Sorry to bombard this board with questions, but I just came across something very different. What do you ladies think of a guy who wants to go to a naturist spa (there's one near Heathrow, evidently) instead of a hotel. Are there any issues I should be concerned with?

Well if it's where I think it is (begins with 'K'), then whatever they call themselves it's a swingers venue and you should be prepared for this - it's not everybody's cup of tea (and I personally wouldn't go even for x times my usual rate) but each to their own. Security wise, you need to show two forms of ID to get in which your client is likely to see (you could nip down the day before and 'join' then, but you will have to pay and why should you?) and this wont be easy to get round, but it has been done.

If your client wants you to go to this place with him as a 'couple' (and if there is a large disparity in your ages or whatever, they're not stupid and will know exactly what's going on although that doesn't mean they'll care), will he be expecting you to have sex with people other than him? How many and do you get to have a say? When is he going to pay you the extra for this? And where will your money and ID be kept whilst you are there?

If it was the sort of thing I would consider, I still wouldn't go with a client I hadn't met before so I would maybe suggest (if this is the case) that you have your first booking in more usual surroundings and then discuss the swinging after that - you could knock a bit off the total fee if you're keen. Or don't if you're not  .

Thought it must be - spa indeed. Don't ask for a facial, for ferk's sake  .

All I can think of is that you get the money from your client and join by yourself, or at least arrive before him and explain that your partner will be paying when he arrives but is running a bit late. You could even ring them beforehand and ask - they won't know who you are and if you tell them you do not want the man you are with to know your personal details but don't mind the 'spa' having them they may have some suggestions for ways round it.

Believe me, you're not the first prossie to go there, and you won't be the last. If it all seems like too much hassle, just stick to your guns and say no, but I honestly would try phoning them first.

Personally I wouldn't have a problem going to a swingers club with a client (of course I would discuss boundaries etc beforehand). However, I can honestly say that from all the enquiries I have received for this, not one has ever gone on to a booking. As soon as somebody mentions a swingers club on the phone now I don't take it seriously.

Thanks for the advice everyone. This is probably done better with a regular than a new person.

I'm interested in what other ladies would charge, arrangements etc with clients they have visited swingers clubs with. Would appreciate some sort of ideas as I have been in situations where clients have asked me to accompany them, but haven't known what the ettiquette/fees should be.

If you don't wish to post publically I'd be grateful for pms on this.

Believe me, you're not the first prossie to go there, and you won't be the last.

I guess this could vary from each swinger's event. Many swingers only wish to see genuine couples/ladies and won't allow single men in. Afterall the lifestyle is about having honest, open sexual relationships where no one cheats on their partners. So they may actually take offence if a single guy seemingly arrives as a couple by hiring an escort. Especially if he's sneaking behind his wife's or girlfriend's back.

So I'd think it's worth finding out what the actual boundaries are for each particular swinging venue/party. And no, don't just listen to what your client says, ask the club organisers. Otherwise it may put you in an awkward position where people think you're his "curious to meet other couples for ongoing fun" girlfriend...

Or they could view you as a imposer too.