink but I must stick to one or two glasses and drinks are only at my discretion. (If I do I'm considering pouring the rest down the sink after the glasses are poured.) I may have to say no full stop. This would be safer. It's my fault we drank. I didn't manage his tactile persistence well and hoped a glass would fog me enough to move past this but this didn't work. I'm delicate in my downstairs and felt he was too rough like he was playing with his own thingy. I read others like me don't even allow a man to touch this even in a relationship.

I fear you are right about expectations. I felt there there was slight boundary pushing and hints during emails. This is not something I want to encourage. I'm offering escort strictly as a sex worker not a date. In fact I need this arrangement for the same reasons the new academic paper said. I don't need emotional fallout from client either defining me or involving themselves with my personal life.

wishlist · « **Reply #37 on:** 01 January 2017, 03:47:29 pm »

Quote from: Tickle on 01 January 2017, 03:40:30 pm

I don't need emotional fallout from client either defining me or involving themselves with my personal life.

You will over the years IF you are still in the game get someone who turns up at your house (if you do incalls from your address) without a booking made, or have a fall out of some kind unless you are extremely lucky, and with regards to unprotected oral i offer owo and have never caught a thing in over 8 years but always do what you feel comfortable doing

Tickle · « **Reply #38 on:** 01 January 2017, 03:57:00 pm »

I must buy a door intercom. I was told this is what autistic and other disabled people were advised. The important thing is not to have the intercom near the door to prevent opening on impulse.

I advertise ?10 off my hourly rates for my first month (which I'm editing now to remove and replace with first month of New Year). He was ?10 short. I'm wondering if he tried it on like has been said in this forum or if he made a genuine mistake and multiplied by the hours booked.

wishlist · « **Reply #39 on:** 01 January 2017, 03:58:51 pm »

Quote from: Tickle on 01 January 2017, 03:57:00 pm

I must buy a door intercom. I was told this is what autistic and other disabled people were advised. The important thing is not to have the intercom near the door to prevent opening on impulse.

I advertise ?10 off my hourly rates for my first month (which I'm editing now to remove and replace with first month of New Year). He was ?10 short. I'm wondering if he tried it on like has been said in this forum or if he made a genuine mistake and multiplied by the hours booked.

you agreed services and price and he showed up with 10er less? and you still serviced him

Tickle · « **Reply #40 on:** 01 January 2017, 04:02:18 pm »

It looked a lot and I counted the money after he had left.

wishlist · « **Reply #41 on:** 01 January 2017, 04:20:18 pm »

Quote from: Tickle on 01 January 2017, 04:02:18 pm

It looked a lot and I counted the money after he had left.

my personal advise would be stop and just think, I know we have to start some where and we all make mistakes but really please think what your doing, if only for your mental and personal safety

mature helen · « **Reply #42 on:** 01 January 2017, 04:33:07 pm »

Quote from: Tickle on 01 January 2017, 04:02:18 pm

It looked a lot and I counted the money after he had left.

With all new clients I count the money there in front of them, regulars I count it outside the room when I'm stashing it.

wishlist · « **Reply #43 on:** 01 January 2017, 04:42:44 pm »

Quote from: mature helen on 01 January 2017, 04:33:07 pm

With all new clients I count the money there in front of them, regulars I count it outside the room when I'm stashing it.

I count all money infront of each and everyone, only takes a reg to chance his luck and then count it out of his sight and he says it was all there before you left the room....

mature helen · « **Reply #44 on:** 01 January 2017, 05:55:57 pm »

Quote from: wishlist on 01 January 2017, 04:42:44 pm

I count all money infront of each and everyone, only takes a reg to chance his luck and then count it out of his sight and he says it was all there before you left the room....

Thankfully that's never happened.

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