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Title: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Love.Sex.Dreams on 28 June 2020, 03:20:00 pm
So it seems since Covid hit, my best regular has gone off the rails. He used to book overnights every month at £2k per night, brought flowers, perfume, champagne and we always had a good time.

He went quiet then I reached out to him to just check since I know he worked he really long hours and kept his job when the virus hit. He replied to me and was normal at first saying he missed me and bought me some lingerie but soon after, he sent a barrage of messages talking about Judaism, 20 texts messages in 30min, really long. He seems to have become a religious extremist. I didn't reply to any of it.

He then sent me a link to a YouTube channel he created and on it he has uploaded close to 30videos that are hours long. In these videos he is ranting and cursing about religion and how everyone else will go to hell, whilst standing close to traffic wearing a weird cultish gown. He has tattoos on his arms (he is polynesian) and we used to smoke weed together and in the videos he denounces tattoos and drugs saying he wants to cut his arms off as he has touched bad things and drugs, also because he has tattoos. I really don't recognise him anymore even though his physical appearance hasn't changed.

He mentioned in these vids that he was diagnosed with psychotic depression and has stopped taking his meds because they are evil. He had never mentioned his mental illness to me prior. I have seen clients with depression or anxiety but the psychosis feature of this guy's illness is something that is not to be taken so lightly. Considering the way he was denouncing drugs and tattoos, why would he think so highly of me to want to see me again and have a normal booking given I am a prostitute and not an angel?

Would you see this guy again? He wants to come back in July


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Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Cass on 28 June 2020, 03:27:42 pm
Definitely not, he sounds very unstable.
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Mirror on 28 June 2020, 03:29:30 pm
Is it normal to keep in touch with him, it's your words 'reached out' and the involvement.

If someone sent me the stuff you mention I would be incredibly wary of seeing him again.

Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Miffy on 28 June 2020, 03:29:56 pm
I’d have blocked once he started the barrage of messages about Judaism, which I am assuming were antisemitic.

For you own sanity, block him and don’t look back.
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Cat_BBW on 28 June 2020, 04:48:41 pm
Nope, No, no way. Psychosis is a complex individual illness that can be managed with the right treatments and people do often "find" religion when they have a big or initial episode. However, this guy isn't taking his meds and is behaving erratically. In a booking he could do ANYTHING to cleanse you of your "bad things". I wouldn't see him again. I wouldn't respond to any more messages. You're busy in July. And forever.
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: ana30 on 28 June 2020, 05:15:17 pm
I would cut of completely. An English escort was killed by a regular client on an overnight last year in Croydon. He had seen her for a whole year and that night he suffered a psychotic episode. He told the police he doesn't know why he did it, they were having a great time that night then  "heard voices in his head" and killed her. For no reason. Again: Stay away from people with psychotic episodes, specially when mixed with drugs. Very dangerous combo.

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Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Kay on 28 June 2020, 05:25:41 pm
Fuck, no! If he's psychotic and stopped taking his meds you need to steer clear - his videos sound alarming to say the least.
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: GucciGang on 28 June 2020, 08:57:31 pm
No don’t see him again for your own safety. You can make that 2k a month of hour bookings. You have been lucky to find all this out and have the power to walk away.
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: saltysweet on 28 June 2020, 09:09:34 pm
No not for any money. I know of two escorts who were murdered by mentally ill clients who presented as 'normal'. Both at hotels. They didn't give a shit about witnesses or CCTV. At least yours is giving you the big red screaming sirens.
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: northernstar on 28 June 2020, 09:45:08 pm
Nope. You don’t wanna sit through an overnight listening to this or sit on pins and needles worrying he starts.

BTW, how did it all end up with your landlady?
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Sarah81 on 29 June 2020, 11:43:42 am
Absolutely bloody not. Stay well clear.
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: denise96 on 29 June 2020, 06:09:31 pm
Omgg.. no way!!
 All the money in the world doesn't matter if the guy it's mentally unstable... i used to see a guy that i think he had problems but don't know for sure, and all the times we were in hotels and he acted really paranoid (i knew he's on drugs) but he acted more weirder than other people on drugs and i have decided not to see him never again. Safety first xx
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Croissant on 29 June 2020, 06:19:01 pm
NO!! do not see him please! its likely he will get better once things resume and he gets some help or is back on his meds and will get back in touch with you!
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: ana30 on 29 June 2020, 07:12:19 pm
No not for any money. I know of two escorts who were murdered by mentally ill clients who presented as 'normal'. Both at hotels. They didn't give a shit about witnesses or CCTV. At least yours is giving you the big red screaming sirens.

THIS.
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: ChloeClouds on 29 June 2020, 07:18:25 pm
Wow... Very scary. To be completely honest, I'm not sure why you'd need to ask others wether or not you should see him. I don't think this needs much thought at all really... Block all methods of contact - for your own safety. He's openly admitted to having psychosis. [removed]
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Love.Sex.Dreams on 01 July 2020, 01:23:54 am
Wow... Very scary. To be completely honest, I'm not sure why you'd need to ask others wether or not you should see him. I don't think this needs much thought at all really... Block all methods of contact - for your own safety. He's openly admitted to having psychosis. [removed]

Yeah, I kinda feel stupid for asking on here. When I read my post back I'm like, duhh  :o .... Thank you all
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Love.Sex.Dreams on 01 July 2020, 01:33:02 am

BTW, how did it all end up with your landlady?

Hey, thanks for asking. I didn't get kicked out. I bet her rents have dried up like you said in the other thread. She just ignores me so the lease is automatically going to become a periodic agreement after 6 July, which gives me more power in the sense that she would need to give me a 90 day notice to vacate. I will leave soon though, too stressed. Been getting weird clients lately, I need to work on myself for a while, seems I am attracting mentally ill/rude people and it's really stressing me. Haven't been taking care of myself. Gym was closed and I ate a lot of junk food during lockdown. Kinda dealing with anxiety around clients. It suddenly hit me that I don't know these men or what they are capable of  :o
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Mirror on 01 July 2020, 01:11:53 pm
Hey, thanks for asking. I didn't get kicked out. I bet her rents have dried up like you said in the other thread. She just ignores me so the lease is automatically going to become a periodic agreement after 6 July, which gives me more power in the sense that she would need to give me a 90 day notice to vacate. I will leave soon though, too stressed. Been getting weird clients lately, I need to work on myself for a while, seems I am attracting mentally ill/rude people and it's really stressing me. Haven't been taking care of myself. Gym was closed and I ate a lot of junk food during lockdown. Kinda dealing with anxiety around clients. It suddenly hit me that I don't know these men or what they are capable of  :o

Yes I recognise the build up, which is so draining and energy sapping. As soon as I realise I am in one of these holes, I have a good 'sort out' not always easy but makes everything a lot easier. So easy to let guard down then suddenly it's almost every booking.
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Love.Sex.Dreams on 01 July 2020, 03:58:34 pm
Yes I recognise the build up, which is so draining and energy sapping. As soon as I realise I am in one of these holes, I have a good 'sort out' not always easy but makes everything a lot easier. So easy to let guard down then suddenly it's almost every booking.

Thanks Mirror, what does your "sort out" involve? I know I definitely have to stop having wine with every booking and hit the gym for a start
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Funkymonkey on 02 July 2020, 11:39:03 am
As much as I want to say psychotic individuals are not the axe murdering maniacs films and media portray, if he isn’t on his meds that’s not good at all. Hopefully if he’s sending this stuff to other people who know him personally they can get him some help. You are well shot of him
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Mirror on 04 July 2020, 12:55:26 pm
Thanks Mirror, what does your "sort out" involve? I know I definitely have to stop having wine with every booking and hit the gym for a start

More or less instilling boundaries, confronting the issues - which might be a build up of overruns, a lot of contact between bookings, what I call 'faffing' around (myself or individual clients), just get everything back on a straight footing.

Stopping answering any SMS text enquiries as I have posted previously had an effect, doesn't mean I don't answer now. Just had an astounding effect at the time, also changing to outcall only for while for other life reasons rather than to have a clear out. Ok some perfectly nice clients could no longer book, and business was quiet for a while but because it was an unrelated decision that was absolutely fine and expected.

Definitely step back look at whatever is draining, sort it out and have good work/life boundaries = have your own time off. No need to even say it's a day off, only that you are 'busy'. Completely and utterly true.
Title: Re: Client's behaviour worrying/erratic, would you see
Post by: Love.Sex.Dreams on 04 July 2020, 01:22:19 pm
As much as I want to say psychotic individuals are not the axe murdering maniacs films and media portray, if he isn’t on his meds that’s not good at all. Hopefully if he’s sending this stuff to other people who know him personally they can get him some help. You are well shot of him

I studied Psychology for a bit and I agree with what you say here Funky. Not all of them are capable of being murderers/serial killers but it's unpredictable and not worth the risk....... Yes, I hope his friends/family intervene. He was a really good client before. Almost too good to be true.