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LittleMinx2

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Neighbour issues
« on: 17 October 2021, 09:53:08 am »
Hi all, i had some new neighbours move in opposite me and they're definitely not as accepting as my other ones. They keep going on saying they're going to call the police on me, but I am pretty sure what i do is legal in the uk? I own my house, only work late morning-early evening and it is only me working there. Is there anything i could get in trouble for? Just need some reassurance and tips on how to handle this situation.

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« Reply #1 on: 17 October 2021, 10:01:29 am »
It doesn't sound like there is anything they can really do about it as long as there's nothing illegal going on and you're not causing a nuisance to them.

You're just working from home (or at least a property you own) and not interfering with them so I don't see how they can do anything about that. Sounds like it's their problem not yours.

I always think I'm too busy to have a clue nor care what my neighbours are up to as long as they're not upsetting me in any way.
« Last Edit: 17 October 2021, 10:04:13 am by Maz »

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« Reply #2 on: 17 October 2021, 10:05:08 am »
You own the property you live in. You work there alone, so you are not using your house as a brothel. In this instance, you are not doing anything illegal - sex work is perfectly illegal in these circumstances.

Next time they tell you they're going to call the police ask them why, what are they actually going to complain about/report you for? See what they say first, I bet they haven't a clue about the legalities.

Acceptance from neighbours isn't a given, and you were lucky with your previous neighbours. Not everyone is. It might be worth talking to them and finding out what they are objecting to. If it's footfall, strangers parking in your street, it might be worth asking your clients to park elsewhere if only to placate your neighbours as there is a possibility they could make your life difficult and hassle you relentlessly, even though you are doing nothing wrong.

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« Reply #3 on: 17 October 2021, 10:33:53 am »
You own the property you live in. You work there alone, so you are not using your house as a brothel. In this instance, you are not doing anything illegal - sex work is perfectly illegal in these circumstances.

Next time they tell you they're going to call the police ask them why, what are they actually going to complain about/report you for? See what they say first, I bet they haven't a clue about the legalities.

Acceptance from neighbours isn't a given, and you were lucky with your previous neighbours. Not everyone is. It might be worth talking to them and finding out what they are objecting to. If it's footfall, strangers parking in your street, it might be worth asking your clients to park elsewhere if only to placate your neighbours as there is a possibility they could make your life difficult and hassle you relentlessly, even though you are doing nothing wrong.

Thankyou, that is useful! It isn't parking, as i let my clients park on my drive (so they don't obstruct anyone). All I've had is them shouting at me from over the road when I've been out to walk the dog, but I may calmly approach them next time. I just hate conflict, haha.

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« Reply #4 on: 17 October 2021, 10:34:35 am »
It doesn't sound like there is anything they can really do about it as long as there's nothing illegal going on and you're not causing a nuisance to them.

You're just working from home (or at least a property you own) and not interfering with them so I don't see how they can do anything about that. Sounds like it's their problem not yours.

I always think I'm too busy to have a clue nor care what my neighbours are up to as long as they're not upsetting me in any way.

Thankyou, that is reassuring! I am very quiet and only work during normal work hours, so hopefully that helps!

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« Reply #5 on: 17 October 2021, 10:53:10 am »
I would tell then I’ll be reporting them for harassment if they continue. Nosey busybodies !

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« Reply #6 on: 17 October 2021, 11:13:40 am »
How did they find out you're working there?

I would be wary of winding them up since you'll have to declare any disputes with neighbours if you ever want to sell the place - this certainly includes anything that results in you reporting them. The danger is that when when they find out they have no legal footing at all, they'll start pissing about trying to put you out of business - standing around making comments to punters as they're arriving/leaving, photographing people and their cars and so on. Do you know if they're renting (so might not be there as long) or have they bought their place?

I'd agree about the parking elsewhere (so they can't whinge about it, and for no other reason) and just quietly get on with it; if they've not been there long it may well blow over when they see you're not interested and that nothing you're doing has any real impact on them. I daresay they'll find something else to froth about before long :)

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« Reply #7 on: 17 October 2021, 11:45:21 am »
How did they find out you're working there?

I would be wary of winding them up since you'll have to declare any disputes with neighbours if you ever want to sell the place - this certainly includes anything that results in you reporting them. The danger is that when when they find out they have no legal footing at all, they'll start pissing about trying to put you out of business - standing around making comments to punters as they're arriving/leaving, photographing people and their cars and so on. Do you know if they're renting (so might not be there as long) or have they bought their place?

I'd agree about the parking elsewhere (so they can't whinge about it, and for no other reason) and just quietly get on with it; if they've not been there long it may well blow over when they see you're not interested and that nothing you're doing has any real impact on them. I daresay they'll find something else to froth about before long :)

So they don't know for sure, as I haven't actually told them, but they complain about me having numerous male visitors. I think they bought the place. I'm honestly hoping they just drop it and move on with their lives, as nothing i do affects then at all. I only tend to work 2 days a week!

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« Reply #8 on: 17 October 2021, 12:16:09 pm »
So they don't know for sure, as I haven't actually told them, but they complain about me having numerous male visitors. I think they bought the place. I'm honestly hoping they just drop it and move on with their lives, as nothing i do affects then at all. I only tend to work 2 days a week!


So they're adding 2 and 2 and making 5 then?

Whenever anyone outside has suggested I am escorting I've always shrugged it off. They usually give up unless they have real evidence. Having male visitors is not proof. You could be running a consultancy as a friend of mine does, and was accused of escorting, which she never has. A back story might be useful, but I don't communicate with people who make wild accusations. It seems to me to only perpetuate the problem.


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« Reply #9 on: 17 October 2021, 12:52:22 pm »
Neighbours can get obsessed. I don't let clients park on my street at all so cars aren't connected with me. Sounds like that's possibly the issue. You're entitled to do so of course. But now it's got their 'curtain twitching' reflex going, they may still focus on pedestrian clients. Once neighbours get obsessed it's like a dog with a bone.

Like others have said many professionals work from home with visiting clients. More so after The Pan.

Tomorrow, I'd get a diary/blank book and religiously log date and time all their comments and actions as evidence in case you need to report them to the police for harassment. I'd be wary of approaching them as they may want escalation. If they speak to you, record them with your phone if you feel safe to do so as evidence. You've done nothing wrong.
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Re: Neighbour issues
« Reply #10 on: 17 October 2021, 02:06:01 pm »
I get clients to park two streets away then ring me to walk the two mins to mine for discretion.

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« Reply #11 on: 17 October 2021, 02:13:55 pm »
I don’t know if your front door set up would allow it, but maybe a Ring Doorbell might be worth investing in? If these neighbours do start doing silly things, at least you have video evidence.
As others have said, I’d mitigate any irritations by removing parking etc.

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« Reply #12 on: 17 October 2021, 02:19:30 pm »

So they're adding 2 and 2 and making 5 then?

Whenever anyone outside has suggested I am escorting I've always shrugged it off. They usually give up unless they have real evidence. Having male visitors is not proof. You could be running a consultancy as a friend of mine does, and was accused of escorting, which she never has. A back story might be useful, but I don't communicate with people who make wild accusations. It seems to me to only perpetuate the problem.

No there adding 2 and 2 and getting 4 because they obviously know what she is doing and probably have already looked into where she advertises.

As she owns the property she is doing nothing wrong and should not be bullied by these people but it's not as simple as that as they could start harrassing the clients. It always comes down to a moral thing she is doing nothing wrong but the public seem to think she is not allowed to do this and want it stopped.

If it carries on or gets worse she can contact the police and say what you are doing for work and the neighbours are causing you a problem and if there understanding police they could visit them and tell them she is doing nothing wrong and to stop getting involved with her and causing her stress.

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Re: Neighbour issues
« Reply #13 on: 17 October 2021, 02:53:57 pm »
Report them for harassment, it is your home, they have not long moved in, they have no right to have a go at you. What you are doing is not illegal whereas them on the other hand, also they don't actually know what you are doing and if it was me I would tell them  that I do sports massage, not that you owe them any kind of explanation.

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« Reply #14 on: 17 October 2021, 03:28:45 pm »

Although what you are doing is not illegal, if they really want to be pedantic and they are in the 'know', then they could report you to the council for running a business from home which could open all sorts of other issues especially as it's a business that increases footfall to a degree.   I know where I live that you need to get permission from the local council to run a business from home and from what I gather each case is looked at differently dependent on what kind of business it would be.  If they know this then they could also cause problems by saying it's causing them a nuisance etc.