i had something similar happen to me ( not being outed as such as i couldnt give a flying fuck) but  i had to change my website overnight to different domain name the lot  my webmaster did it for me in 48 hours and i have cms  and its brill as i can do all my changes myself  i log in through my blog and do it all there and the only thing i cant do is change add picture  and banner links ect
 

Well so far I've always had same day response from this guy and often within the hour! As it is he has  updated my website within an hour of me mailing him and also added some blurs for the ones I did not have blurred copies of.

I take on board what you say though that it is possible he could just vanish. I did think of getting CMS but that is extra money lol. Also, as you know I am not very tech savvy when it comes to these things?

I would not like to waste my money on something I cannot do/use. For example, I have a basic picasa photo editing  programme  but I have no idea how to use  it to blur my face !

I suppose  being my own webmaster would be useful in terms  of instant access foe updating stuff like location and availability. Food for thought..........

That depends entirely up to you. If blurring your face is the only change you've done in the last 6 months and you rarely make any web changes maybe there's no need for investing in CMS. If you like to change pictures frequently, or updates, or post touring info etc... Then you will definately need it. In my case I update my web with new content, pics etc.. every month (as well as change backgrounds & colours). I've noticed  that it keeps the guys" interested". The stats tell me that I get double the hits than when it was a static web. But that's just me, i know of a lot of people who rarely update their website and do pretty well.

How much dose he want to charge you   -    my  website cost me 150 inc cms and  
 

Well so far I've always had same day response from this guy and often within the hour! As it is he has  updated my website within an hour of me mailing him and also added some blurs for the ones I did not have blurred copies of.

I take on board what you say though that it is possible he could just vanish. I did think of getting CMS but that is extra money lol. Also, as you know I am not very tech savvy when it comes to these things?

I would not like to waste my money on something I cannot do/use. For example, I have a basic picasa photo editing  programme  but I have no idea how to use  it to blur my face !

I suppose  being my own webmaster would be useful in terms  of instant access foe updating stuff like location and availability. Food for thought..........

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if your going to do it yourself then just  copy and save all the text you have on your website  ( it will save you a lot of time having to rewrite everthing later on)
it dosnt matter what everyone else says that cms shouldnt be chargeable -   if he want to charge you for it he can  if he is the one looking after your website

do you own the domain name  ie  was it you that bought it it from, somewhere like 123 reg  or did he buy it for you
if it was him then  its probably registered to him anyway  so techically he owns the website name   so  he  do what he wants with it   ie  he can easily do a runner  or just lose interest and there would be nothing you could do anyway  ( (this happend to me)

My website is very recent and the photos so don't think I need any updates on it. The blur  thing is the only recent change yes.

My concern now is that everyone is telling  me that I should be able to have CMS access for free but the webmaster who built it is wanting to charge me for this?

 I have no idea how to get out of this. It is very tempting to copy or rather paraphrase Emily's take on it lol but not sure how well that would go down! Oh dear  

All I saw was professional website for 150. That is what the guy who designed it quoted me and that is what I paid.
Now , all of a sudden he wants another 100 quid for the CMS.

I reckon, that as I have now asked him to blur my photos he is is playing  the damsel in distress will pay to get CMS  blah blah. Cynical? Moi?

Oh and Paris, did you say that CMS was included but you cannot change photos or add banner links?

I am just double checking that is correct because i am absolutely even less inclined to give him anything if I won't even be able to chnage photos/add links banners???

Hi,

The  thing is that I already have my website up and running. I have already paid someone to build it. But the problem  is that for me to have control and cms the guy who built it  wants to charge me to have the CMS. there is nothing to say that this should be the case online.

It does state quite clearly on his site he charges extra for a cms.

My concern now is that everyone is telling  me that I should be able to have CMS access for free but the webmaster who built it is wanting to charge me for this?

I think this is getting a bit confused, Emily suggested with the amount of free scripts out there, anybody with a bit of knowledge can if they wish to build a free cms. In saying that, there is nothing stopping anybody building a CMS and charging for it. At the end of the day, while I agree its a bit steep, your webmaster makes his fees clear, and its up to you if you choose to pay for the services he offers.

The 150 pounds is a one off payment . Not per year. Everything else he  has done has been for free.
The cms is also a one off fee. I own the domain name yes.

Paris, that is my point about paying for the cms lol. I would not be able to change the photos or banners and would need my webmaster anyway to do it.

I was just concerned by people's comments that he could just disappear/ do a runner and I would not be eble to contact him!

At the moment, I have the same arrangement as you. I email him and he changes it pretty sharpish on the day!



Going back to the being outed concern, Mr double standards has changed his tune. He now says he will not tell my family but if I  continue with my foolhardy decision then he will have to cut his ties. He says it has nothing to do with sexual jealousy or anything but merely because he cares and it would be too painful.

Oh and he tried to scaremonger me by saying that what I wish to do is high risk and I could end up dead! He said plenty of prosies end up dead or injured and he  doesnot wish to be the one to get the phone calls.

Hmmmmm no I have not thought any of that through myself! Nevermind, at least he has backed down with the threats and even if he does do it then I will just deny anything as people have suggested....

The only way to find my website is to know about AW or another escort advertising site or this forum.

Your website is at the top of some (admittedly specific) Google searches:
http://www.google.co.uk/webhp?hl=en#hl=en&q=%22rubber+and+pvc%22+escort+%22Barnet+Herts%22&fp=1

And your AW profile is the fourth result for 'barnet hertfordshire bisexual escort'

Could a mutual friend have searched for that, recognised you and told this guy?