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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: MGL69 on 28 August 2014, 04:47:19 pm
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Is it just me or are more and more guys asking for bareback? I swear my most of my clients now a days--and I only take ones with feedback--are requesting BB. Even the ones I meet for the first time. They just swear up and down they can get an sti check and pay extra but is there some reason men are becoming more bold? Honestly I really think they are uneducated about STIs in general and really think everything can be solved by a round of antibiotics. I don't do BB but I do OWO at my discretion and it's actually making me reconsider. I've seen clients who have sex all the time with me, other girls, other men and maybe their wives (but who are we kidding) and I just don't know if the risk outweighs the advantages anymore. They don't realise you can still catch an STI in the ten days between the test and results.If they are asking for BB from every girl they see how many say yes? Not only can you get STI's from OWO even if they look clean, you can get things like Strep too. What do you ladies think?
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It blows my mind the number of people who ask for bareback. I think there is a culture for bb across the board. The "reasons" offered for bb at work are the same as the ones given when I was 16. I think a lack of education is a big part of it. Is was aware of sti's before this work but had no idea about so much of the stuff I have learnt about from reai up on protection and safe sex. That info is easily accessible, if you want it, but most people don't think about it. I watch an awesome YouTube series by a Dr Doe, she's great. Have learnt so much.
I too currently offer owo and regularly think about going to ow. But ow results in me choking on the teet tip of the condom. I really can't do it. i just retch so much - not attractive at all.
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I'm not sure how either of you work or where you advertise, but I don't offer any unprotected services bar kissing and outside the usual TW text messages and suchlike I can't remember the last time I even got asked for OWO, let alone BB?
The only thing I occasionally get is some bloke who hasn't read my ads properly trying to do RO, but even then it's just a matter of politely pointing out I don't allow it and quickly moving on.
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I've noticed an increase in BB requests recently. The worry about HIV seems to be subsiding, a large part of the sexually active population already carries the herpes virus, and everything else is considered curable. Maybe not all guys know about the gonorrhea strain that doesn't respond to antibiotics? Maybe they don't care about potentially infecting their other halves? Beats me.... It's recently not just the freaky-deakies asking, but otherwise perfectly sensible men.
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I offer OWO and I haven't been asked for BB. I think maybe a couple of weeks ago someone sort of hinted - nothing direct. But, no. I am not asked for BB that I can remember.
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I think the reason why guys ask for BB is b'coz some girls are offering this at ?80 for 1hr( I won't mention which race their from but it's obvious).
The reason why I know this is because my clients have confronted me about it saying I charge too much at ?120 and I don't offer woo. But very girl is different
I only do owo with 2 of my regz who I know for years as I'm scared of these men who go to other escorts, where the girls see men who fuck other men and the thought of their dicks in my mouth... Well that's scary to me
But sex is being degraded now as girl offer everything at low prices and client see this as a bonus cos their cheap skates. A genuine client wouldn't ask for bb if he is health conscious.
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I only have 3 FAQ's on my profile, one is; "Do you do bareback?" My answer is; "No, NEVER".
But I still get asked at least once a day.... ::)
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People's ignorance about STIs just baffles me to be honest, especially when it's people who work in the sex industry!
Not only could someone catch an STI in the time between having the STI test and getting the results but you also have to wait 6 weeks for things like HIV and hepatitis to show up in a blood test. So for 6 weeks, someone could be unintentionally spreading HIV and hepatitis to other people. That's why when I see people saying 'I'm clean, I'm clean, I go to a GUM clinic regularly' it makes me SO angry. There is NEVER a guarantee that someone is clean, especially people who offer BB or people who ask for it. I don't like to judge people who do it, but personally I think it's incredibly selfish - they could unknowingly pass on a killable STI and destroy someone's life/kill them. I usually give a little lecture to people who ask for BB but I don't get asked often thank goodness, or my blood pressure would be through the roof.
Also, it's not just HIV that is permanent. There is no cure for Hepatitis A, most people recover from hepatitis B within a few months but if you get chronic hepatitis B you will have it forever and it will eventually kill you. The treatment for hepatitis C is only 50% effective. I got this info off the NHS website so please have a read.
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I advertise on adult work and I only see men with feedback I don't even take random calls. I have it listed on my profile I do not accept people asking me for it. They never used to and all of a sudden it seems they all want to try. I would never do this and like I said I don't even want to do RO or OWO for that matter. I stay in a high end area and keep myself nice and clean but it just baffles me too. One guy did mention some girls who if you pay extra go for it and he only asks girls who seem clean...I'm sure ;) But yeah I only advertise on Adultwork so I don't know what it is. Either way they get blocked and ignored just sucks when it's during a booking.
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Nadia123 I agree with you I've kept my prices high for that very reason. I want them to know I'm not desperate for them. And Alice842 It makes me laugh when men claim to be clean as if they can look and assume they can't give you anything. Just like they assume that about us. Anyways sorry for the rant it's just been making me mad lately I had to take a break for a few weeks.
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I'm not sure how either of you work or where you advertise, but I don't offer any unprotected services bar kissing and outside the usual TW text messages and suchlike I can't remember the last time I even got asked for OWO, let alone BB?
The only thing I occasionally get is some bloke who hasn't read my ads properly trying to do RO, but even then it's just a matter of politely pointing out I don't allow it and quickly moving on.
Maybe they accidentally ticked the bareback on aw like me once :D maybe they read the ad properly :P
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I think the reason why guys ask for BB is b'coz some girls are offering this at ?80 for 1hr( I won't mention which race their from but it's obvious).
The reason why I know this is because my clients have confronted me about it saying I charge too much at ?120 and I don't offer woo. But very girl is different
I only do owo with 2 of my regz who I know for years as I'm scared of these men who go to other escorts, where the girls see men who fuck other men and the thought of their dicks in my mouth... Well that's scary to me
But sex is being degraded now as girl offer everything at low prices and client see this as a bonus cos their cheap skates. A genuine client wouldn't ask for bb if he is health conscious.
It is offered thats why they ask and always lecture about the risks. It has nothing to do with the obvious race it is to do with persons beliefs etc. Some don't care offering bb. I have stumbled across white offering and maybe darker although have not seen. So race plays a part then?. It is more to do with the inner self personality. Or are we going on statistics?.
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Very rarely get asked on the phone but a few times I've been asked when they are actually here, older ones who moan about condoms but this year so far only 2 have asked and one I've blocked and the other was a reg who hinted at it but wasn't persistent so I still see him. I think a few who become regs think they might get it eventually.
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(I won't mention which race their from but it's obvious).
The human one, presumably.
Everyone has their own place on the risk-reward plane, and we all know that there are people from all ethnicities who, for whatever reason, are prepared to do BB for cash.
If it's not a choice you would make, as ever the best thing to do is stop worrying about people offering stuff you don't do. It really is as simple as that.
The reason why I know this is because my clients have confronted me about it saying I charge too much at ?120 and I don't offer woo. But very girl is different
Whatever you charge, there will be people telling you it's too much (oddly enough, it's never their ass for sale) but quite.
I only do owo with 2 of my regz who I know for years as I'm scared of these men who go to other escorts, where the girls see men who fuck other men and the thought of their dicks in my mouth... Well that's scary to me
If you offer different people different things on this basis, the main thing that will happen is that those who are seeing other escorts / bisexual won't tell you...
But sex is being degraded now as girl offer everything at low prices and client see this as a bonus cos their cheap skates.
Much of wider society would see sex as being degraded by anyone offering it for cash, no matter what the sum involved is!
Competing on price alone is pointless at best, because there will always be someone cheaper.
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I agree I've noticed an increase in bareback requests also had a male text me last night asking for bareback sex as he has only done it with his girlfriend and will pay double my rate for the two hours.
Why do the think double the money will make up for my health?
I never book anyone who asks or hints at bareback.
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Men who ask for bb are not thinking with their brain at all as their privates doesn't have one. This is my summary of why the bb do. The last talk with one was shocked in to reality agreeing with me.
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I have gotten to the stage where I have edited my profile to state that 'All requests for bareback will be ignored.' I won't even dignify with a response!!
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Iv been asked countless times for BB and only last night got asked.......Il fuck you with a condom but when im about to come I like to take it off and cum on the pussy can i do that?......short answer is no! He couldn't seem to understand why my answer was no and even said theres no risk other girls let me do it :o :FF
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I will never understand the confusion some fellas seem to face in putting them on
If you can handle putting your socks on, you can handle a condom
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Yes I've had a few in the past ask if they can come over my pussy. So they keep themselves nice and safe but still putting me at risk.
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Yes I've had a few in the past ask if they can come over my pussy. So they keep themselves nice and safe but still putting me at risk.
Exactly, the mind boggles