I think its because parents are in a different generation too, possibly in some years time people may be a little more relaxed about it, depending on their own upbringing and depending on what hopes/dreams if any they had for their princess. My mum would have had a heart attack but my dodgy estranged dad would have probably seen it as a money maker Im sorry to say! I had been working about four years when I started to feel it was normal and nobody would care, I told an older cousin and she actually deleted me off facebook and never spoke to me again, although hasnt told anyone.  Sad really as I liked her.

I have been feeling lately that this is so normal no harm telling a few folk but I will remember and keep quiet.

This work has always from the very beginning seemed normal to me. Not saying I was born to do it but when I made the decision to take the plunge I was with my first client within a few days. No hesitating and I had a strong feeling I would be doing it for years.  This is the case and I have had a great time with a few exceptions which is natural.

I was maybe a little naive in thinking I could keep it all a secret but before long realised that was not easy.  A handful of people know and appear to be accepting of it but I am glad I don't hear their conversations when I am not there. Nothing I can do about it but one thing is certain, I am not giving it up for anyone. Those who have made negative comments have forgotten their prejudices when being taken on holiday or receiving lovely gifts etc.  More fool me eh?

This is a hard one.
Hope everything works out for you, soon. x

Just give it time.  I am sure things will calm down slowly.  Just reduce contact somewhat over a year or so and by then they hopefully will have come to terms with it a fair bit.  You can also meet them meanwhile only when you are feeling fully at peace and just mention all the positives each time and reassure them you are still sane and sensible.

I just joined this site and I know it’s a old post but was looking for support,and how to deal with this.
I was outed by my brother in law,I quit escorting 5 years ago and he decided last week to tell my whole family..my parents,siblings and my kids.They are not speaking to me and this really hurts.I feel ashamed,and disappointed in myself for letting this happen.My boyfriend at the time suggested I do it,so I thought about it and decided to do it.I started liking it because the money was good,and I liked dressing up and I just felt better about myself.My boyfriend was my pimp at that time and it was going well.We broke up 5 years ago because I didn’t want to do it anymore.I had a full time job and I was getting exhausted.
About 3 years ago my brother and brother in law had a fight,this in a public place and I was helping my brother get away from him and my brother in law yelled at me and said he knows all about what I’m doing.Nobody asked me what he was talking about so I moved on.A couple years ago my sister asked if she could stay with me a bit because they were looking for a place and I had the room for them(her husband was the brother in law that outed me)I said yes because I did it for my sister and niece,not him.I did a lot for them,they just don’t appreciate what people do for them.
So now that he outed me,and I don’t know why he decided to at this time.Nobody in my family likes my brother in law because the way he treats people,and he’s a loose cannon at times.So now no one is talking to me,I feel so alone and ashamed,disgusted with myself.But what really hurts is my sister knew and let him tell everyone that I was an escort before I quit doing it.I don’t know why she let him,it has ruined me.
How do you live with this?This happened last week and I just feel so alone now because my family wants nothing to do with me and my son is mad at me,and we had a close relationship.
I could really use some advice&support!Thanks!

I’m so sorry MGreen that you are going through this right now and I would equally be as mortified if someone outed me, I think it all boils down to the types of people your family are and if they’re not that open minded about different walks of life, but even for a lot of people it’s hard for them to understand because it’s such a hard world to comprehend if you’ve not lived in it.

By the sounds of things you were led astray by your, would I be right to say, controlling ex. Cant you put most of the situation on him and say you felt trapped and it actually was a horrific time of your life and the only reason you didn’t tell your family was to protect them and that you’ve moved on so far from that now. They must be able to see the pain this is causing you, but I do also think as cliche as it it that time is a healer.

For me personally, I would expect people to be upset but for people to also accept that this is MY life and I would probably pull away from them if I felt judged to the point of making me feel ashamed.

You say your kids know? How old are they? This would also be my greatest concern. You sound like a loving mother or you wouldn’t be so upset about this, tell your children that you love them dearly and they will find in life that adults make decisions that are hard for children to understand but it doesn’t ever take away the love and caring nature you have for them.

I hope you’re okay, sending lots of happy and positive thoughts your ways XxX

First, I'd say try and stay calm/not do anything drastic within the next couple of weeks, as time can be a great healer. Second I, personally, would cut off your sister and brother-in-law and focus on righting things with your children. Don't be too apologetic though - just explain why you did it.