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DBlondie

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Men who do not come
« on: 26 June 2016, 09:23:12 am »
I have noticed that quite a few men who do not come at all, even during two hours.

We spend time in the bath, talking, stroking, kissing.  They spend ages going down on me and are very much interested in making me come.

But no matter how long I give oral sex or we have intercourse, they will not come.  They don't seem to be bothered by it either.

Am I doing something wrong?   They seem happy enough and i always get a 'thank you' email saying what an amazing time they had.
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BibiofLeeds

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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #1 on: 26 June 2016, 09:54:22 am »
Some men struggle to come through oral or sex,sometimes it can be down to medication they are on (viagra is one example).With younger guys it can be because they wank over porn too much and so are used to the death grip of their hand.Sometimes men also wank before a punt to help them last longer and it can have a damaging effect.Other reasons can be that they have had a drink or they have been on illegal drugs.
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ladyofthemansion

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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #2 on: 26 June 2016, 09:55:58 am »
Or diabetes or they try to hold it then lose it.
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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #3 on: 26 June 2016, 09:58:51 am »
No, why would you think it's something you are doing wrong?! It can be psychological reasons on their part, erectile dysfunction etc I get this on a weekly basis.
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Willow Summers

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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #4 on: 26 June 2016, 11:06:49 am »
I thought the same thing recently. I have a regular who never cums! I really thought it was me, but he also seemed anxious. So one day i just asked him. He said he was really anxious but loved our time together. I dont offer massage as a service but i suggested that we try it next time to see if it helps relax him.
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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #5 on: 26 June 2016, 01:07:16 pm »
There can be various reasons everything from nerves to medication to just not being used to being pleasured by somebody else. I've met a couple of guys who didn't have sex for a long time so they kind of develop their routine and get comfortable with getting themselves off with it. When they are with somebody else they do different things in these situations I find it best to start slow and work them up to stuff. Ask them what they want you to do for them though sometimes they can be difficult when it comes to knowing what they want. With one guy I stripped for him and touched myself while he had a wank it seemed to get him in the mood enough that by the time I started touching him he was into it though sometimes they kinda get going and it fizzles out. Can always try a massage or something to start off so there isn't instant pressure on them to get it up.
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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #6 on: 28 June 2016, 10:16:09 pm »
This is entirely normal don't worry it could be for a number of reasons but I guarantee that it's nothing to do with you or the service you provide.
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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #7 on: 28 June 2016, 10:30:03 pm »
Luckily, I had only one since starting.  Mind you, I am a low volume escort.  Didn't like it.  Glad, so far he hadn't try to book me again. Yes, health issues, stress, guilt, heavy porn use... Or all of the above  ;D forget about it.  Their problem. 
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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #8 on: 01 July 2016, 06:24:32 pm »
I have a few regs who are like that. Some say ahead of time that it's an issue (because of some health problem or meds) and some just try to ignore it. It's unlikely to be something you're doing. Just be careful not to put too much pressure on them to come and it'll be fine in the end. They already know it's an issue for them and they'll still be happy with the session.
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DBlondie

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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #9 on: 01 July 2016, 07:32:50 pm »
Thank you for the advice, they do re-book so I must be doing something right  ;)

Gentleman mentioned it was his jetlag and as my clientele is mostly American business men, that makes total sense.
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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #10 on: 01 July 2016, 11:10:39 pm »
I had one of these today. Twenty mins before the end of a looong booking I wanted to end ON TIME, I just said:
'Right then, how are we going to sort this then?'
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Emma_C

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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #11 on: 02 July 2016, 07:08:48 am »
lol I say similar aswell shewolf, "what can I do to make you climax"? I sometimes offer a free pin for my private gallery to have a wank over later but they can never seem to work out how to use it.
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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #12 on: 02 July 2016, 09:11:40 am »
If I sense this is going to happen, i grab their hand and put it in their privates and say show me how u do it whilst ur browsing AW, then I go for nipples and talk dirty, some men have a pyschological barrier and some are on meds x
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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #13 on: 02 July 2016, 01:11:31 pm »
Quote from: Chatterly on 02 July 2016, 07:08:48 am
lol I say similar aswell shewolf, "what can I do to make you climax"? I sometimes offer a free pin for my private gallery to have a wank over later but they can never seem to work out how to use it.

He looked at me with sort of mock horror and amusement. I just couldn't be tactful anymore.
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Re: Men who do not come
« Reply #14 on: 29 July 2016, 11:02:45 pm »
Had one of these today! He turned up super stressed from work so I gave him a run down massage lots of teasing and kissing. He was one of those who it clearly happens to a lot and he was getting stressed out about it. I feel so helpless cos the more they stress about it the harder it is to get it up! I was literally a breath away from saying 'shall I just roll you a joint?' Poor guy was so stressed I hope I can help more next time.
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