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clairebear86

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Neighbours
« on: 19 November 2017, 10:45:25 am »
How do we get around the problem of neighbours seeing men come through the door? Yesterday I took a booking off a guy who sounded nice and it seemed like a genuine booking but as he turned up the neighbour next door was bringing in her shopping and spotted him...the guy was wearing track suit clothes and had a bright red sports car. To me he looked like a drug dealer. He basically stood out as this is a good area and you don't see many ppl like him round here... the neighbour watched him come to my door. I was gutted x

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Re: Neighbours
« Reply #1 on: 19 November 2017, 11:40:52 am »
if they do not see all punters coming to you..
i do not think is a problem..
you pay rent, you can host guest, you can have sex, you can date somebody, you can do party....
all my neighbours hosting guest, not all are escorts!

about look of a punter.. everybody is free to wear what they like..
my neighbours, she is ful of tattoo, she does party... that do not mean she is a drug dealer! or she escorting..
my opinion!



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Re: Neighbours
« Reply #2 on: 19 November 2017, 12:09:25 pm »
It dependes on how many people you seeing in 1 day?

In the summer when my neiboroughs was on holiday I was able to see 4-5 a day in my flat. Now when everybody is home and my walls are paper thin I am able to see no more then 3 clients a week. I did touring aswel and discounted outcalls not to get anyone suspicious. Still I was outed by my ex so whatever you do it's always risky. The best would be to balance incalls/outcalls and occasional touring. Be nice and polite to neiboroughs don't piss them off with a loud music or late night parties and you will be fine.

Also do not leave any personal belongings in your place and when punter asks tell him you renting this place just for incalls.

I don't care what my neiboroughs doing in their flats and I am guessing they are not interested in my life either. Its always good to have back up story about your job aswel.

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Re: Neighbours
« Reply #3 on: 19 November 2017, 02:00:23 pm »
It's not a problem them seeing you having male visitors once or twice a year, only if it becomes a regular thing. I've been unlucky a couple of times, but my clients haven't been conspicuous. I'm careful not to work too late at night because of the noise/disturbance, but otherwise I'm on a fairly busy road and there's no neighbours directly opposite, so it's not too bad.
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clairebear86

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Re: Neighbours
« Reply #4 on: 19 November 2017, 02:49:10 pm »
I do about 12 a week over 5 days most don't get seen, but the unsavoury one did. Also if just let sumone else out and he was seen by the same neighbour although not coming out of my flat but out the main door to the apartments. Also as I Hurd the woman coming on I almost sworn that I Hurd one of them say that was one aswel, and the other neighbour say yes iv noticed that aswel....although I'm not sure. If had a terrible week 😯

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Re: Neighbours
« Reply #5 on: 19 November 2017, 02:57:41 pm »
If someone had been watching , I would of said "hey, hi, come in , I was just looking for you , I thought you weren't coming " and just get them in , sometimes it's the furtiveness that looks creepy xxx

clairebear86

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Re: Neighbours
« Reply #6 on: 19 November 2017, 03:44:37 pm »
That's exactly what I did but the client looked unsure to come in as the neighbour was there he was looking shifty....x

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Re: Neighbours
« Reply #7 on: 19 November 2017, 03:49:45 pm »
yeah this is the one thing I worry about, as I live in an apartment block. Like usually I am waiting by my door, tiny bit open and as soon as I see them through the peephole I let them in and shut the door quietly behind us but my biggest fear is someone coming in/out of their place as this happens. Did recently think though maybe if that happens, make it look more 'normal' by letting him knock on the door and depending on what he looks like/wearing etc, greet him in a certain way like 'thank you so much for coming to see me, please come in' or glad you found me ok, promise this wont take long, thanks again' etc etc. loads of things you could say to make it not look 'dodgy' and even make a point of waving or smiling at the neighbour who is maybe looking at you? I think you would be so 'open' or 'friendly' if you thought you were doing something 'wrong'.

Do know the uncomfortable feeling though as dont know about anyone else but I do care what people think about me, know I shouldnt but hey, thats me! lol. I just think now if anyone says anything my back up plan is, that I am a sex addict who likes to meet men for causal sex! lol Thats only my last resort back up plan though! haha x
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Re: Neighbours
« Reply #8 on: 19 November 2017, 03:56:25 pm »
Most people are not looking for your clients, unless they have some reason to suspect?

It's normal to have visitors!

Only objection I have is when one of my few incall clients stands outside, thanking me loudly for a nice time and announcing he'll be in touch again.  :FF

Even then neighbours would have to be tuned in right at that minute, most people are getting on with their lives.

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« Reply #9 on: 19 November 2017, 05:16:45 pm »
yeah this is the one thing I worry about, as I live in an apartment block. Like usually I am waiting by my door, tiny bit open and as soon as I see them through the peephole I let them in and shut the door quietly behind us but my biggest fear is someone coming in/out of their place as this happens. Did recently think though maybe if that happens, make it look more 'normal' by letting him knock on the door and depending on what he looks like/wearing etc, greet him in a certain way like 'thank you so much for coming to see me, please come in' or glad you found me ok, promise this wont take long, thanks again' etc etc. loads of things you could say to make it not look 'dodgy' and even make a point of waving or smiling at the neighbour who is maybe looking at you? I think you would be so 'open' or 'friendly' if you thought you were doing something 'wrong'.

Do know the uncomfortable feeling though as dont know about anyone else but I do care what people think about me, know I shouldnt but hey, thats me! lol. I just think now if anyone says anything my back up plan is, that I am a sex addict who likes to meet men for causal sex! lol Thats only my last resort back up plan though! haha x

why not? it is possible! you can as you pay rent! till you do not disturb your neighbour...do not matter what you are doing in own flat!
i do not care what my neighbour are thinking about me...
i am free..i want freedom...


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Re: Neighbours
« Reply #10 on: 19 November 2017, 06:31:19 pm »
I see visitors coming and going into neighbouring flats all the time and it never occurs to me that anything saucy is going on.  Repair men, delivery men, family and friend visitors and a whole host of other reasons why people knock on others' doors!  Agree though with the problem of those men who think it a good idea to lean in for another kiss and I will be back types of comments accompanied by a wink, just as they leave the open doorway.  They just do not think!

The best place to work from is a block with short let apartments, no neighbours living there long enough to catch on what may be happening.  As for myself I only see one or two a day and not every day so no worries.  My neighbours make more noise than I do and seem to have more door knockers anyway.

« Last Edit: 19 November 2017, 06:52:32 pm by Justine »

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Re: Neighbours
« Reply #11 on: 19 November 2017, 08:07:33 pm »
why not? it is possible! you can as you pay rent! till you do not disturb your neighbour...do not matter what you are doing in own flat!
i do not care what my neighbour are thinking about me...
i am free..i want freedom...

As I said, we are all different and fair play to you for thinking that. I try and tell myself exactly the same thing as I completely agree but as I said I sadly care way too much what people think, stupid I know but I cant help who I am. Only taken me just not that long ago to be 'brave' enough to be honest at GUM about my work. I sadly worry too much! silly I know, but trying to more open and brave :)
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Re: Neighbours
« Reply #12 on: 19 November 2017, 08:08:56 pm »
That's exactly what I did but the client looked unsure to come in as the neighbour was there he was looking shifty....x
Oh twat !

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Re: Neighbours
« Reply #13 on: 19 November 2017, 08:16:25 pm »
There have been a tiny number of occasions when workmen have been busy doing some maintenance a few feet from my door in the communal area or maybe neighbours having some painting and decorating done and their door open with the decorator coming in and out and if a client is due I tell him not to take any notice of anyone near my door, just to act as any normal visitor. It has not caused any problems. One vital thing though is to open the door in such a way that the visitor can see me but anyone else out there can not. It is quite possible.  A clear and cheerful "hi come in" sounds totally normal too!

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Re: Neighbours
« Reply #14 on: 19 November 2017, 09:34:44 pm »
I ask clients to park away from the house although they don't all follow instructions!

I get them in as quickly as possible. I open the door as they come up the driveway.

I also limit clients to maximum 3 a day. Even if my phone rang of the hook, I wouldn't see any more. If I get a longer booking, I only see 2.

Discretion is vital for me so I only feel comfortable with this number.

I totally empathise with your situation.