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burgundy

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New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« on: 24 October 2008, 09:55:54 am »
Hello all, and help!! lol

I am 27 and I've been thinking about escorting for a while. I'm very relaxed and open about sex and, to be honest, I could do with the money. I am also a Mum of two.

Yesterday I kind of jumped in with both feet and, as an experiment, put a profile on adultwork.com. I've been honest in it and explained that I am new and I am surprised to have had a lot of interest already (about 6 emails overnight). I am wondering whether I should meet somebody to see if I am comfortable with it. It seems to me that it's either all or nothing - it's not something you can work up to.

Has anyone got any advice? I don't want to back down, but I don't want to get out of my depth either.

Thanks!

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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #1 on: 24 October 2008, 10:05:07 am »
Have you read the info sheets on this page? I found them very helpful. Also, you should set up a security procedure before you meet a client. x
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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #2 on: 24 October 2008, 11:06:35 am »
Adultwork has a feature where people can be notified whenever there's a new profile in your area, which is why you got a lot of interest quickly. Some of those emails are almost certainly from people hoping to take advantage of your naivety though, so read read read and know the score before you agree to meet with someone or even start to negotiate.

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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #3 on: 24 October 2008, 11:23:57 am »
I started in a low key way on AW with not many pictures and only seeing one or two people a week. The first clients I had all seemed to be seasoned punters, probably as a result of the new escort alert.  They obviously like going round meeting new girls. 

In my experience, they knew what they wanted and really initiated me into how to go about the actual process.  All the way from the first time asking for the cash, (scary to start with), to getting to the bedroom. 

Needless to say after a short while I had got the hang of it.  Had the professional pictures done, and away I went.  I love it.  But make sure you advertise only the services you enjoy doing and feel comfortable with.  Originally I thought, water sports, how hard can that be!  I couldnt do it, and took that of the profile straight away.  Learning the hard way.


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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #4 on: 24 October 2008, 12:01:40 pm »
Hi,
I too started escorting through AW and although it does have some mixed reviews, personally I have had no problem at all in the 2 years I've been active on the site (touch wood!)
My suggestion would be to see a guy who already has positive escort feedback for your first time - at least you know by doing this that someone has seen him before and has deemed him ok!
You're right in that you can't really work up to it - the best thing is to meet someone you feel comfortable with and see how you feel afterwards. You'll either love it or hate it!
Good luck!
Amelia Xx

burgundy

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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #5 on: 24 October 2008, 03:53:30 pm »
Thanks everyone. I think I've done it 'right' then: I've e-conversed with a guy who has had some experience and seems articulate etc. I've been honest about my newness and asked him to show me the ropes (I'm not going to be stupid about it, though, don't worry).

What started off as just an idea seems to have snowballed into a Real Thing. I've even been out and bought condoms, oils and mens' shower gel. Oh, and a cheap PAYG phone. I am nervous and feel a little bad (when I think of my family finding out or something) but I am also excited. I've booked for my first client to see me on Monday lunchtime, so wish me luck!

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UrbaneAspects

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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #6 on: 24 October 2008, 04:52:18 pm »
Yes, you can  learn from them
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BurlesqueHoney

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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #7 on: 26 October 2008, 03:40:52 pm »
Sorry I really have to disagree with the last two posts!  It is really not healthy to expect a client to show you the ropes!  The whole point of going into this business is to be your own boss with good working conditions and to earn a decent wage for your family.  A client however nice by the very nature of this industry will have a conflict of interest.  For god sake, take control!  Showing the ropes could very quickly lead to blurring important boundaries.  Your approach to a profile is at best na?ve and really a recipe for attracting groomers and those happy to take advantage of your lack of knowledge.  I would really rethink how you word your profile and get advice and support from other ladies.  Sadly many punter forums are full of guys that going on about what they deem to be industry norms and how ladies should run their business.  They have never walked a mile in our stilettos and at best tend to be patronising and worst hoping to mould you according to their skewered expectations.  If you let clients teach you the business then you may end up getting ripped off as many try to tell you it is not on to take the money up front and hurts their sensibility to count the cash.  They will try and push you into practises that they proclaim to be the industry norm, try and influence your pricing structure etc etc.  You don?t need a teacher, protector or any man to show you how it is done!  Find a Buddy, exchange questions and read, read, and read all the advice again!     

burgundy

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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #8 on: 26 October 2008, 03:58:56 pm »
Thanks BurlesqueHoney,

I appreciate your concern about pisstakers trying to convince me it's ok to give me the money afterwards and so on. I had already read and found out enough to not be completely taken advantage of. I had a really good feeling about the client I had arranged to meet, and he was indeed lovely and very respectful. I enjoyed myself. I appreciate that there was a degree of luck involved in that.

When you talk about my profile I am guessing you mean my AW one. I have taken your advice on board and changed my text so that I appear less naive. I am certainly feeling more confident now, anyway.

You're also right about talking to other WGs. I have sent an email to the buddy system, so hopefully I'll be able to chat with people soon. I also have a friend who used to be in the porn industry - she is full of good advice.

At the moment, I am being really fussy and not accepting bookings from men who give me a bad feeling. I've not come into this to earn thousands of pounds a month and so I am able to take things quite slowly.

I really appreciate all your advice, thank you.

BurlesqueHoney

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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #9 on: 26 October 2008, 04:21:14 pm »
Oh, I am ever so pleased that it went well for you!  I also think that your approach is wise.  It might take a while to develop a strong instinct so but do trust it.  You have so much more to gain by being cautious and avoiding potentially iffy clients.  I am also relieved that you have rethought your AW profile - you don't have to pretend to have loads of experience but it is unwise to highlight your vulnerability due to inexperience either.  Most clients can be lovely and I did not mean to portray them as villains but a healthy skepticism is a good idea.

Good luck and enjoy your new floozy career!   ;D

UrbaneAspects

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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #10 on: 26 October 2008, 07:24:20 pm »
It is really not healthy to expect a client to show you the ropes!  The whole point of going into this business is to be your own boss .  For god sake, take control!  They will try and push you into practises that they proclaim to be the industry norm, try and influence your pricing structure etc etc.  You don?t need a teacher, protector or any man to show you how it is done!  Find a Buddy, exchange questions and read, read, and read all the advice again!     

i completely understand where u are coming from.... however, when i said you can learn from a client, you can. its just like any other sales business (in a different aspect). Am i allowing them to run the show? hell no! (not yelling, just emphasizing  ;) Every booking is another experience. I think we equally learn from client/escorts. alike...

In addition, although the advice on this forum comes from experienced, professionals...Some escorts can just give downright bad advice...such as 'be available for bookings 24/7 and never sleep', 'call the client to check on them after a few weeks', or someone even told me to 'orgasm' as soon as possible to just get it over with. These are all things I've been told and doesnt help a bit.
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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #11 on: 26 October 2008, 10:46:02 pm »


.....In addition, although the advice on this forum comes from experienced, professionals...Some escorts can just give downright bad advice...such as 'be available for bookings 24/7 and never sleep', 'call the client to check on them after a few weeks', or someone even told me to 'orgasm' as soon as possible to just get it over with. These are all things I've been told and doesnt help a bit.

Ive never seen that kind of advice on this forum and im pretty sure if someone did suggest it we all, newbies included, would be on it like a ton of bricks.  it doesnt take a genius to know that is shite advice, unrealistic and unprofessional.  We all have our own minds and can read, take and apply as much or as little of the advice offered.  If you are told call a client and check on them and you decide to do that its your own fault if he screams down the phone at you or gives you a bad FR on a forum.  Not everything is always helpfull, but its good to have input anyway.

UrbaneAspects

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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #12 on: 26 October 2008, 11:58:02 pm »
Ive never seen that kind of advice on this forum and im pretty sure if someone did suggest it we all, newbies included, would be on it like a ton of bricks.  it doesnt take a genius to know that is shite advice, unrealistic and unprofessional.  We all have our own minds and can read, take and apply as much or as little of the advice offered.  If you are told call a client and check on them and you decide to do that its your own fault if he screams down the phone at you or gives you a bad FR on a forum.  Not everything is always helpfull, but its good to have input anyway.

no, I havent seen anyone post that on this forum...I was saying from people I've run into. I already knew better...Im just saying what people have advised me in the past.

Of course, I know none of those tactics are the way to go in this industry.

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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #13 on: 27 October 2008, 08:45:42 am »
i wish you luck honey
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Re: New and (foolishly) jumped in with both feet
« Reply #14 on: 27 October 2008, 08:48:26 am »
i started with an profile on adult works, really low profile and i even hadn't had any images on and i was really surprised that i got responses and requests
the first clients i saw or all i actually saw but in particular the first were really sweet and yes they did actually seem to have been experienced and did the money etiquette well without me asking etc so that was really sweet.

i think you have done it in the right way and as said in the previous post best luck on your first ...