Author Topic: My GF has started to escort............. (Read 5245 times)

whu2005 · « **Reply #15 on:** 04 August 2009, 09:20:22 pm »

I like to try to be positive IA, but I must say as a man, if my partner was an Escort when I met her , thats one thing, i accept or I don't, but if she started now........ Thats a hard one my friend.

How do you feel? is it just the fact that you think she might run off? or do something that you don't like?

Anika Mae · « **Reply #16 on:** 04 August 2009, 09:41:29 pm »

Quote from: IA on 04 August 2009, 08:07:39 pm

Also, to the girls that work and have partners, is there things you wont do because your partner has asked you not to or to you is it more a case of you do what ever is requested as that is makes the money?

None of us do whatever is requested. What you want to know is whether we'd let a partner set some of our limits, and that depends on whether the relationship's more important than working and on what limits you want to set.

Fallingstar · « **Reply #17 on:** 05 August 2009, 07:26:23 am »

I have a partner and escort,we have been together 3 years and Ive been escorting for 1 year.

My partner HATES what i do,it causes endless rows and arguments and sometimes it gets almost unbearably draining. I feel like we cant move on with our relationship whilst i am doing this (we are engaged but he wont marry me while I'm escorting). Financially though we aren't in a position for me to stop,so i am between a rock and a hard place.

There are quite a number of things that i wont do with clients and reserve for my boyfriend. Partly because he doesn't want me doing them and also because to be truthful they aren't things i would be willing to participate in if i was single.

The main point of argument is his concern that i enjoy the physical aspect of what i do,we row about it on a regular basis. To me this is a job and nothing more,a way of keeping the wolf from the door and food on the table. What i do with clients cannot compare in any way with my physical relationship with my boyfriend,which is such a Superior thing as to be beyond any point of comparison. When i am working I'm Collette and she is a different person to the girl i am when I'm off duty. I just wish i could get my own boyfriend to understand this better.

Violette · « **Reply #18 on:** 05 August 2009, 03:25:43 pm »

Quote from: IA on 04 August 2009, 08:07:39 pm

Does anyone else have any thoughts on this?

Also, to the girls that work and have partners, is there things you wont do because your partner has asked you not to or to you is it more a case of you do what ever is requested as that is makes the money?

Bottom line, I do not discuss what I do with my partners! It is work, work stays at the 'office'.

Fallingstar · « **Reply #19 on:** 05 August 2009, 07:24:57 pm »

Quote from: Violette on 05 August 2009, 03:25:43 pm

Quote from: IA on 04 August 2009, 08:07:39 pm
Does anyone else have any thoughts on this?

Also, to the girls that work and have partners, is there things you wont do because your partner has asked you not to or to you is it more a case of you do what ever is requested as that is makes the money?
Bottom line, I do not discuss what I do with my partners! It is work, work stays at the 'office'.

Gosh Violette your lucky! My boyfriend is constantly wanting to discuss what i do at work. I feel that it is of no constructive use whatsoever to do so but still he persists. He sees my reluctance to discuss it as 'caginess' but its nothing more than a desire to leave what i do at work and forget about it in my spare time. I actually get very upset sometimes as i really don't want to be talking about it all the time. My job is only a part of what i do and i feel that the more i discuss it with my partner the more it will invade every aspect of our life together.
If only i could get him to see that

Violette · « **Reply #20 on:** 06 August 2009, 08:44:39 am »

Quote from: Colette on 05 August 2009, 07:24:57 pm

Quote from: Violette on 05 August 2009, 03:25:43 pm
Quote from: IA on 04 August 2009, 08:07:39 pm
Does anyone else have any thoughts on this?

Also, to the girls that work and have partners, is there things you wont do because your partner has asked you not to or to you is it more a case of you do what ever is requested as that is makes the money?
Bottom line, I do not discuss what I do with my partners! It is work, work stays at the 'office'.

Gosh Violette your lucky! My boyfriend is constantly wanting to discuss what i do at work. I feel that it is of no constructive use whatsoever to do so but still he persists. He sees my reluctance to discuss it as 'caginess' but its nothing more than a desire to leave what i do at work and forget about it in my spare time. I actually get very upset sometimes as i really don't want to be talking about it all the time. My job is only a part of what i do and i feel that the more i discuss it with my partner the more it will invade every aspect of our life together.
If only i could get him to see that

It has nothing to do with luck, it has to do with design, I allow them into my life, they are there to enhance it, the minute they start to become stressful, or cause me grief, I will seriously re access how beneficial it is to have them underfoot. He needs to learn to respect your right not to discuss your work if you so choose.

xw5 · « **Reply #21 on:** 06 August 2009, 10:53:01 pm »

Quote from: Colette on 05 August 2009, 07:24:57 pm

your lucky! My boyfriend is constantly wanting to discuss what i do at work. I feel that it is of no constructive use whatsoever to do so but still he persists.

Whatever form non-monogamy takes, different people have different boundaries.

So some people are fine with their partner having casual sex with other people, but don't want them to have a 'relationship' with anyone else (at its extreme, 'never with the same person twice'). Others don't want them to have casual sex, but..

Some people don't want their partner to have sex with men, others want it to be only with men, and some people don't care.

Some people have rules like 'other partners only when I'm with someone else / not in the same city / we're having a threesome (or moresome)' etc.

Some people place limits on the types of sex that are ok and, more relevant to here, some people are fine with their partner keeping quiet about what went on, while others want to know all the squelchy details.

To you, it's 'work'. To him, it sounds like it's a bit more than that.

If he's worried about you enjoying it physically - you might want to leave for the guy who can do that!! - then, if you've got some reviews, you could try showing them to him and telling him what it was really like: 'she came in seconds' is usually a review of acting, not reality...

See also the main SAAFE.info site for more Support And Advice For Escorts

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whu2005

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Violette

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xw5

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