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geordie

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Neighbour troubles
« on: 18 April 2019, 09:12:37 am »
So I’ve worked from home for the past 2 years, it’s a quiet residential street and never had any issues until yesterday.

When a client left, my downstairs neighbour messaged me basically telling me that if I’m going to carry on working, I need to do so in my spare room (the room I currently use is above her living room). She also said she doesn’t want to hear fat men having sex, which made me feel a bit uncomfortable as she must have looked out the window when he left to see him.

I’m wondering whether I should just pack in working from home to be on the safe side, or to do as she says and make the change over to my spare room and hope that’s the end of it.

Anyone have a similar issue and can shed some light into what I should do?

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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #1 on: 18 April 2019, 09:30:04 am »
So I’ve worked from home for the past 2 years, it’s a quiet residential street and never had any issues until yesterday.

When a client left, my downstairs neighbour messaged me basically telling me that if I’m going to carry on working, I need to do so in my spare room (the room I currently use is above her living room). She also said she doesn’t want to hear fat men having sex, which made me feel a bit uncomfortable as she must have looked out the window when he left to see him.

I’m wondering whether I should just pack in working from home to be on the safe side, or to do as she says and make the change over to my spare room and hope that’s the end of it.

Anyone have a similar issue and can shed some light into what I should do?

I would not reply, but make arrangements to improve discretion.

Far better you've been warned than someone trying to do something.

geordie

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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #2 on: 18 April 2019, 09:46:09 am »
I think I’m gonna make the change over to spare room then try and break it up with hotel incalls too. I’m just hoping she doesn’t change her mind once I’ve done so and make it worse for me.

It pissed me off a bit as I see a max of 2 people per day if she’s in, if not it’s never more than 3. I hear her shagging at all times of day herself so was very tempted to tell her to do the same, but for the sake of keeping the peace, I’ve kept my mouth shut.

geordie

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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #3 on: 18 April 2019, 09:48:39 am »
Another option was to message her and ask her to let me know when she’s at work and I’ll move my shifts around then, but not sure if that would come across as a piss take.

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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #4 on: 18 April 2019, 09:54:12 am »
It does seem as if she's being fairly reasonable under the circumstances so if you change rooms it might be OK.

But... this is one reason I'm always surprised how many SPs choose flats: sound travels a lot more up and down. Are your bedrooms carpeted? That can make difference.
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geordie

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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #5 on: 18 April 2019, 10:08:12 am »
Yeah they’re carpeted, I do what I can to keep the noise down (rugs, background music, non squeaky bed) but I can still hear her sneeze so understand she must be able to hear a lot from up here too. Think I’ll just make the change and possibly man up and speak to her about it so she doesn’t cause any trouble for me going forward. Also do what I can to minimise bother by working elsewhere when I can.

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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #6 on: 18 April 2019, 12:21:00 pm »
It does seem as if she's being fairly reasonable under the circumstances so if you change rooms it might be OK.

I agree with Kay. Neighbours are always a balancing act, especially that almost no flats are soundproofed.

If you decide to speak to her, I wouldn't openly admit to the commercial side of things, dating or Tinder hookups instead, or just friends visiting. Or not explain yourself at all and just refer to 'making too much noise'. And never leave anything in writing that could be used against you, like a text message.
I would try to be accommodating regarding limiting the noise, moving to another room, but also stand your ground as, like you say, she's making noises herself too.

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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #7 on: 19 April 2019, 10:17:17 am »
I'm dreading a new neighbour moving in as my old one moved out whom turned a blind eye to my activities. He was mostly drunk or asleep though !

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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #8 on: 19 April 2019, 10:37:03 am »
Ah I see you are in a flat I had problems working from a flat, despite clients saying they perceived it as 'more' discrete - reality was that it was less discrete in some ways.

Sound can carry from doors, floors, communal corridors and many small to medium blocks are not anonymous at all.

I'd carry on BUT if you have a landlord/leasehold be aware others if they know may do something and go further.

If she is the only one then sounds as if she is on your side.

Being paid for sex/running a business from a leasehold has different consequences to simply shagging partners casual or committed. Plus you are advertising..........

geordie

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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #9 on: 19 April 2019, 11:15:54 am »
It’s an upstairs/downstairs semi detached flat rather than an apartment block and next door to me are never in so only neighbour who can hear anything is the one downstairs.

I’m making the change over to spare room over the weekend but also going to seek somewhere else to work from as I rent and don’t want any bother with my landlord. He has said I’m his best tenant (he has constant bother with other people he rents to) so I don’t think he’d automatically terminate my tenancy but don’t want to take the risk.

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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #10 on: 19 April 2019, 11:54:19 am »
It’s an upstairs/downstairs semi detached flat rather than an apartment block and next door to me are never in so only neighbour who can hear anything is the one downstairs.

I’m making the change over to spare room over the weekend but also going to seek somewhere else to work from as I rent and don’t want any bother with my landlord. He has said I’m his best tenant (he has constant bother with other people he rents to) so I don’t think he’d automatically terminate my tenancy but don’t want to take the risk.

I once lived in a similar property but it had solid floors, so no noise transfer.

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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #11 on: 19 April 2019, 12:59:55 pm »
The fact that she asking you to move business to another room rather than cease all together, suggests to me that she is approachable. Maybe see her face to face on a friendly footing, appologise if you have disturbed or upset her and you will change rooms and endeavour to keep business quite and discrete.
Better to have her as a friend than an enemy.
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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #12 on: 19 April 2019, 03:23:09 pm »
I once lived in a similar property but it had solid floors, so no noise transfer.

Ditto. I had a terraced house that had been converted into two flats. I had ground floor. The only time I could hear the neighbours (and vice versa) was if they were raising their voices.

(At one point they got a kitten. One afternoon I was sitting in webcam and heard the guy go "No don't... No... NO! YOU FURRY BASTARD!" It must have shat on the carpet or something. I was in hysterics :D )

The only noise I had problems with was next door, who frequently had noisy parties going on all fucking night. More than once I ended up banging their door at 3am and threatening to throw the cunts down the front steps.

OP it sounds like your neighbour works from home, or doesn't work? That might make things difficult. But she does sound reasonable. Moving your work room would definitely be for the best, and maybe ask clients to keep their voices down.
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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #13 on: 19 April 2019, 04:53:32 pm »
The fact that she asking you to move business to another room rather than cease all together, suggests to me that she is approachable.

The more I think about it... If it took her 2 years of bearing sex noises twice a day before she complained to you, she must be a patient person.  :) The fat punter must have been a straw that broke the camel's back.

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Re: Neighbour troubles
« Reply #14 on: 20 April 2019, 12:26:30 am »
She sounds like a nosey interfering cow. No need to change rooms because she has complained.
Can say something like - "my boyfriend has a massive sex drive" just leave it at that